Four Domains Practices

PRACTICES, ACTIONS, CONVERSATIONS IN THE FOUR DOMAINS

CHOOSE! CREATE!

What you do becomes you.

What you say becomes you.

Since you get to choose what you do and what you say, you get to choose who you become.

The BuddhaKahuna

Notice that one does not become great or as good as you want to be in some giant leap or even through just sheer genius or ability. You become what you become gradually, and only through doing and saying those things that lead toward what you want to become. There is no magic secret - and there is no difficulty, as we can all do it - no exceptions.

The Buddhakahuna

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Do more of those practices in any domain and you will grow more into that domain. Habits can make things automatic and easy. Hopefully, you’ll practice the ones in the progressive domains.

Print this and put a checkmark on each of the items you do and which you'd like to do less of and circle those ones you'd like to do more of. Then commit to practicing the right ones until you get it right. (If you share and acknowledge what you are doing with an advisor or counselor, then your progress will speed up.

We start in one domain and then we must progress through the next. If these were named, it would look like this:

I. Apathy, helplessness --> II. Reactivity, immaturity --> III. Learning, growing --> IV. Growing Mastery

Hell --> Earth --> Exploring --> Heaven on earth

Your choice...

DOMAIN II. REACTIVITY, IMMATURITY

“Earth”

I am still the victim of circumstances, people.

I am still a child or adolescent.

Judge, Blame

Tell stories and believe them

Attack, bully, use anger, rage

Punish self and others

Blame, resent

Envy, feel guilty, feel remorse, get jealous

Control others, rather than cooperate

Seek approval/validation from others (to be ok)

Uses immediate escape from discomfort (substances,

distractions) instead of healthy relaxation, breathing,

calming strategies

Perfection (instead of “good enough”)

If try to learn and overcome barriers, stops, wanders or

does it partially, still hoping for rescue

Get worked up, panic (without interrupting or

managing)

Mispredict what will make one happy (haven’t learned

yet)

Envy

“How I feel is conditional upon…”

“I’ll be happy when…”

Defensive: attack

Blame,

Attack, sometimes flee

Fix others, who are also to blame for things not

working

Little or no “life” learning, except by chance in normal flow of life or, if starts, allows short term to distract and stop.

Health hazards: Stress, diet, low exercise usually

Punishment, used to "motivate" self or others

Pay thousands of times for a mistake

DOMAIN IV. GROWING, MASTERY

“Heaven, on earth”

I am the creator, cause of my life.

Compassionate, non-judgment, non-criticism

Roles: Leader, role model, Chief Energy Officer

Life is just the way it is.

You are it, no other person will save you,

independently strong.

I complete things.

I use truth impeccably speak progress, not speak untruth, stories, or reasons why I am stuck

“Try” doesn’t exist.

No need to compete.

I express awe and wonder (good part of child view)

Accept self way I am, everybody is, world is

Never any judgment

Things are neutral and very usable, appreciate them

I cease believing in my created personality

I see and have defined who I am

My word, my intent runs life

I am fully aware of the wonder of the body, mind, and

how all that works.

I rely only on truth.

I am aware of all consequences.

I have mastered my attention, instead of letting my

belief system rule from a weak will or letting

anything catch my attention

I live, love, without fear

I realize I have the ultimate power of intent, power of

belief to create what I want.

I know that every negative word creates a body

chemical effect, so I cease the negative

I have gained power of will, to direct my attention and

my life.

I respect and have unconditional love for my self.

I am the force. I need no other force to be with me. I

am the manifestation of that force.

I am healthily skeptical and listen well.

I have faith in myself and heed my instincts, to use

with my higher brain’s reasoning power

I believe in and practice Absolute Authenticity

I trust that, “overall”, things are going to be just fine,

and that life becomes easy.

I love my self unconditionally.

I create my own dreams

DOMAIN I. APATHY, HELPLESSNESS

Hell

Inaction, relief form discomfort rule this domain.

Avoidant

Flight, seldom attack

Stuck in avoidance

Repeated problems over and over

Don’t try

Depend on substances and addictions to

relieve discomfort

Inadequate exercise

Passive “activities” - tv, internet wandering

DOMAIN III. LEARNING, GROWING

“Exploring”

Questioning, learning, seeking rule this domain.

I question beliefs and perceptions.

I correct and re-form beliefs.

I aggressively re-write self talk (comfort, coping,

support statements). I install them until they are

automatic.

I read inspiring items

I read my affirmations, stands, values

I attempt to speak only positively, progressively

I don’t tell stories (except good ones) and I have

banned them from my life.

I speak with respect.

All mistakes, experiences of fear are written and

examined for what can be learned.

I immediately halt all negative thinking

I give my self approval, acknowledgement

I celebrate my self and my doing as often as I can.

I complete the homework given my coach

I set goals and decide what things I want.

I lay out and clarify my values.

I reveal appropriately who I am.

I am authentic, without pretense or masks

I am around positive, supportive, aligned people. At

the very least I am with those who are attempting to

grow. gradually also adding the "higher" oriented

people .

I follow regularly a full exercise program.

I renew my self, I sleep fully and completely.

I relax, breathe in the moment; I don’t let tension

continue at all, and I stay aware enough to spot it.

I do the difficult, hard, boring maintenance activities,

do them promptly, as they must be done anyway.

Notes on this side (I and II)

These are the domains we are in when gossiping

I have many erroneous belief. I leave them unexamined and uncorrected. I do not install new better beliefs.

I believe my stories as if they are the truth. (The

person hasn’t learned that stories are just

made up.

People on this side believe that their perception is correct, not knowing that there are lots of things that throw off perception and that perception is not the truth.

Unreal about the world, make up, don’t see the filter/lens

As victims, they are run by:

Looking good, approval

Right/wrong, good/bad (already “know”)

Blame, low responsibility

Mask feelings and self, pretend to be what you are not

Knowledge threaten their feelings

Pride, perfection

Fear

Roles

Victim, see subroles below:

Victim (more so in Quad I), fear-child (someone

else has the power, Judge, critic,

Poor me

Helpless

Carry the past, victim of past, repeat stories of the past, especially as explanation of why they are as they are (i.e. as an excuse)

Notes on the right side (III and IV)

Beliefs: Examined for truth, corrected (in IV) or actively correcting (in III0

Respect and no judgment = peace

On this side, they attempt to follow Fifth Agreement, to supplement the Four Agreements, which are two books by Don Miguel Ruiz. I’d also recommend the Four Agreements Companion Book.