See: The Grieving Process - A collection of three key pieces to read to "brief yourself" on the processes and factors involved. 1. Coping With Death, Grief, And Loss, 2. What Are The Stages Of Grief? and
3. The Grief Process - they repeat themselves a bit, but all are useful.
from grief, urging these actions.
A more detailed write-up of what is to be done during the grieving process is in the piece entitled:
This is a time for special, really, really special self-care and self-soothing. Follow the exercises in the summary write-up immediately above. One friend, instead of being stuck "in grieving", spent this time in remarkable growth. Some of the things she read and did were as referred to in the comments section after quoting Desiderata (it's good to read inspiring material, and it's even better to learn new things via reading items on this site or going to the items referred to.
"Grieving is a natural gift of human nature that restores us to wholeness." AND...we must go thru it and honor it, but not wallow in it.
It is important to remember that "Grief happens, extra suffering is optional." AND...this is a great opportunity - for growth and for developing a self-love like you have never experienced before.
Develop special supporting structures, including that special Caring, Feeling Presence - creating the internal sources of unconditional love and special allies to back you up.
Exercise, exercise, and exercise!
Experience this deeply, process it, and take the opportunity to appreciate what life is all about and to learn to love yourself as you've never been loved before!!!!