CONTENTS:
An Indication Of Maturity And Adult Capability
Making Better Choices
What It Includes
The Way To Emotional Intelligence
Testing Where You Are And Learning More
Books Recommended
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AN INDICATION OF MATURITY AND ADULT CAPABILITY
This starts with awareness of self and how the emotions operate.
It is an indication of “maturity”, shown by the ability to manage emotions, avoiding “reactivity” (anger, resentment, fear, etc.) and choosing emotions and attitudes that are appropriate for one’s own happiness and the happiness of others he/she interacts with.
MAKING BETTER CHOICES
Awareness of more alternatives and the ability to make better choices allows one to avoid the lower-awareness, quicker but harmful means of reducing/denying anxiety or discomforts and using drugs, smoking, drinking, or inappropriate eating.
WHAT IT INCLUDES
This type of intelligence makes it easier to have discipline (directed action and focus), both psychologically (no suffering associated with it) and rationally (knowing that there is a worthy positive net result, and feeling good about that right now). Read Primitive Reaction Vs. Reasoning.
It includes one’s spirit (how one “feels” and how one seeks meaning and the fulfillment of one’s values). One must know how to love and respect oneself unconditionally, avoiding self-criticism and criticism of others.
It is characterized by openness and not being in fear or closed to new experiences. As a result more alternatives and possibilities are generated and life becomes far more effective and fulfilling.
The person is able to self-motivate and is not dependent on others’ approval. He/she makes commitments judiciously, often saying no, and keeps virtually all commitments. This fortifies one’s feeling good about oneself.
The emotionally intelligent person has compassion and is able to sense and understand others’ emotions and perspectives. The ability to influence children to be emotionally healthy and productive is one of the greatest benefits of this type of intelligence.
More than any other type of intelligence this gives you the ability to experience life to its fullest.
THE WAY TO EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
Learning is one of the basic parts of emotional intelligence, but it is remarkable how many people seem to be victims of their emotional impulses and their behavioral actions. So, obviously, they are not choosing to learn.
Learning to intelligently identify and be aware of your emotions at the time and then to intelligently and effectively manage them is what will enable us to live a much better life. Ignorance in this area will hinder your life, though there are many people who think they don't need it and deny that it will hinder their lives (out of ignorance, of course).
TESTING WHERE YOU ARE AND LEARNING MORE
Go to this piece and test where you are on your intelligences:
“Progress In Intelligences And Knowledge For Living Life” to see where you are at and where you might want to go. Also included is “Emotional Intelligence In Action - Handling Anxieties And Relieving Stress”, below, the reasons you might put out to not bother to learn these, and the rating of where you are in the progress toward the intelligences and knowledge necessary for living life well.
what you are doing and might want to change, in terms of actions that are
harmful or are beneficial. A one page chart of the unproductive harmful
action, the effect, the productive substitute action, and the effect of the latter.
BOOKS:
Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman
Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Travis Bradberry, et.a.
Destructive Emotions, A Scientific Dialogue with the Dalai Lama, Daniel Goleman - On the meeting of Western scientists and the Dalai Lama and Buddhists organized by the Mind and Life Institute. Quite illuminating on the brain and the emotions.
TRAININGS
For the children
the theories and pracctices of psychology regarding emotional balance, including
cultivation of attention and qualities of loving-kindness, compassion, empathetic
joy and equanimity.
grades K-6.
EXAMPLES OF EDUCATION PROGRAMS TEACHING CHARACTER
Teaching character, in action:
KIPP schools, producing extraordinary results through hard work while learning character principles. Underprivileged kids, significantly outperform peers in public schools by the end of year one.
