THE GRAND OVERVIEW OF LIFE
THE PROCESS TO HAPPINESS
Happiness doesn't just happen. It is learned. (Of course, it might happen in perfect circumstances and if a person did not learn any dysfunctional beliefs - but don't hold your breath waiting for this to happen!)
The sequential overview:
Born → Learn rapidly early years → Learn → Obstacles → Not happy
With (Low knowledge, Add knowledge intervene
Sufficient little reasoning, Revise what
Basic perspective is: doesn't work
Equipment "Powerless" The one belief to change
"Dependent"
- Must have love
to survive)
"powerful enough", not "looking good", false threats, etc. Those make us feel bad, so we do strategies that harm ourselves, often in trying to seek relief from our illusory fears - this greatly affects our health AND it sucks up our time that we could spend really getting value out of life.
The corrected belief would be that there is nothing wrong with us, and that we have all the equipment we need (as the Dalai Lama says). We don't get the results we want from life (make mistakes, etc.) simply because we lack the knowledge to get the desired results, not because we are defective as a basic human unit. So the fault is not with us, but our lack of knowledge. Therefore, the solution is to learn what it takes. (A good statement of this concept and related ones is in Listings Of The Self-Esteem Affirmations Themselves, in the first section, from Barksdale. We have provided writings to complete your education properly on this.)
Since we cannot learn everything about everything, we must effectively learn to manage our learning so that we learn that which has the highest payoffs.
From this we develop procedures (that work). Sounds boring, but we have procedures for doing everything but we often don't design the important ones to work. We learn them passively and/or reactively rather than with intention and effectiveness.
Human being + Learning + Procedures + Know = Happiness
(including what is
unlearning wanted
of the
nonworkable)
That's almost all of it - the rest is "stuff that actually happens in life" and you've got all of that which comprises life.
SUCCESS IS SIMPLY...
1. Know where ← 3. Identify the gap → 2. Know
you are what
you want
("informed" choice)
↑ 4. Fill the gap
Commitment
Why vs. why not
Plan
Learn
Action
The gap is always closed with action and to do effective action one simply needs to learn to arrive at Sufficient Knowing and well-designed, effective procedures. (Read main page Success In Life - How To Achieve It And "Be" It.)
OBSTACLES, WHAT GETS IN THE WAY
(Must be removed by you, for best life)
Check off which you are doing:
__ Stop too soon
__ Not do the right process
__ Not follow the procedure
__ Not learn to do effective thinking
__ Non-thinking
__ Fixed mindset
__ "It's too hard"
__ Bad program
__ Bad teacher
__ Not take responsibility for filling in the holes left by not perfect programs and teacher (blame "out there")
__ Rock solid beliefs - not willing to
reexamine
__ Emotions ("needs") get in the way,
fears, "not feeling like it", etc.
Of course, these must be corrected, major ones first. Use the serach engine to find the discussion and solution.
THE PROCESS OF LIFE
We are born with the necessary basic equipment.
We acquire beliefs about life that are erroneous.
We fail to correct them.
We do not complete the necessary learning. (We simply leave a "fillable" "gap".)
We conclude, from our false belief system, that there is "something wrong with us", rather than we simply "don't yet know what we need to know."
We spend our lives neurotically (via bad beliefs) trying to prove we are ok, lovable, etc. and fighting against made-up, illusionary fears of not being ok, being not
This is part of the collection of short pieces of essential parts of life:
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Why There Is No Fault - Whatever Happens Happens For A Valid Human Reason - An essential reality to understand
Mastery Learning For Results - Not leaving that "learning gap"
Sufficient Knowing
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A Grand Perspective On Life - Read This First, Before Embarking Into Life - A perspective around useless fear versus the mountain of haves, proceeding into the next steps.
Read the compilation of pieces: The Short Path To An Overview Of All Of Life - The Booklet
and/or, then, select the Learning, Implementation Programs you'll follow, so that your life will not only be more skillful and rewarding but alot easier.
Happens For A Valid Human Reason - An essential reality to understand
Mastery Learning For Results - Not leaving that "learning gap"
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A Grand Perspective On Life - Read This First, Before Embarking Into Life - A perspective around useless fear versus the mountain of haves, proceeding into the next steps.
