Check off each of these truths you agree with or question
So what do these truth and realities mean in my life?
CHECK OFF EACH OF THESE TRUTHS: AGREE, QUESTION
If you agree, put a check mark (or an “A”) in front of the truth. If you question it, put a “Q” in front of it – and then find out from a knowledgeable person in some form why this is true. Do not proceed forward with trying to improve your life until these are understood and accepted, for these are the pathway to change.
If you're working with a coach, copy what is below and past it into a document and complete it and send it to your coach. Your coach cannot proceed efffectively until he knows that you have a solid basis, a foundation, for building the mechanism for you to achieve what you truly want.
___You have all the basic elements it takes :
___ Ability to learn
___ Ability to reason and use logic
___ Ability to deal with and solve problems
___ Awareness, to discern what feels good or bad
___ To get the full benefit of the basic abilities, you must develop them.
(Through training and enhancement activities. ___ They will not "somehow" grow.)
___ YOU ARE THE ONE WHO CHOOSES - ONLY YOU. Nothing else chooses for you, not circumstance, not people, not your past.
___ Your thoughts are just thoughts, with no power unless given power, just data.
___ Your feelings (emotions) are solely the results of your thoughts/beliefs.
___ Events are neutral. They do not cause feelings. Only our thought about the event does so.
___ You choose your own beliefsthoughts, once you have reasoning power.
___ No person from the past nor any event from the past controls you or leaves you with
anything you cannot change.
___ You are not stuck with untrue beliefs.
___ You cannot be fully happy until you've adequately "completed" the alteration and installation of
true, workable beliefs
___ This takes alot of work for most people, but it is absolutely the highest possible payoff of
anything you can do.
___ Stopping bad thoughts is helpful, but not at all sufficient. There must be a supply of "good
___ YOU ARE FULLY RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL THAT OCCURS. You made a choice, a result occurred, and now you are the one who choose the response, what to do.
___ YOU ARE THE ONLY CAUSAL AGENT. (You chose to be where you were, and you got to experience whatever was there. Yes, other things happen to you given where you are, but you are the cause thereafter.) You are not entitled, will not be rescued, and hope that something will happen by luck or good fortune is not productive.
___ YOU DON’T KNOW UNTIL YOU KNOW – People fault themselves for unskillful or unknowledgeable actions, but it simply means they need to learn and pay attention to those signs (unsuccess is the sign).
___ YOU MUST PAY A PRICE FOR EVERYTHING – Purchase well; determine the worth and if the price is less, and then do what gives you the greatest gain.
___ IN ORDER TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, YOU MUST BE CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT.
___ WITHOUT A PLAN/DESIGN, YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET MUCH OF WHAT YOU WANT.
___ IF YOU LEARN TO AND DO SELECT WELL, YOU WILL ACHIEVE A GREAT LIFE - You can't do everything, but you can do all that is of the top value.
SO WHAT DO THESE TRUTHS AND REALITIES MEAN IN MY LIFE?
Basically, they just mean you have enough capability to create a great life and that you are the sole creator, not your circumstances or other people.
Once you fully agree with all of these, you can't blame how you are on your past, you can't be a victim of your whims and/or appetites, and you can't hold yourself as inferior or incapable. All you can do is choose and act. All you can do is recognize that you are responsible anyway, so there is no point in trying to avoid it. You are powerful - and you exhibit that to the extent that you so choose.
There is no escape from these realities, so all that is left is to accept them and act accordingly in your life.
You have what it takes - and you've got to use that to learn more and develop those core capabilities. Yes, you do not know how to do everything that would serve you, but it only takes choosing to learn and train in order to get to that level.
Sufficient mastery of life is something you are fully capable of. There is no truth to the "but due to... I just can't make it, be ok, be successful, be good enough, etc. and etc." You simply are capable of getting all you want to. Now it is just up to you to choose that - and stop making any excuses for not doing it, nor do you need to be stopped by fears if you "follow the path".
YOU ARE FULLY CAPABLE OF CREATING A HAPPY LIFE
After our simple basic needs for food, clothing, and shelter are met: "Right now, at this very moment, we have a mind, which is all the basic equipment we need to achieve complete happiness."
The Dalai Lama in The Art Of Happiness.