SOME BASIC GROUNDING READINGS

                       THE ETERNAL INTERNAL TRIANGLE - AN EMPOWERING MODEL - Use this
                           model to understand all the basic overview in psychology and in relationships. 
                           This should clear up which part of you needs to be in charge and will add insights
                           that will help you see how certain practices and ways of viewing things will
                           enhance your life tremendously.
                        DEVELOPING AND USING THE HIGHER SELF - There are ways to train to
                           dramatically increase your higher brain functioning so that it is automatic and so
                           that life runs much more smoothly and effectively for greater happiness.
                        THE JUDGE/CRITIC - This is a great deal of the basis for psychology.  Learn to
                           handle this and your relationship with yourself and others will dramatically
                           improve. 
                           (See also the Criticism, Blame, Negative Communication section under
                            Relationships, Communication.)  
                         IS THIS WHO I AM, THE WAY I AM? - People miscontrue who they are and the
                            ability to change one's "ways."  
                         THE CHOICE: BE A VICTIM, PLEASER, PERSECUTOR OR AN ADULT -
                            Understand and know these personas (roles, ways of being) so that you are not
                             inappropriately in them - so you can live a much, much, much better life.
                             THE DETECTION GAME - WAS I BEING A VICTIM, PERSECUTOR,
                                PLEASER OR AN ADULT? -  A form to practice with for a few weeks in
                               order to develop a greater ability to spot what is going on and to "get off it".

THE PERSONAS AND "WAYS OF BEING" -

    Child - Main Page -  (or Inner Child, My Child, My Little Girl/Boy, Poor
         Little Me) - Has its own section
    Judge/critic/protector,
    Adult,
    DEVELOPING AND USING THE HIGHER SELF
    Adopted personas
         Parent (my copying of my parent) - As in Transactional Analysis 
         My idol

  Readings per interest  (Read per interest, see above for key pieces for everyone to read.  Read
       especially those titles that are capitalized. The pieces on child are also now in the special
       section and reorganized for possible order of reading.)
                      See also Relationships, Communication, Criticism/Blame...
                      For "taking care of your inner child", see Feeling, Caring Presence under Methods.

    LIFE - A CHOICE OF HOW WE LIVE IT - We can live a life where we
        operate from beliefs that work and from a paradigm of what works,
        instead of right/wrong, good/bad.  This piece tells us how we can live it
        much, much more effectively.

     ADULT, INNER CHILD, "OTHER" CHILD - THE ETERNAL
          INTERNAL TRIANGLE 

         Knowing this model and how these pieces work together can make the
             difference between operating at a lower level and operating at the
             highest in life and for happiness.  We derived certain strategies and
             beliefs that were very poorly thought out and are very dysfunctional -
             and it is our job to use this model and process to elevate them to
             highly functional.  LOOK AT THIS FIRST.

                     Adult, Parent, Child Model - Behaviors of each
                     Inner Child - Do We Really Have One?
                     The Outer Child - This is "The Other" Us that we create to protect us, but which can
                        be highly dysfunctional.  Learn what it is and how to better manage life.
                     The Outer Child, Logic Of - This is how it "thinks".  This helps one see which of these
                        you are engaged in - you may wish to make some new choices, however!

(F)                    Being - Choosing States Of
                        Being - Ways Of     
                        Characteristics of My Caregivers      
                      *CHILDHOOD DECISIONS AND TOOLS - Are you still operating from them? Are
                          you ready to give them up?
(F)                    COMPASSION AND THE HUMAN CONDITION - A LOOK AT YOURSELF - See
                           what compassion really is, rating yourself as you go.  Most people don't know
                           what compassion really is!  
                        Immature Emotions - Shame, Guilt, Self-Pity...  How we misuse them! Find out
                           what they are and how to stop having them use you!
                        Inner Child - Do We Really Have One?    
                        PERSONAS AND ROLES - Which Are Dominant For You?   
                       As A Powerful Person I... 

(F)                    Responsibility Vs. Non-Responsibility - Where Are You?  (Self-rating)
                       Victimhood only begets being a victim, with its poor payoffs and horrendous costs.
                        Where Are You On The Victim Vs. Causer Scale?    

    RATIONAL, NURTURING ADULT section - Imperative for getting what you want in life             

                              

    Behaviors

             Codependence, Enabling

                       Do I Have Some Patterns Or Characteristics of CO-DEPENDENCY?  And What Do
                           I Want To Do About This? - Do you want to continue to waste much of your life
                           and damage your relationships or do something about it?  First take this test to
                           see what reality is.


