Checklist for our conversations
Contact and working together, agreements and commitments
The purpose for the coaching is to create greater good for Barbara so that she can build a very strong life structure and philosophical foundation for her being very happy.
CHECKLIST FOR OUR CONVERSATIONS
This is for email coaching conversations and for phone conversations.
___ Homework done?
___ Copy received by coach (where applicable) (See form, below, to use for
___ Coach provided feedback
___ Barbara used feedback and sent revised copy
___ What would you like to get out of this conversation?
___ As directly as possible, with as little story as possible:
___ What did you do about it?
___ Do you want to hold onto those?
___ Do you choose to let them go?
___ To release the story forever?
___ What is out of balance right now?
___ What possibilities do you now create?
___ What are your promises?
___ What do you promise to do before our next conversation?
___ What other promises do you make?
___ Were all "seeming" and any assumptions checked out and verified or
CONTACT AND WORKING TOGETHER, AGREEMENTS ABOUT
Homework and Email communications
Barbara is to send written copies of completed "homework", so that feedback and suggestions from Keith can be more effectively utilized. The idea of doing written homework is that it helps Barbara to more effectively apply her will and to think things through on her own, to develop more of that "muscle".
As it is vital to limit the contact oriented toward solving "symptoms" (situations) that occur and instead to focus on actually building at the foundational level, each contact shall be based on "what's next". She and her coach are to agree on what homework will be done, with the next communication occurring after that homework is done, with the exception that clarifications and/or renegotiations about the homework will occur in the interim. It is only through the completion of more in-depth homework and in thinking and developing her thinking around something that progress can be made effectively.
Accordingly, it is useful, both for the conversation and for building the skill, to create one's own solutions, using a problem solving form. The most used form, to be filled out as well as one can, would be the 1 1/3 Page Traditional Simple form or one of the other Problem Solving Forms (note the psych problem solving forms, possibly use Rational Analysis).
The exception to doing this systematically in a problem solving mode would only be a truly dire emergency.
Duration. Calls will be limited in time to no more than a half hour.
Limited Frequency. Other than specifically agreed times for calls, they are only to be made in "crisis" and otherwise handleable - and only if it will be useful. The suggested frequency is once every three weeks (as also suggested by Barbara).
Approved: Barbara: ___________