ABOUT THE PROCESS OF FEAR
IN QUICK OUTLINE FORM


This is what is to be scanned for the general idea of something.

Excerpted from The Underlying Basics of Life, Part I: (You should read all of Part I.)

FEARLESS LIVING CAN BE CREATED

ONCE WE UNDERSTAND THAT THERE IS “ENOUGH” AND THAT THE “MADE-UPS” HAVE ONLY CREATED FALSE-FEARS, THEN WE CAN BE VIRTUALLY FEAR-FREE.


OUR CHILDHOOD WIRING PLUS YEARS OF MADE-UP SUPPORTING EVIDENCE


                                                                           AS AN ADULT                                         



 








Power = the ability to do something.  It doesn’t mean force and it doesn’t mean charisma or the ability to cause people to do things.  It is just the ability to do things, such as feed yourself and house yourself.  It has nothing to do with comparing yourself with others as to powerfulness – that is pure “made-up” and a toxic game we’ve imposed on ourselves, part of the false comparison routine.  

AS CHILDREN, WE BELIEVE WE MUST BE LOVED , SINCE WE ARE, LEGITIMATELY, POWERLESS AND DEPENDENT ON THE BIG PEOPLE.  

Actually, we don’t really need to be loved in the general meaning of the word.  We only need someone to care enough or feel enough obligation to take care of a child.

WE WERE WIRED THAT SURVIVAL MEANT WE HAD TO BE LOVED BY OUR CAREGIVERS.
   
      BUT WE’VE GREATLY GENERALIZED IT
                FROM CAREGIVERS TO MANY MORE PEOPLE AND
                FROM LOVE TO GETTING APPROVAL (OR NOT GETTING DISAPPROVAL).


ALMOST ALL OF OUR FEARS ARE FALSELY CONNECTED TO SURVIVAL AND ARE NOT REAL.

 
___ I ACKNOWLEDGE THAT THERE ARE STILL FALSE THOUGHTS WIRED  
    AROUND THE SURVIVAL NEED AND THAT IT MAKES SENSE TO DO SOME
    RE-WORKING OF THOSE THOUGHTS AND RE-INSTALLATION OF A
    BETTER THOUGHT SETUP.

___ I SEE AND BELIEVE THAT I AM NO LONGER POWERLESS AND THAT I
    HAVE THE POWER NECESSARY TO MEET MY NEEDS (WHICH ARE
    STRICTLY SURVIVAL).
___ I SEE THAT I NO LONGER MUST BE LOVED TO SURVIVE.  I SEE,
     THEREFORE, THAT I AM NOT DEPENDENT ON OTHER PEOPLE’S LOVE,
     PERIOD!

Remember:  Our objective in life is to be happy.  And anything above subsistence in wealth and income does not increase happiness.  We have the power to feed and clothe and house ourselves at the subsistence level or above, so we have enough power.  Now, we may not yet have developed the supporting thought system for happiness, but that is what we are working on in this project. 


OUR FEAR MECHANISM

FEAR IS AN EMOTION  EVOLVED INTO HUMANS TO PROTECT THEM FROM
   BEING HURT OR KILLED.  (Emotions cause motion.)

       FEAR IS USEFUL TO CAUSE ACTION TO PREVENT BEING HURT OR
         DYING.
 
                IT MOBILIZES US TO FIGHT OR FLEE.

       THERE IS A “SCANNER” BUILT IN TO LOOK FOR POSSIBLE THREATS.

        IT SENDS INFORMATION TO THE EVALUATOR/DECISION MANAGER.

            IT GIVES A SIGNAL, THEN WE CHOOSE TO LOOK AT IT,
               REINTERPRET IT, AND DETERMINE WHAT TO DO (STOP INITIAL
               REACTION OR EMOTION, THEN CHOOSE A HEALTHIER ACTION).
                   
            IF OUR SIGNALS “EVALUATION” SYSTEM IS FLAWED WE
               MISINTERPRET MANY, MANY THINGS AS THREATS WHERE THEY ARE
               REALLY MEANINGLESS.


WHAT ARE LEGITIMATE THREATS? 

WE FEAR “CONSEQUENCES”

     AND THE THREAT OF THEM HAPPENING  
     THE THOUGHT OF THE THREAT OF THEM HAPPENING PRODUCES THE
       FEAR.

THE CONSEQUENCE WE FEAR IS LOSS .

       THE ONLY LEGITIMATE FEAR IS LOSS OF LIFE (NON-SURVIVAL).  