PERSONALITY TYPES

Moved to its own page:   Personality Types.  See also "Personas" (above), as many of these become "personalities".

PERSONAS, ROLES, AND PERSONALITY TYPES
KNOW THESE SO YOU KNOW HOW TO OPERATE
YOU CAN ALSO CHOOSE THEM!



A "personality" is partially a chosen and partially a conditioned way of being, thinking, and behaving, largely believed by oneself as the best way to get what one wants in life and/or to avoid what one does not want.

A good portion of the base of it is initially created in a murky, low understanding condition of unthinkingness and insufficient knowledge.  The raw materials that are digested into it are that which is "suggested" (or input) by others, supplemented with our own unthought out interpretation and made-ups about what we believe to be true and workable (although it is seldom adequately tested). 

It is not an actual part of us, not an arm nor a leg nor any other part, though we often choose to keep it or a modified version of it throughout our lives.  It is not the actual "who I am", for I have the capability of so altering my knowledge and understanding and questioning and replacing all of the elements that it would serve me to change.  It is only something I've adopted, no more permanent nor no more a part of me than barnacles on a ship's underside.  However, I will not choose well if I choose in ignorance, so, to accomplish what I want in my life, I must attain "sufficient knowing" to be able to make a good choice.

The bottom line is that I can choose and I can change my personality to whatever serves me.

Of course, this will take some time and well-directed effort, but the payoff is in life itself, in being able to live out my life at a higher level of existence and in true, deep, enduring happiness.

What personality we choose to keep or take in is a choice - and in no way is it a given! In no way is it "me"!  I am not stuck with it; I only stick with it - or I don't stick with it if it does not serve me.

Now, if we are to have the life we want to live, we must begin, with commitment of time and resources, the journey of learning what is needed and learning about life itself. 

Starting, And Continuing, Great Momentum On Improving Life, Reaping Huge Benefits As We Go And Even More As We Hit Our Goas.  Any living being, unless hugely mentally handicapped, is capable of this! 

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We "assume", and live into, ways of being, in the form of "personas" and personalities, all of which we have constructed artificially and unusefully.  Which we "take on" and live into determines the quality of our lives and ultimately our happiness.

You are not stuck with any predetermined way of being.  You get to choose.

Choose wisely.  This IS your life.

                                                                               The BuddhaKahuna

Will you choose to take on the Child (and Victimhood) persona?  Or the Rational, Loving Adult (100% Responsible) persona? 

The myth of a "child within" or any other mysterious entities is purely fictional - and a bit "nuts."

                                                                                The BuddhaKahuna
           ________________________________________________________________

                                                                
Contents:

   Some BASIC GROUNDING READINGS 
   The PERSONAS and Ways of Being 
   PERSONALITY Types 


PERSONAS (AND "WAYS OF BEING")

Personas are "sets" of characteristics and behaviors, often grouped by type and/or by a character in your past.  We can choose what to adopt, but we should also choose which to moderate - such as a copying of a critical parent figure, etc., or the use of the personas of Victim, Persecutor, or Pleaser.
The choice to use other ways of being and to be a Rational, Loving Adult is imperative for getting what you want in lifeVictimhood only begets being a victim, with its poor payoffs and horrendous costs.  Learn in depth about both of the two key personas (the other is The Child Persona), so you can fully be where you want to be - this is an area to be a true expert in!!!!! 

Instead of just keeping the old dysfunctional persona, you can choose more powerful personas and life a much better life!!!

Read and understand how and why to choose Ways Of Being.


PERSONALITY TYPES

Who cares about one's personality types?  It's not about "good" or "better".  It's actually a quick guide to what is relevant to a person in terms of what types of problems or weaknesses he/she will encounter and the ways to shore those areas up to enhance the strengths of such a person - it provides a key to living a better life.  When one is experiencing some kind of "problem" in how one feels, one can look at, particularly, one's "enneagram" type and find out why and what to do about it.

That's time-saving and saves time from feeling down.  That's pretty powerful.
      

THE MOST SIGNIFICANT DECISION/CHANGE YOU CAN MAKE

To shift from
  
   Child and Victimhood

ToRational, Loving Adult
   
The viewpoint and clarity change can create a quantum leap forward in one's life.
    _____________________

The Highly Sensitive Person 
PERSONALITY TYPES

What is your personality type?
What changes are recommended?
What strengths to utilize better?

Enneagram
Myers Briggs
Work style
CONTENTS/LINKS FOR
PERSONAS, PERSONALITIES, WAYS OF BEING  (Section)