CONTENTS:

  METHODS AND/OR FORMS YOU CAN USE TO ACHIEVE YOUR OBJECTIVES 
       See also the Reminders Notebooks that can be used to keep one on track and focused.
       LOVING ONESELF - A vital skill and a "doing" that is essential.
       PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEM SOLVING - Reinforce and learn from the Life Management
             section:  Problem Solving And Decision Making
       THOUGHT CALMING
               - AND MEDITATION   
       THOUGHT CHANGING/REPLACING - See also: Beliefs and Thoughts section.

  TYPES OF TRAINING AND/OR COUNSELING 
       Therapies
       Hypnosis
       Transformation
       Twelve steps

METHODS AND/OR FORMS YOU CAN USE TO ACHIEVE YOUR OBJECTIVES


Use these!!!!  Staying in touch, upset-free and essentially stress free has one experiencing life at a magnificient level, where we should be.  Some methods take only one to three minutes and others can be done in from 10-30 minutes, depending on what you want to resolve.  Do these regularly and you'll have very few unresolved problems. 

It is useful to use the forms under Psychology, Overall, Internal Conversations.

Also, see the Problem Solving Section in Life Management.

             (F) = Form

             See also Psychological Tests And Monitoring section

             See the methods used for changing your Internal Conversations - perhaps the key influencer
                of happiness, confidence, and loving.
  

To:  LOVING ONESELF

 
PSYCHOLOGICAL PROBLEM SOLVING - See also Problem Solving, under Life Management, for additional tools.  Alot of upsets occur with people; if that is the case, see the Conflicts/Upsets In Relationships section.


    Primary:

(F)                   Rational Self Analysis - What Happened, What Beliefs Occurred And Altering Them -
                           This process, if you have any ability to be rational (which you do!), can have you
                           seeing much more clearly what is occurring and how to actually come to closure.  
                           Highly, highly recommended!!
(F)                   Thought Change Record - The process used by cognitive behaviorists, where you
                           locate your thoughts and emotions and address some alternative ways of
                           thinking.   
(F)                   Breakdown/Breakthrough - Use the long or short form.
                       The Truth Test - Is it provably true?  If not, it should be "not believed".

    Getting in touch with the body and emotions:

                       Scan/Allies/Mantra - Relaxed, Centered, In Touch 3 Minutes At A Time - A very
                           useful exercise for being in touch with what your mind is saying that can be
                           picked up in the body and then applying the loving and nurturing to it that you have
                           always wanted.
                       Focusing - A method of "looking" to see what is going on inside, scanning one's
                           body which will inevitably reveal that something is amiss and then going through a
                           process to accept, hold, nourish and "complete" where needed.  See the     
                           Recommended Books section for the "Power Of Focusing".   

     Other:

(F)                   Conscious Upset Resolution Exercise - Worksheet - Useful personally and in a
                           relationship.  Download (click on the link) this worksheet from (Resources, The
                           CURE) EnlightenedPartners.com and use it to objectify your internal experience
                           and to vent, take steps to resolve the cause of the upset, and to create
                           understanding and compassion.  See also on the linked site:  The Anatomy Of
                           Negative Belief Structure.  If you're dealing with a relationship problem, print out
                           "The Cure Part II".
                       Intuition - Does it work, and, if so,  how can it be used?
(F)                    My Child Statements - What Is My Child Saying - You can go directly to what your
                           "inner child" is saying about a happening or what someone did, then go one step
                           deeper and identify what is going on, then completing the process with a  
                           statement that is "re-formed" (formed anew to be much more effective).
                       The Free Flow Of Thought Process - Julia Cameron's "The Morning Pages" involves
                             just writing out (usually in long hand) whatever your thoughts are (including "this
                             is a stupid idea" or "I can't think of anything to write", etc.).  The minimum (and 
                             this is important as it is necessary for "completing") is the equivalent of three
                             handwritten pages.  Although it seems to make no sense, it does work - and a
                             number of healthy people I know use it extensively.



To:  THOUGHT CALMING AND THOUGHT CHANGING MAIN PAGE
      Go to Thought Calming and Thought Changing Page to cover this vital area.  They are very different
       processes.

