SELF TALK AND INTERNAL CONVERSATIONS
PERFECT THESE IF YOU ARE TO BE HAPPY!!!!


It is impossible to be happy without at least a very good internal conversation!!!!!!!!

CONTENTS:

HANDLING INTERNAL CONVERSATIONS
THE STEPS TO A HEALTHY, HAPPY, WISE INTERNAL CONVERSATION
THE BENEFITS
WHY PEOPLE DO NOT DO WHAT IS NEEDED
WHY "PROCESS" THE SENTENCES 
HOW TO PROCEED
CORE READINGS 
WORKSHEETS  

See next:  Affirming/Empowering Self-Talk, after which we'll proceed to what forms the basis for creating that self conversation: Assuring that we have true, useful beliefs. After that, we'll proceed to what effect those beliefs have in terms of emotions
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HANDLING INTERNAL CONVERSATIONS 
- COULD PROVIDE THE WHOLE FOUNDATION
FOR A WHOLE NEW LIFE


THE MOST POWERFUL CHANGE IN YOUR LIFE WILL COME FROM CREATING AN EMPOWERING INTERNAL CONVERSATION.

Nothing else can beat it, as it is the basis for one judging one's life experience and worth.  It is the doorway to all the rest; it enables the journey; it becomes the context for all of life. 

Few people have "straight, positive" thinking - and even almost all of them could "beef it up" in certain areas to be more effective/powerful in their lives.  For the rest of us, it is imperative that we 

DO NOT ALLOW ANYTHING TO PREVAIL AGAINST OUR HAPPINESS.

Managing the mind is our most important job - as it is, in fact, our very life - it is what creates the quality of our lives where we live, in our minds.  It is what allows us to not be limited by assumptions/beliefs about ourselves and life.  

A conversation is a stating of a belief, thought,  and/or fact.  As such, we are working here with an overlap, where we need to create a sound basis for a conversation by revising beliefs, implementing new beliefs by making affirming statements, controlling the thought process, and learning what is true or not. 

So, while we need to deal with those components, we also would best realize that we are always talking to ourselves (or at least hearing what is said) even when we are making statements to others, which is why we need to control our languaging to that which is positive and progressive.

You might also notice the scientific basis for rewiring the brain so that it automatically sifts out negative statements, plus the "why" of our internal conversations in How The Mind Developed


THE STEPS TO HEALTHY, HAPPY, WISE INTERNAL TALK

1.  Stop allowing negative conversations - In your head and in your environment.  (See pieces below.) Note that "dealing with symptoms" is not true problem solving, which is a skill that is vital to living a great life.

2,  Identify AND Rework negative conversations - Address the core ones first for fast progress, using your current increased knowledge and your reasoning.  (See pieces below.)

       Install wise conversations on specific items - Repeat, read, record
       Override negative thoughts when regular key sentences

3.  Establish a new, strong foundational philosophy that will pervade  your thinking for the rest of your life.

     Install it fully - 1st 30 days, with reminder dates to review and reinforce


USE RESOURCES TO MAKE IT EASIER AND MORE EFFECTIVE - Smart, qualified helpers and books and courses.  See Psychological Resources section.


INSTALL REMINDER/REINFORCEMENT SYSTEM - Use a place to put all of this to review and reinforce, including recordings.  See Reminders/Inspiration Notebook system.

There are some items we can add to this, such as implementing new practices that contribute to this, using resources to reinforce who we are (such as ToolsToLife, free), and reviewing the related sections, such as the Happiness section.  


THE BENEFITS

FULL SELF-EXPRESSION - With the limiting beliefs no longer putting a lid on freely expressing oneself.

MUCH HIGHER ENERGY - Without the suppression, there is more energy.  With positive focus on what is desired, energy is actually created.

MUCH MORE FULFILLMENT -  Without disempowering conversations and with empowering conversations to replace them, we are freed up to do the things that matter most and which "fill us up" so that we are much more satisfied!

MUCH GREATER HAPPINESS - Eliminating the negative, inserting the positive and the powerful, fulfilling more of one's desires, feeling good about oneself and feeling effective, etc., produces easily more than 10 times the former levels of happiness and probably 100's of times more on balance.  (See the Happiness section to see what does and what doesn't produce happiness          and what unknowingly creates more unhappiness!  Note that people are notoriously inept at predicting what will actually produce happiness, and they keep doing what doesn't work!)


WHY DON'T PEOPLE DO THIS?

So, the question remains:  Why do people neglect this?  The answer is the same as for other neglected areas:

1.  They don't believe there are workable solutions/methods.

              There are doable, workable methods!  People have done it.  
              Sometimes people think it doesn't work because they have seen people 
              "fail" because they did not complete the process and fully utilize the 
              methods, so, of course, the result was never obtained.  
              Many have not  adopted "maintenance" systems to keep it going.  

