tba for posting the story of their relationship and the freeing up of Barbara from the victimization and false beliefs ...and from how it "determined" her, according to Barbara. This is written by one of the assistant writers and is not claimed to be accurate. Much of this is pre-written in order to push the process along so that it has a better chance of completion. Barbara, of course, may revise it totally. This is not the "fixed" version, only a version.
CONTEXT AND INQUIRIES INTO CAUSES
Watch this video vignette (click on "see it in action") explaining "context", with a good example (click on the lower right hand picture).
Was your mother, despite all of her own insecurities, doing the best she could in being "committed to having your life work out?"
Was she trying to teach you from what she knew?
WHAT BARBARA "LEARNED' FROM MOM, and what she chose to keep or discard:
Kept, at this point, but could be transferred over to "discard" as she chooses:
Be highly frightened of shortcomings and not being good enough.
Punishing others, believing that is a way of getting others to do as she wished and/or getting even.