HOW THE TRIANGLE WAS CREATED AND WHAT ITS PARTS DO (Abbreviated version)
We were born with innate capabilities, including protections, already wired into us, including two fears (loud sounds and falling), from evolution. Then we gradually learned as we grew, going through the stages of development (see Psychology section). As a child we were powerless and were dependent on the Big People for survival (approval, etc.). Most people still believe some form of the latter.
As children we assessed that certain things threatened our survival, so we created a Protector, using strategies we developed before we had logic, perspective, or very much knowledge. Until looked at as an adult, the Protector continues to operate from poorly designed primitive strategies, such as attacking (to defend), blaming, criticizing, etc.
The Triangle consists of the three parts all trying to function at the same time, sometimes in opposition.
The Protector causes harm mostly, the child reacts in fear and hurt, and the Adult provides the capability of reasoning and appropriately protecting and nurturing the child.
We all love the wonder, curiosity, learning, and the spirit of the child but are not benefitted by its many false fears, which need to be looked at by the Adult and re-worked. The Adult needs to let the Child know it will handle things, but the Protector receives the emotional signals (which cut off reasoning powers) from the primitive brain wiring and it goes into its dysfunctional routines, spoiling the soup, keeping the fears in place, often suppressing the child (out of fear), and ruining relationships. Note that the Protector is not a real part of one self, as it was created by one's self (if something is created by a person it cannot be the same as the person - see The Underlying Basics of Life). It will attempt to protect itself by having you believe it is the Real You that is being attacked when the attempt is made to have you learn and revise its strategies and beliefs.
The contest is between the Adult (advocating Love) and the Protector (ensconced in fears). Which will win? And what does it take? Or, using Marianne Williamson's concept, will Love enhance your life or will Fear rule it and destroy the full potential for happiness?
See below for what to do.