  THOUGHT CALMING - Thought changing (see below) has a dramatic effect on having more
     calmness of mind.  Changing beliefs is also vital.  Thought calming tells the primitive danger
     reacting part of the brain that things are "safe", so it is less reactive - the brain actually changes its
     physical "wiring" so that it is also more automatic to feel calm and centered and takes little effort
     to maintain - this is scientifically proven.

   THOUGHT CHANGING - This is vital because if you don't do it, then you'll constantly be trying to
      cover it over, compensate for it, experience bad feelings, and battling it.  Cleaning it up only
      makes sense - and it's alot less effort than living with harmful and/or limiting thoughts.
 

TYPES OF TRAINING AND/OR COUNSELING

You'll find many of these to be "supplementary" to each other, as no one type is the whole answer, in my opinion.  The cognitive behavioral (rational emotive behavior therapy) has been proven to be highly effective, though doing "the two foot drop" down to your gut (see Methods above) is a very useful process also.

                     COGNITIVE BEHAVIORAL - Proven the most effective approach to reducing
                          depression and getting people back on track.  "Feeling"-based therapy can be useful
                          also.  Explanation of Rational Emotive Behaviorr Therapy.  Piece by the "founder" on
                          Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy - Albert Ellis.
                     DIALECTIC BEHAVIOR THERAPY - Cognitive behavior and AA combined, in a sense,
                           into a marveolous system, often used for substance "misbehavior" and "borderline
                           personality discorders, but I think it would be useful for anyone.  Lots of good forms
                           to track and modify behavior.   Best if done with private therapy and professionally
                           led groups (as opposed to AA type leadership).
                     EFT - Proven effective in several venues, from post traumatic stress syndrome to other
                         emotional and physical dysfunctions.  It would seem implausible, except that our
                         thoughts are actually  electrochemical physical things.  Emofree.com
                     HYPNOSIS - Simplistically speaking, this is just a means of producing productive
                       thinking, including better beliefs and viewpoints.
                           A Brief Piece On Hypnosis - What It Is And What It Isn't  
                           Benefits of Hypnosis - An article by a master, Katherine Zimmerman, CHT.  Also a
                                Reiki trainer and an EFT practitioner.   
                     LIFE WISDOM TRAINING - Actually courses that are considered transformational are
                          actually based on training in life wisdom.  The  correlation between these and such 
                          disciplines as Buddhism is remarkably strong; they are just presented in a different,
                           more Western format. See Resources, Psychological
                     MEDITATION TECHNIQUES - See Oprah.com, the trainings around A New Earth. 
                           There they lay out all sorts of techniques, quickly and understandably.  See the list
                           of "Exercises" to get a better idea of what is there - and to choose what to do.
                           See also Peacefulearth.com for training.  
                     RATIONAL ANALYSIS - See a version in the Problem Solving section, above.
                     SELF-TALK - While implicitly included in cognitive behavior training, this practice
                        embraces what you focus on, your languaging both internally and externally to others,                          "coping" statements, and such things as mantras - all of which contribute to changing                          your brain circuitry, thinking, and ultimately your happiness level.
                     TRANSFORMATIONAL - Interesting, with surprising results few anticipate adequately
                           "Transformation" Methodology Is Effective, Understandable, and Not "Strange" -
                               Visit the Landmark Education site to see a very practical version of education
                                   that can make a quantum leap in having your life work much, much better. 
                               This type of training is well worth looking at and absolutely worthwhile doing.
                               See also the other organizations and their websites as listed in
                                      Recommended Resources - Psychological
                     12 STEP - The most practiced discipline in the Western world.  Many effective
                           techniques are included in these.  These by themselves are positive, but my opinion
                           is that they need to be supplemented by learning and applying more of the
                           concepts in the other disciplines.  It would be most helpful to have a qualified guide
                           and/or counselor.
                           Do I Have Some Patterns Or Characteristics Of Co-Dependency? And What Do
                               I Want To Do About This? - Find out which behaviors you do and where you are
                               wasting your energies. Possibly attend a CoDA meeting.  See "selecting",
                               below. 
                          Revised Version Of The Twelve Steps - A Secularized Version - Reworded to
                               eliminate vague references to spiritual entities outside of oneself.
                          Selecting The Right 12 Step Program For You - Which one fits what you need and
                              how can you also find a group that fits you and is also very productive.
                          To see the key tenets, etc., and to connect to the various types of programs,
                              go to:   www.twelvestep.com (Resources section)



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