CONTENTS
A message and a challenge
Honor the power of words
Contrasting disempowering with empowering
An example of powerful languaging
Ridiculous?
What makes sense here?
The choice is clear
The alternative
How do I learn more of powerful languaging?
Will I fail?
The positives diet
The precision diet
Commitment
Affirmations, declarative statements
Another try at why to keep language true, clean, and clear
Resources, additional learning
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You are speaking to yourself. Respect yourself by honoring that reality.
The BuddhaKahuna
"The first agreement: Be impeccable with your word. The first agreement is the most important one and also the most difficult one to honor. It is so important that with just this first agreement you will be able to transcend to the level of existence I call heaven on earth."
Don Miguel Ruiz, "The Four Agreements"
You choose your emotions by choosing the thoughts or beliefs that cause them. Thoughts and beliefs are composed of words. You use words to communicate to others and to yourself. And even one word can set off a series of thoughts, memories, associations, and beliefs. Therefore, you choose your emotions by your choice of words. Being sloppy with your choice of words is confusing and self harming. You will do yourself an immense service if you, instead, choose your words precisely. The rule that works, believe you me, is: Say what you mean and mean what you say. Sounds trite, but if you do it, your world will be a better place....
A MESSAGE AND A CHALLENGE
After you've read the message, I invite you to take the challenge!
HONOR THE POWER OF WORDS
Language has power. Your words mean something. Honoring their power is vital to living a good life. The saying that one often hears at the higher levels is "your word is your power in the world, your word can be the law in your world."
Indeed, those who are most powerful have their words come true, from the full intention and the integrity behind their word. Note that it is powerfully honoring one's word that is the dominant practice of those who are powerful.
This may seem to be trite or not very impactful, but without it you have very little power and without it, you are often taking away your own power.
Read another way of creating positively effective languaging, that should also be practiced, for sure: It discusses the misuse of words and the unseen but huge effect on oneself and others, plus how to cut off negative self-talk and a simple procedure for what to insert.
CONTRASTING DISEMPOWERING WITH EMPOWERING
Imagine the difference in effect between saying the following:
Disempowering languaging: I can’t, I’m not good enough, maybe, I don’t know, you made me feel this way, I have to, no, reasons why not, that’s not cool, silly, I hate, stupid people, I'm powerless…
Empowering languaging: I choose to, incredibly great, yes, possibilities, I am a stand for, I make no excuses, the buck stops here, I fully acknowledge that, I am the creator of all…
AN EXAMPLE OF EMPOWERING LANGUAGING
“Dedicated to enhancing the competitiveness of American manufacturing.”
“…to free their time up to make life an exceptional experience for themselves and everyone in their energy orbit.”
“They love…”
“A significant and wonderful portion of their lives revolve around their two amazing children…both great spirits who are unstoppable, smart, caring, beautiful, tough and radiate with that ‘something special’.”
“Always in awe of the unlimited possibilities inherent in the powerful minds of properly guided children…”… “[his] next BHAG [big hairy --- goals] will be to form a company to teach children to understand and love the principles of…”
“Releasing your brilliance…a special, distinctive quality, a vibrant energy that attracts others. You feel a buzz – alive and connected. You’re free to be authentically you and to rediscover your incredible value and worth.”
(This is language about the book "Releasing Your Billiance", by Simon T. Bailey.)
RIDICULOUS?
Some people might say “this sounds ridiculous” or this is coming from some “syrupy, fruity, unrealistic thinking” person. But is it really?
WHAT MAKES SENSE HERE?
The mind is energized by positive words, and very energized by inspiring words. The resigned or cynical person who is “against” this type of thing or “down” on it is simply expressing and solidifying the thinking underlying resignation and cynicism. They are more interested in being right than in having a great positive life for themselves and those whom they care about.
THE CHOICE IS CLEAR
The choice is clear. Suck energy out of people with negatives or put in pluses of positive energy. (Of course, you could be somewhere in between, not quite so positive – but if there is a choice, why not choose the highest one.