              Those who have followed the complete program have completed and 
              installed the maintenance systems and are delighted with the 
              results!!!

2.  They don't know how to proceed.

              This is what we have focused on, so that you have an established 
              path with doable steps in it.  We have read, searched, and screened 
              many, many books and resources - and have settled on what we see 
              as the "best of the best".  

3.  They believe it is too much effort.  

               It is less effort and alot more enjoyable than the alternative of 
               repeating negative thinking and the wasted time in life coping with 
               negative thinking - plus the addictions, loss in health, etc.  People 
               continue suffering needlessly.  People seek distractions for "relief" 
               from their thinking - and those distractions are very unrewarding and 
               use up lots of energy that could have been placed toward something 
               much more fulfilling.

4.  They don't clearly see ALL the benefits.

              If they did, they would put this in the very first priority position!!!

              FULL SELF-EXPRESSION - With the limiting beliefs no longer 
              putting a lid on this.

              MUCH HIGHER ENERGY - Without the suppression, there is more 
              energy.  With positive focus on what is desired, energy is created!   

              MUCH MORE POWERFUL/EFFECTIVE - Easily reach desired 
              objectives and wants.

              MUCH MORE FULFILLED - Doing the things that matter most and 
              "fill us up" the most is so very, very satisfying!   

              MUCH GREATER HAPPINESS - Eliminating the negative, inserting 
              the positive and powerful, fulfilling more of one's desires, feeling good 
              about oneself and feeling effective, etc., produces easily more than 10 
              times the former levels of happiness and probably 100's of times more 
              on balance.  (See Happiness section to see what does and what 
              doesn't produce happiness and what unknowingly creates more 
              unhappiness!  Note that people are notoriously inept at predicting what 
              will actually produce happiness, but they keep doing what doesn't 
              work!)


WHY "PROCESS" THE SENTENCES: REFORMING THEM FOR EMPOWERMENT

During our early years and during other times when we are not knowledgeable or wise, we attach ourselves to beliefs, rules, and/or philosophies that are not empowering, not true, and which often make no sense if thought through. 

In essence, though most often not on purpose, we form a “philosophy”, as these sentences we create express a “viewing point” about life – an explicit one, stated “out loud” in your mind.  And then we repeat them, over and over and over...  

Most of these sentences were formed as a way of protecting ourselves from an imagined or exaggerated danger.   

Re-forming sentences that you spot are part of the process.

And you could approach this by addressing key areas or problems and then creating empowering (viewpoints) statements.   


NOTES ON HOW TO PROCEED

Read the core readings (below) and the instructions on what to do. 

Do all the "rework" process as you must go through the middle of it to get to 
    the other side; there is no way around it.  
    However, we recommend you first go through and limit yourself to the Big 
    Five (or so) items.  
          When one experiences and sees good results rather quickly, it motivates 
               one to go further.            
             Later, spread out over more time on a regular schedule, we'll complete 
             the others.  

You will find no greater reward than completing the renewed, reworked way of thinking.


WHAT'S NEXT?

After being sure you understand this section, it is best to integrate this with the Psychology, Affirmations/Empowering Statements!  

Affirmations/Empowering Statements are definitely part of the internal conversation process, so see that section and implement what is appropriate

Definitely also see the following sections, as all are related to the whole:  

       1. Psychological, Methods (see "Thought Change Record) and 
       2. Life Management, Learning and Thinking!  

It is vital, and hereby recommended strongly, that you first read the two parts of 
    The Underlying Basics of Life, as it "sets up" an overview that contributes to 
     handling "unuseful" internal conversations.  


CORE READINGS:                       


Read the key pieces on overall life philosophy in the Philosophy section, as they'll give you a grounding in the BS we hand ourselves and in what we can believe in order to be unhindered by childhood beliefs and beliefs that make us unhappy.

CHAINING OF THOUGHTSUNCHAINING YOURSELF TO CREATE GREATER HAPPINESS

                        Also, see below:  "Stopping Negative Conversations".

PROTECTING THE MIND FROM THE NEGATIVE - THE PROCESS FOR -  Solidly install this and operate much more easily without the weeds! (Enter any key item you want to implement into the site's search engine.)

       Stopping Negative Conversations - The conversation to stop the negative conversation from 
            spiraling in your head and wasting your energy.  This is the basis for a recording to play (or a 
            page to read) whenever the negative conversation is dominating your mind.  
       Handling Negative Thinking In The Moment - What to do in order to never allow negative 
            thinking to run in your mind. Take THE PLEDGE!


