FIRST MAKE THESE DECISIONS FOR YOUR LIFE
FOR THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE WILL DEPEND ON THOSE DECISIONS
Make a choice, one way or the other. It will determine the quality of your life!
An answer "in between" means you are leaving in place, on purpose, a portion of the negative. Enter a checkmark if you've decided to do "100% (to the best of your capabilities) or enter into the right column a checkmark or the percentage at which you will live this particular item.
DECIDE THESE OR CHOOSE THESE
__ I hereby decide the following: __ Not to decide, leave it up to chance.
__ To be happy is an absolute decision, above all else __ No, this is not a must that I will decide on
__ To be 100% responsible for my life __ No, ___% is enough
Part I. No "syndrome" of right/wrong
__ To have no complaining __ Complaining is too valuable. I will keep it.
__ To have no explanatory stories as to why __ But I must repeat this, as it explains why I'm stuck
__ To do no faulting, no criticism of myself, others __ To continue this form of manipulation
__ To not engage in right/wrong, only criterion __ I'll make others or myself wrong, and I get to enjoy
is what works vs. what doesn't work "being right"
Part II. Clear objectives, clear plans
__ Set clear objectives of what I really want in life __ Rely on vagueness and allow wandering and getting less
__ To set deep happiness/satisfaction in life __ To not specify this and let life just happen
as my #1 goal
__ All else has to adjust for this
__ Set a clear "LifePlan" on how to achieve them. __ Too much work, I'll just let life happens as it goes...
__ Set clear guidelines for life; standards, rules __ To let it be random, redecide (using up lots of energy
and making lots more "mistakes"
Part III. Assuring my power (or choose to be weak?)
__ To build and live a life of self-control __ I'll let other forces and people determine my life
__ To build life enhancing habits, as build __ To let life harming habits continue to be automatic
a "muscle", to make life easier and relatively and determinate of my life, to feel bad about that
effortless in addition to the other damage
__ To understand and accept human nature __ To let my instincts and lower brain determine my life
as a reality, but never as an excuse and to not learn how to manage my human nature.
__ To be super clear on the payoffs versus __ To not be clear on what is worth it for the long term,
the costs, so not feel not worth it just let short term whims and gratifications rule.
__ To have complete self sufficiency __ Dependency on others to "do for me", rescue me,
provide approval (and to take things personally)
__ To be sure I "fill up" my emotional tank __ To let the tank run on low, causing emotional friction
with sufficient satisfying and truly enjoyable to diminish the quality of my life experience, and also
activities. to let short term gratification determine my life
__ To do what it takes to have excellent health __ To allow less health, less energy, less self of well-being,
earlier death and fewer good years near the end.
__ Allow overweight, high B/P, bad sugar metabolism
__ To do what it takes to live virtually __ To not manage this in my life and to suffer the
stress free days body damage and emotional damage to myself & others
__ To assure full rejuvenation times __ I'll just store it up and not recuperate.
Part IV. Creating sufficient wisdom and understanding for me to be effective in life
__ To learn how my body and mind work __ To get tidbits here/there, but keep some ignorance
__ To learn how to manage them and then __ To not do what it takes to manage these well.
actually implement that managing.
__ To learn what is the most effective things __ To learn randomly and/or at a lower effectiveness
to learn in terms of payoffs, and when to in terms of payoff for my time
shift to something else when reached "enough"
__ To learn that I am "ahead", rather than __ To always being in the question of there being
"sacrificing", as I reap the benefits while a higher payoff than the "price", to know it
in the process of enhancing my capabilities is not "sacrifice", but a net gain in life.
__ To observe what works or doesn't work __ To pay attention only occasionally and to let
to have me be the best version of myself what doesn't work continue
and to correct it quickly and often
__ To learn how far to go in harvesting one area, __ Don't switch, keep on doing something even though
switching to others when they have more the extra payoff is not as high as another
life payoff in them per amount of effort alternative
__ To actually "complete" what is necessary __ To leave alot of things undone, with lots of wasted
__ To learn I "can't do it all" and must be __ To try to do it all, be dissatisfied with not getting
intelligent in deciding my choice. it all and to not make well-considered choices.
__ To learn that I make my choices __ To be fearful of not getting what I want and
within abundance, way above what is to have that fear be indiscrimately large when
needed to be happy. it really is small stuff if put "in perspective"
__ To learn to delete all that is a distraction, __ To let whatever pops up and/or to do things
low payoffs, nonproductive side trips and randomly, feeling a sense of not making any progress,
to focus only on a few vital high payoff low payoffs, wasted time (what happened to my
items per time available time?).
If you do the 100% commitment to the 100% responsibility columns (where you will still incur mistakes and a few failures), I guarantee you a life of deep happiness and satisfaction. This is "the stuff" that creates that deep happiness and satisfaction. This is no secret nor anything mysterious and magical, but it is what is effective in life. The rest is just a bunch of details.
You have more than enough time to live this way. In fact, if you live this way, you'll have more time.
If you choose to live this way, your life will not be a matter of a small 8 oz. glass being half-full (4 oz. of life), but an expanded capacity for having the energy and focus to create a much better life, with a 64 oz. glass, 90% full (for 58 oz. of life, where the extra 10% is no big deal, as we have "more than enough).
Note: Success in any area, other than occasional luck, is due to implementing the same principles. However, if you implement them only in certain areas at too great a cost to others, you will not be successful in what matters the most: deep happiness and satisfaction in life. And then you will have blown the game, blown the one chance you have been given...
Lock this down! You cannot afford to be less than definite!