An example:
Try this one on for size, from a beginning seeker of growth: “I can’t make it on that call. I need to be at a meeting and I can’t reschedule it for Thursday night as I simply haven’t spent enough time with the kids, so this time is more valuable than talking with you guys, though I do want to, but I can’t…”
Yes, valuing time with the kids is very positive, but note the tenor of the conversation. It is one of “no possibility”, of “limited time”, of “I can’t”. Imagine how much more powerful it would be for him to say something like:
“I really see the value of working with other people and uplifting my thinking. Let’s see if we can find a way that we can create some time to make this happen…”
Another example
“People just don’t come through. The stupid ---es.” “Why can’t people be more considerate.” “What’s wrong with you. Straighten up and fly right!” “People should be more conscientious.” (i.e people aren’t…) "I'm just this way because of the programming from my mother."
Those words just suck energy out and fill up the space with no possibility and plenty of minuses in one’s energy space, even if somehow they might have a positive intent.
THE ALTERNATIVE
The above is blaming, make-wrong, accusatory. An alternative would be: “Yes, people do have limited awareness and just don’t know any better. They’re just doing the best they can. The ultimate solution is to increase their awareness. But until I’m ready to do that, then I’ll move on and just bless them.”
Imagine speaking in the following terms:
“I realize I have great potential. I just need to access it.”
“That person has a much greater potential and would do well if he were more aware.”
“I am taking a stand for…”
“I commit to creating…”
“I declare that this will happen…”
“I am the possibility of being compassionate and powerful…”
HOW DO I LEARN MORE OF POWERFUL LANGUAGING?
Be around powerful people and notice how they speak. Watch Charlie Rose, Bill Moyers, or others interview powerful people of all types, artistic, sports, creative, business, academics. Write down some of their languaging and the clarity and meaning in their wording, noticing the distinctions they make that are deeper than most people make because they have spent the time learning the differences among what they observe.
Notice also how they tend to speak in objective terms with accurate facts and to speak in terms of what is fulfilling or produces a positive result. (Then notice how unpowerful people speak and where their conversations end up pointing to. You can also spot people who will be creating negative results or who can be disempowering - simply notice where their conversation and words are on the "progressiveness" (aiming for good results) scale.
WILL I FAIL?
You will never fail, but you will have efforts and times where you "do not succeed". This is a given that whenever one expands into a bigger game, one does not have full knowledge yet of how things work, which means there are times when one will make "mis-takes". Then it is vital that one simply recommits and goes back to the committed practice, developing more and more of that muscle (and strength) as one goes.
THE POSITIVES DIET
What if you chose to speak only positives (go on a negativity fast) for 24 hours and what if you chose to speak only in powerful terms that were an energy level(s) above just being positive?
THE PRECISION DIET
What if you chose only to speak precisely, specifically, describing things as they are with no exaggeration or distortion? Your messages to your brain would be more healthy and you would be training your brain to be more accurate, which in turn is helpful for being progressive about things.
Though it might seem perfectionistic, it is wise to be careful to differentiate between feelings and beliefs. One is caught in a victim trap if one says "I feel stupid", as using the word "feel" makes it seemingly indisputable as if it comes from a place that makes it permanent. But saying "I feel very scared because I think I am stupid and that I won't be able to do well in life and that I'll be judged by others" - at least that has the power of truth and makes it something that can be dealt with better in a responsible way.
Being imprecise is a road to obfuscating and covering up what is true, and it makes us less able to deal with what is going on. Being precise is the practice of those who choose to be powerful.
I'd recommend you choose to try this for at least 24 hours at the highest level and then to make it a policy to speak this way for the rest of your life.
COMMITMENT
__ I commit to a 24 hour period of only speaking positives.
__ I commit to adding extra levels of energy to the positives.
__ I commit to scheduling on my calendar at least one such day a month.
__ I commit to listening to powerful people to discern their powerful languaging and
to begin to use more and more of it myself.
__ I commit to using language powerfully.
Signed: ________________________ Date: ___________
AFFIRMATIONS, DECLARATIVE STATEMENTS
I choose to be impeccable with my word, to create my heaven on earth.
I speak powerfully and with purpose, creating a positive force extraordinaire.
My word shall be law in my world. I so declare this and commit to this this day and for all time.
I have here in my life a significant and wonderful opportunity to create all of the most important things I want.
I am bigger and more powerful than undesired circumstances and discomforts that naturally come about in life. I accept them as part of life and I move forward, paying the price where I need to, proactively reaping the benefits of my life.
ANOTHER TRY AT WHY TO KEEP LANGUAGE TRUE, CLEAN, AND CLEAR:
RESOURCES, ADDITIONAL EDUCATION
Under the Introduction to The Landmark Forum video section, click on "see it in action" and watch the middle left video on languaging and the power to shift.