OTHER OVERALL READINGS AND WORKSHEETS:


Why Process The Sentences

                          Sentences - Processing Into Empowering Statements - The argument for "re-
                            forming" disempowering statements into empowering ones.  


HANDING PRESENT NEGATIVE INTERNAL TALK

When you catch yourself in a negative conversation, do these.

1.  Catch It And : 

Repeat memorized key sentences.  
Stopping The Negative Conversation - Read this as a substitute when a negative conversation is in your head.  Contains the  "short" version of not entertaining thoughts a whole set of offsetting beliefs, which are designed to "extinguish" the thoughts and not just to distract one from them., 
This is the conversation to stop the negative conversation from spiraling in your head and wasting your energy.  This is the basis for a recording to play (or a page to read) whenever the negative conversation is dominating your mind.  

2.  Rework it immediately or asap:

Redo to reinforcing sentence.  In head or writing in a notebook or journal, redo the sentences into more realistic, reinforcing sentences. 
Sentences - Reworking The Whole Conversation To Be Empowering (F)- This is a form for listing 
each sentence in a "chain" of sentences in the conversation that leads you down a negative path.  Any one sentence can be "re-formed" into an empowering statement and/or could be entered into the other sentence forms above.  
        My Utility "Coping" Thoughts - These are thoughts that generalize about life which                       are brought into mind readily and frequently when things happen.  They can be 
        disempowering (identify yours) or empowering.  Examples of coping statements 
        are provided to choose from or jump off of. 


WORKSHEETS FOR CLEARING UP "TAPES" AND CORE STATEMENTS


Negative Internal Talk And Beliefs To Rework For The Long Term:

       Core self-belief statements that underly all the negatives

             This identifies the specific ones that are common to all, so you are likely to find your own.

(F)         Core Statement Rework Process - THE BELIEF TRANSFORMATION PROCESS - 
                           There are certain beliefs about yourself, at the core, that you carry around with 
                           you that also do not serve you well.  You can, without a great deal of difficulty, 
                           re-form those to ones that will serve you well in life.  Re-forming and replacing 
                           those core beliefs allows one to easily release those numerous supporting
                           disempowering beliefs that have been derived from each core belief - it is a lot like 
                           blowing up a large building, where the charges only have to be placed at the 
                           strategic supporting columns to have the whole building fall in on itself!  Save 
                           yourself lots of time that could be wasted on dealing with each disempowering 
                           belief randomly and/or one at a time - which is one of the inefficiencies of most 
                           therapeutic approaches.

        Applies to clearing up any statement

             Use this approach to "rework" any statement that you are making that is negatively 
                   impactful on you:

             The Finding The Solution To The Problem Created By The Conversation of "..."
                   ExampleThe Finding The Solution To The Problem Created By The Conversation of
                        “I Must Not Be Disapproved Of By These Powerful People."   

(F)          Sentences - My Rework of - The Deeper Form, With Simpler Form - These carry 
                   you through all aspects of some of the key sentences you tell yourself, so you can 
                   create greater understanding and re-form them into an adult conversation.

              Thought Creation, Displacement, Re-Formation - It's Simple Physics (to be done)


        In an actual situation, use this for "solution"

(F)           Rational Self Analysis - What Happened, What Beliefs Occurred And Altering Them - 
                            This process, if you have any ability to be rational (which you do!), can have you 
                            seeing much more clearly what is occurring and how to actually come to closure.                             Highly, highly recommended!!

                Another way of clearing things up: 

Internal, repeating tapes - Usable for all "tapes" (about some particular trait or shortcoming 
           that is believed and repeated over and over, like a tape; "no one likes me", "clumsy", "victim", 
           etc.)

(F)             Stupid Tape - Dealing With My - Clearing up this "tape" realistically - format can be 
                            used for other "tapes" 

COPING IN THE MOMENT

       Handling Negative Thinking In The Moment - What to do in order to never allow negative 
            thinking to run in your mind. Take THE PLEDGE!


To:   METHODS TO USE IN THE PSYCHOLOGICAL , to access these: 

           Loving Oneself
           Psychological Problem Solving
           Thought Calming         
                 Meditation
           Thought Changing/Replacing

           Plus:
                 Types Of Training/Workshops/Therapies/Programs

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REFERENCE SECTIONS

Empowering Conversations Contents/Links 

Specific Affirmations, Conversations, Statements Contents/Links 

Related:

Beliefs Contents/Links

Philosophy Contents/Links
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KEY RELATED PIECES

Self-Talk Tools  
Chaining Of Thought 
Protecting The Mind From The 
    Negative 
Stopping Negative Conversations  
Handling Negative Thinking, Now!
Languaging  
Affirming/Empowering
Coping statements
Beliefs  

 
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