ALCOHOL AND RELATIONSHIPS
UNDERSTANDING THE EFFECTS AND CORRECTING THEM
MYTHS AND REALITIES
Some people justify drinking alcohol because it "relaxes" them, and because it is "normal". But what it does actually is make them stupid and dysfunctional, to varying degrees.
They fail to realize that there are better strategies for relaxing, ones that work far better and have no harm.
When ttwo good people get together but later have relationship problems, it is imperative that we look for the causes and for anything that exacerbates the problems.
And surely a person who is impaired with alcohol does not do as good a job of relating as an aware, alert person would. The control center in the cortex is impaired (see Alcohol, Health, Happiness, And Relationships) so that the person cannot carry out a task as well as one might wish to be.
Furthermore, it can throw off one's health and affect one's long term mood, both of which affect how one can function in a relationship.
SOME "SIDE EFFECTS"
In confusion, the drinking person will often fall into blame and anger, because they are not geting what they want from the relationship but thinking that it is the other person who is the cause of that. Often they will get irritated at what is normally pretty good but never perfect behavior of the other person.
The person drinking will have lower energy and be less active and responsive. Not good!
HOW MUCH DOES IT TAKE?
Even one glass every day is an addiction. Dependence on anything to relax is inappropriate if it carries any harm with it. (Addictions)
If one's partner thinks that one drinks too much, one should listen to that partner - and, to put it bluntly, stop drinking.
I repeat, if your relationship is not going well, you must, if you're to be in integrity, stop drinking immediately!
And... you should consider other Lifestyle changes.