Special contents and linking for emotion management:
DEFINITION: A set of biochemical sensations (physical feelings) to which we add, via beliefs, a pleasant or uncomfortable interpretation, so that we seek it or seek to relieve it accordingly (called "urges").
An emotion is merely an inner urge to act - you don't have to act on it.
An emotion is a result of a belief - if you want a different emotions select a different (better) belief.
ESSENCE: "Emotions are a means to an end, but they are not the determiners nor are they mystical forces that pounce upon you and take you over. They are merely feelings based largely on beliefs - and they are something we manage rather than vice versa. First, you must fully understand how they work and what they are. Next, we correct the negative beliefs that lead to negative emotions. And, then, with practice, keeping the healthy beliefs in mind gets easier and easier. Developing power (and habit) through practice completely transforms one's life and happiness."
The BuddhaKahuna
People are not disturbed by things, but by the view they take of them.
Epictetus
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I. BELIEFS CAUSE EMOTIONS, NOT PEOPLE OR CIRCUMSTANCES
This you MUST know if you are to be in charge of your life and happy.
II. DISSOLVE BLAME AND CRITICISM BELIEFS AND YOU ELIMINATE THE
GREAT MAJORITY OF NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
III. DISSOLVE FALSE FEAR BELIEFS AND YOU ELIMINATE VIRTUALLY ALL THE OTHER NEGATIVE EMOTIONS
IV. AFFIRMATIONS WITHOUT THOROUGHLY BELIEVING A REVISED
BELIEF ARE NOT THE KEY
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THE OBJECTIVE: The Emotion "Zone", of high effectiveness, low stress, feeling good and powerful
CONTENTS
Navigating the section
For Perspective also...
The Wonders Of Emotion
Most Of It Is "Learned" Reactions
How Does One Manage His/Her Emotions?
Continuing on to:
Deal with specific emotions, linked via this Specific Emotions page:
Addictions, Anger/Critic, Fear/Anxiety, Depression, Frustration, Grieving, Pain,
Guilt and Shame, Inspiration, Overwhelm, Regret, Sadness, Stress,
Suffering/Struggling, and more... (Go to these using the search engine.)
Mastering:
Frustration
Impatience
Overwhelm
Resistance
Avoidance.
Changing one's life viewpoint. Choosing:
***Our Personas - Inner Child, Outer Child, Adult, Adopted Personalities - Understand
these!
Sentences - Re-"viewing", Re-"forming", Renewing
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NAVIGATING THIS SECTION
FOR PERSPECTIVE, ALSO...
See also, for the necessary perspective and knowledge for managing one's life:
THE WONDERS OF EMOTION
As we learn in studying evolution, the function of emotion is to get us moving very quickly without having to think.
You jump out of the way of a speeding car you somehow detected, though it was not directly in your sight. Emotion has saved your life. If you had to think in order to recognize the danger, and think about what to do, you would not survive in life.
And it is those very features that get us into trouble also.
The "art of the deal" is for one to learn what to do the minute one becomes conscious of it in the higher brain.
MOST OF IT IS "LEARNED" REACTIONS
If you study how the primitive brain works (and matches up records mechanically, in order to figure out what to do) and you study the key unhappiness emotion of Fear, you learn that "most of what frightens us are things that we have learned, and theref're it should be possible for us to unlearn them." [Quote from the meeting with scientists and the Dalai Lama, with other Buddhists, under the auspices of the Mind Life Institute, as described in Daniel Goleman's book "Destructive Emotions".]
HOW DOES ONE MANAGE HIS/HER EMOTIONS?
Three parts:
1. Rework the underlying beliefs that cause the "negative", unhealthy emotions.
(There's three primary overlays that when dealt with disappear others.)
2. Rework one's underlying philosophy of life to create a super strong
foundation!
3. Manage/eliminate the emotions in the moment, effectively!
Using these techniques, which have been proven over and over to work, will help you live a more stable, more powerful life where the emotions no longer rule. Managing one's emotions well can enhance one's motivation and one's thinking so that one feels (and is actually) very powerful and effective. Yes, emotions (caused by chemicals emitted in the body) are compelling, but they, by no means, must rule one's life. Emotions are results of thoughts/beliefs/fear-thoughts - ruling the thinking creates all of the results in one's life - ALL of them! (And we can train the mind [actually rewire it] to be calm and largely imperturbable.)
Many of these emotions were useful in caveman days, but they are misused and overused today.
In this Emotion Management section, we include topical coverage pieces to read. Read the overview ones first (they're identified), in the Emotional Management Overall section.
Return to this section after reading the rest of the overall discussion on emotions:
Essential: know what function these were originally designed for and then you can manage them!!!!
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Return later to review:
SPECIFIC EMOTIONS OR EMOTION MANAGEMENT ISSUES:
Look to see which problem or desired result is and simply go to that section. However it is best first to understand the basics of emotions, as that understanding catapults you into greater effectiveness when you get to the specific item to apply it to!
GROUNDING SUMMARY MODULES - To put this and overall life into perspective:
living
Related pieces:
Our Personas - Inner Child, Outer Child, Adult, Adopted Personalities
Read the piece below but it is useful also to get a bigger perspective on life
by reading the "quick summaries" on
mental health and happiness.
As a part of your learning and implementation process, read and understand CONTROLLING THE EMOTIONS IN THE BODY - SIMPLE AND QUICK , as these actions and techniques are directly doable and practical and don't require some quantum leap in thinking - i.e. they're not hard to do.
Read per interest:
Behavior
Blame, Anger, Criticism
and minimize these, for a happier life. See also Relationships,
Control
be clear on those things you can control and what you can't. Finish this here and
now.
Emotions, Feelings, Emotional Maturity
to master emotions, so one becomes the victim of them. Avoidance in order not to
feel in the short term leads to much negative emotion and the desire to distract
oneself with unuseful, unhealthy activities.
We overeat, smoke to get "dopamined", drink, drug out - and what we get is less
"feeling good"!
many, many more emotions and special sections beyond the writeups below.
Frustration - Frustration Tolerance Level - Increasing It And/or Lowering Your
Frustration - It is well worth putting out the effort to stop any frustration cycle.
Intuition
Intuition - Often misused, but if used appropriately it has much contributory value.
Overall Life
Resistance
Training
the theories and pracctices of psychology regarding emotional balance, including
cultivation of attention and qualities of loving-kindness, compassion, empathetic
joy and equanimity.
SENTENCES - RE-"VIEWING", RE-"FORMING", RENEWING - This section has been moved to the Internal Conversations section. Perhaps the most vital component of formulating a
happy life. A sampling:
