(Refer to this model while reading the explanation for how the eternal internal triangle was created and how it operates.)

THE MODEL














































THE ADULT (!!)
(Functional)

TRAITS

Rational, logical
Nurturing
Powerful

FUNCTIONS

Creates
Decides
Accepts, supports     & protects child
Fulfills
THE INNER CHILD
(Innocent)

NATURAL, grows

Wonder
Learning
Loving
Dependent, powerless
Two fears
ADDED

Fears
Beliefs
THE PROTECTOR
(Dysfunctional, mostly)

ACQUIRED RANDOMLY(3)

Protects, suppresses
Attacks, criticizes
Flees, justifies
Governs, "parents"
Manipulates

ROLES (Added)

Copies "role" models
Critical parent to control
Defends, justifies
Protects false "ego"
THE ETERNAL INTERNAL TRIANGLE
= ESSENTIAL PART OF SELF, a part of the Real You
= DYSFUNCTIONAL ADDITIONS, not part of the Real You


BRAIN WIRING/SYSTEM
HAVE THE RIGHT ONE DO THE RIGHT JOB!

Which of these three should do which of the following?:   __________________

Supervise and let the child play freely.                                      
Protect the child, such that it has good experiences
Make the decisions
Run the show

Which of these three should do which of the following?:  ___________________

Play
Love freely and spontaneously
Have fun learning and discovering
Look at the wonder in the world


Selecting the right one to do the right job is key!

The first set would best be done by the Adult.
The second set, with the adult as the ally, would be done by the Inner Child.

The "Protector", a kind of combination child/adolescent, should not be allowed to run anything, as its good functions will be taken over by the adult and its dysfunctional items dropped.


THE OBJECTIVE OF ALL PSYCHOLOGY: DEVELOP THE ADULT FULLY!!!!

This is also the objective in training in Relationships, for without the adult in charge, the "kids" (and the "critical parent") will clash and fight and do dumb things to each other and in life. 

See also How The Mind Developed, also, so you'll have a better working knowledge of what happened.  This will enable you to be able to proceed to the greatest benefit you'll experience in your life - re-working beliefs and strategies and re-forming the viewpoints that run your life.



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Built into every human (1).
Programmed in, inappropriately (2).

(1).  Learning how to utilize the Brain's wiring/chemical circuitry and systems is an essential part of managing life and creating the happiness that is the goal of all life.

(2). Unravelling the inappropriate learning of the Inner Child and the poorly conceived strategies of The Protector opens up life dramatically.

(3). Created by the Child, before it was logical and had any perspective or much knowledge, so its strategies and beliefs are largely dysfunctional and ill-conceived.

CONTAINS:

     HOW THE TRIANGLE WAS CREATED AND WHAT ITS PARTS DO
     HAVE THE RIGHT ONE DO THE RIGHT JOB 
     THE OBJECTIVE OF ALL PSYCHOLOGY: DEVELOP THE ADULT FULLY! 


HOW THE TRIANGLE WAS CREATED AND WHAT ITS PARTS DO (Abbreviated version)

We were born with innate capabilities, including protections, already wired into us, including two fears (loud sounds and falling), from evolution.  Then we gradually learned as we grew, going through the stages of development (see Psychology section).  As a child we were powerless and were dependent on the Big People for survival (approval, etc.).  Most people still believe some form of the latter. 

As children we assessed that certain things threatened our survival, so we created a Protector, using strategies we developed before we had logic, perspective, or very much knowledge.  Until looked at as an adult, the Protector continues to operate from poorly designed primitive strategies, such as attacking (to defend), blaming, criticizing, etc. 

The Triangle consists of the three parts all trying to function at the same time, sometimes in opposition. 
The Protector causes harm mostly, the child reacts in fear and hurt, and the Adult provides the capability of reasoning and appropriately protecting and nurturing the child. 


We all love the wonder, curiosity, learning, and the spirit of the child but are not benefitted by its many false fears, which need to be looked at by the Adult and re-worked.  The Adult needs to let the Child know it will handle things, but the Protector receives the emotional signals (which cut off reasoning powers) from the primitive brain wiring and it goes into its dysfunctional routines, spoiling the soup, keeping the fears in place, often suppressing the child (out of fear), and ruining relationships.  Note that the Protector is not a real part of one self, as it was created by one's self (if something is created by a person it cannot be the same as the person - see The Underlying Basics of Life).  It will attempt to protect itself by having you believe it is the Real You that is being attacked when the attempt is made to have you learn and revise its strategies and beliefs.

The contest is between the Adult (advocating Love)  and the Protector (ensconced in fears).  Which will win? And what does it take?   Or, using Marianne Williamson's concept, will Love enhance your life or will Fear rule it and destroy the full potential for happiness?

See below for what to do.

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CONTAINS:

HOW THE TRIANGLE WAS CREATED AND WHAT ITS PARTS DO

HAVE THE RIGHT ONE DO THE RIGHT JOB 

THE OBJECTIVE OF ALL PSYCHOLOGY: DEVELOP THE ADULT FULLY! 



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