       LOSS HAS BEEN SOMEHOW WIRED INTO BEING RELATED TO NON-
         SURVIVAL.

             BUT WE CAN LOSE A LOT AND STILL HAVE OUR LIVES
                   AND, IT’S PROVEN, STILL BE JUST AS HAPPY!   

        SO WE SPEND MUCH OF OUR LIFE ENERGY FEARING WHAT IS NOT AN
          ACTUAL LOSS!!!!!

                WE STILL HAVE OUR LIVES AND OUR HAPPINESS!

Technically, pain could be added here – but pain is also a loss, one of losing comfort.  It is useless to fear having pain – many of the “gurus” have “zero” fear of pain, yet they surely don’t like pain.  But they choose to see it as just something that is happening and not to add suffering about it.

THE SEEMINGLY SEMI-LEGITIMATE FEARS WE HAVE ARE:
    
•LOSS OF A LIMB
•BEING QUADRIPLEGIC

     BUT IT IS SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN THAT AFTER A YEAR, SOMEONE
       WHO HAS BECOME QUADRIPLEGIC IS JUST AS HAPPY AS BEFORE!!!!!


BASICALLY, WE WIRED OTHER THINGS TO CREATE FALSE FEAR

WE HAVE WIRED UNNECESSARY FEAR-THOUGHTS FALSELY TO THE ONLY TRUE THREAT (NON-SURVIVAL) AND THEN MADE UP WAYS TO HAVE FEARS ABOUT THINGS THAT DON’T REALLY MATTER. 

     MAYBE THEY CAN BE HELD AS CONCERNS, BUT CERTAINLY NOT
       FEARS

Well, you say, they matter to me!!!  Yes, I’ll acknowledge that.  It is due to the way you wired other things into what really matters, but those things do not really produce a net effect as to creating happiness, so they don’t really matter! 

THE KEY ILLEGITIMATE FEARS ARE:

•LOSS OF APPROVAL (LOVE, ETC.)

We hold onto this one from childhood, where we were legitimately not capable of feeding and caring for ourselves so that our survival would be threatened without the love.  When we are no longer helpless, this fear is no longer legitimate, though we might like to (prefer to) have it.

    THIS SHOWS UP IN VARIOUS FORMS BUT IS STILL JUST THE SAME
      THING:

          NOT BEING GOOD ENOUGH (so might not be loved and then I’ll not survive)
          NOT BEING ABLE ENOUGH (so might not survive [which of course is BS]).
                 Helpless
                 Hopeless
          FEAR OF ABANDONMENT (no one to take care of me, so I’ll not survive)
          FEAR OF SHAME (we’re shameful so we won’t be loved and we’ll die)
          FEAR OF BEING THOUGHT TO HAVE A CHARACTER FLAW (so not be
            loved)

•NOT BEING POWERFUL ENOUGH

POWER = THE ABILITY TO DO SOMETHING

         SO, WE ALL HAVE ENOUGH POWER TO FEED OURSELVES
              AND, WITH THE WORKABILITY VIEWPOINT, WE NEED NEVER FEAR 
              ANYTHING ABOVE LIVING AT SUBSISTENCE.

It’s proven that there is no difference in happiness once one is above the subsistence level, yet we spend our time fearing dropping down in wealth or income even a little.

THE FEARS ARE THE RESULT OF JUST UNEXAMINED, UNREVISED, OUTDATED MISBELIEFS!  They are simply made up and not real!

THE IRONY IS THAT WE PROCEED TO MAKE UP STORIES AND GATHER EVIDENCE THAT SUPPORT THESE MISBELIEFS AND THEN WE THINK OUR STORIES AND OUR EVIDENCE ARE LEGITIMATE AND TRUE!  But they aren’t.  They are only “made up”.  So we need to learn to be clear about the difference between Truth and “Not-Truth”, between the “what is” and the “story” and to apply “Right Thinking”.  

See the section of the Basics on “right thinking.”

OUR LIVES ARE GIVEN OVER TO SOME ILLEGITIMATE SMALL FEARS

WE’LL DO ANYTHING TO AVOID EXTREME FEARS….

AND WE’VE MADE MINOR THINGS INTO MIND-OCCUPYING FEARS

   OH, I’LL FEEL SOME DISCOMFORT  (“SOMETHING’S MISSING”), I BETTER:

          SMOKE
          DRINK
          EAT (THIS IS OFTEN WHY DIETS FAIL – DESIRE IS TRUMPED BY FEAR)           
          FLEE
          GET ANGRY
          WATCH TV
          DO SOMETHING NOT SO THREATENING, such as
                 INCONSEQUENTIAL THOUGHTS AND ACTIVITIES
                 TRY TO LOOK OR SOUND SMART…

Comfort = a state of ease, with freedom from pain and anxiety, and satisfaction of bodily wants.  Discomfort = absence of comfort; uneasiness; disturbance of peace.   If there is no physical pain involved, it is just a feeling resulting from the belief that something is missing (to make us comfortable).  As a child, we experienced anxiety around this, but as an adult we learn to not respond as a child does to every little discomfort, as if it is a potential threat.  Or did we, really, learn that???  We try to “fill the hole” with stuff that has no value and is sometimes harmful in a direct manner, like smoking and drinking.  But all of them are harmful if they cause us to displace (and therefore lose, forever) something that would have been more satisfying.

SO WE “FILL THE HOLE” WITH STUFF
    
    THAT DISPLACES POSSIBLE OTHER GOOD STUFF BEING PUT IN TO “THE
      SPACE”     
                                                   AND/OR
     THAT CAUSES DIRECT HARM (SMOKING, DRINKING, OVEREATING…)

AND THEN WE MAKE IT “OK” TO DO THIS!!!  (IS THIS ABSURD, OR WHAT?!)

     ‘CAUSE WE ALL DO IT
     ‘CAUSE SO MANY PEOPLE, THOUGHTLESSLY, CONDONE IT
     ‘CAUSE WE CONNECT IT (ERRONEOUSLY)  TO SOCIAL PURPOSES

Where is it written that we must drink a lot to be powerful or sociably acceptable and that we can’t have just as much fun drinking a soda.  Where is it written that because we enjoy the taste of food that we should eat too much of it in order to be able to enjoy it.

IMAGINE! – OUR LIVES ARE GIVEN AWAY FOR SMALL STUFF.

MIGHT IT BE WORTHWHILE TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THE BIG STUFF IS AND THEN PUT IT INTO LIFE IN PLACE OF THE SMALL STUFF?????!!!!!!


AN EMPTY SPACE GETS FILLED WITH WHATEVER IS AVAILABLE

AS ONE THOUGHT LEAVES YOUR MIND, AN EMPTY SPACE IS CREATED.

     IT WILL THEN DRAW WHAT IS MOST IMMEDIATELY AVAILABLE FROM
       THE POOL, OR TANK, OF THOUGHTS

SO CHANGE WHAT IS MOST IMMEDIATELY “AVAILABLE”

1.WHAT IS ANXIOUSLY WAITING IN LINE FOR ATTENTION

HERE, WE REDUCE OR ELIMINATE MOST OF THE FEARS AND    ANXIETIES AND PUT POSITIVE ITEMS WAITING EAGERLY IN LINE.

2.THE ACTIVITY LIST KEPT IN THE MIND

•ELIMINATE OR REDUCE THINGS THAT ARE COUNTER-PRODUCTIVE
•ADD THINGS THAT ARE PRODUCTIVE TO THE LIST
                           PREFERABLY, MEMORIZE THEM
•KEEP THE LIST AVAILABLE FOR REMINDERS
•TIME MANAGE – INSERT THE GOOD STUFF FIRST AND ON PURPOSE!!!

3.THE THOUGHTS IN THE THOUGHT TANK

               RE-WORK THE THOUGHTS THAT ARE TOXIC, HARMFUL,
                  DISEMPOWERING
               INCREASE THE THOUGHTS THAT ARE EMPOWERING,
                  FORWARDING
                         PREFERABLY, MEMORIZE THEM
               USE A REMINDER SYSTEM TO PUT THEM BACK IN

See the Grounding/Reminders/Inspiration Notebook system.

LAW OF LIFE:  “OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND”

IF I GET RID OF ALL THOSE “MADE-UPS” AND UNREAL THOUGHTS, THEN I AM LEFT WITH A VERY LARGE, EMPTY SPACE:

         AN EMPTY CANVAS!
         AND I CAN FILL IT WITH SOMETHING THAT HAS REAL VALUE





AS  A CHILD

WE BELIEVE

We are  POWERLESS  & DEPENDENT on others to feed us. 

They MUST LOVE US or we won't be FED.
STILL BELIEVE

We are POWERLESS.




People MUST LOVE US


& FEAR THAT

We are NOT POWERFUL ENOUGH to get what we need. 


NOT GOOD ENOUGH,
NOT “ENOUGH”

OR WE MATURE

I am Powerful Enough to get what I need.


I do not need others to approve of me or to depend on.