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Creating an empowering conversation to replace the current internal conversation will lighten up your life and dramatically increase the level of your happiness.
NAVIGATE
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CONTENTS OF THIS PAGE:
The "self-conversation" determines the quality of our lives
Part of a bigger process
Stopping the "other" conversations
Deconstructing, reconstructing
Replacing, installing
Will you commit to shifting "roles" and to "the process"?
Eliminating the negative
Creating the positive basics
SECTIONS:
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THE "SELF-CONVERSATION" DETERMINES THE QUALITY OF OUR LIVES
What we say to ourselves determines the quality of our lives, yet we leave it up to random inputs and unthought-out conclusions.
If we instead create "on purpose" a more powerful way of thinking, we can create a life where we no longer limit ourselves and where we create what we want, freely and with great strength and effectiveness.
At the base of our conversations are beliefs. Beliefs are determinate of how we feel about life. False beliefs are the source of fear and negative emotion, unnecessarily, yet we persist in them.
We cannot live a good life with those, so they must be replaced with empowering, true beliefs that serve us.
But if we do not "install" them properly, we lose much of the power.
And if we don't create a general self conversation that consists of highly empowering statements, declarations, affirmations, commitments and stands, we are leaving alot of the potential of life on the table. We can, instead, reap the full value of life and of feeling good and powerful on a consistent basis.
Will you join me in creating that?
Unconsciously, we "affirm" beliefs and "facts" constantly. Yet we affirm what isn't true. We repeat what we have acquired from others and from easily accessible sources.
Affirmations are underrated, misused, and used in a limited manner. When they are used they are often structured ineffectively with the wrong message or a light weight one, with minimal benefit.
They should be considered to be an invaluable, essential part of creating a much more powerful new way of thinking and speaking. Not only do they help create more of a balance toward the positive, but they also help create a personal powerfulness and a strong certainty of self, both of which are great traits that underly the success in life of the happiest people on earth.
PART OF A BIGGER PROCESS
These affirmations/statements are is a part of a bigger process, which is that of replacing beliefs that are erroneous but which one has thoroughly bought into and grown to believe as "the truth", even though they often make no real sense if they are looked at at all. The affirmations and statements below reflect possible replacements that you can look at and see if they might be useful and then just use them.
STOPPING THE "OTHER" CONVERSATION
As you know, it is depressing and harmful to have negative thoughts, especially when they are chained together into a downward spiral. Those should not be tolerated in your mental/emotional house. If you haven't learned this skill, read
DECONSTRUCTING, RECONSTRUCTING
In some cases, it is better for you to go through and look at your beliefs in a more detailed way and then deconstruct and reconstruct new true, useful ones.
See the Beliefs/Thoughts section as to how to create the new beliefs AND the understanding necessary to buy into them.
REPLACING, INSTALLING
The affirmation process is a way of learning the new beliefs and imprinting them through the "greatest learning device": repetition. We learned the dysfunctional ones by repetition and we can override them by repetition. We've simply got to affirm over and over what is a true belief that is helpful and useful for creating a better way of thinking and a better life.
This might seem like a lot of work to some, and it does take some initial extra time and focus, but soon the new conversations will become automatic and effortless - and your self conversatons become seemingly magically positive, while actually being very soundly grounded. The process actually changes the neuronal pathways, so it becomes "hard wired" into your thinking and "permanent" (until replaced), in a scientifically proven process of Rewiring The Brain.
Now, if we look at the purpose of affirmations, it becomes obvious that they are other supporting actions that help contribute to achieve that same purpose. The purpose is to realize our full power (and be happy) - or, on the other side, to STOP being unpowerful or holding ourselves back or down.
WILL YOU COMMIT TO SHIFTING "ROLES" AND TO "THE PROCESS"?
In the piece called Creating Empowering Self-Conversations, we discuss the idea of creating a substitute for the Critic/Judge role that creates most of the negative conversations and you have the opportunity to check off what you've been doing and what you will commit to in this process.
You'll find that when you are taking on a role (intending to put yourself into that role) your conversation will change automatically to what is more consistent with that role. That is why I encourage you to try to shift from the Child role (and conversation, which is weak and powerless and damaging) to the Rational, Nurturing Adult role (which is forward looking, responsible, and powerful).
"The Process" consists of going from identifying the negative thoughts, through the Changing Beliefs Process, and finally to the installing through review and repetition until they are part of your internal conversation. You must commit to the whole process to get the best payoff for your efforts.
ELIMINATING THE NEGATIVE
CREATING THE POSITIVE BASICS
In The Affirmations/Empowerment Practices , one creates a "supply" of position changing and empowering conversations and affirmations and focuses on key affirmations. Gratitude affirmations and creating a "ground of being" are a part of the process.
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See the section of Psychology entitled "Internal Conversations" as this is integral with affirmations, which are another form of internal conversation.
Find out the why and what by reading the Overview discussion or, if you prefer go to the individual sections, listed below, and explore. Glance at the different types of affirmations, statements, and declarations that can be used to create a conversation that is very certain and very powerful.
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TABLE OF CONTENTS - Navigate to what is of interest to you. (See also Internal Conversations in Overall Psychology - for how to alter them and alter your life.) You can read these individually below or you can scan to see what is there and then go to the Reading Program, where it suggests a reading order.
THE CONVERSATIONS (All "conversations" are based on Beliefs, so see that section as
basis.)
AFFIRMATIONS OVERALL -
AFFIRMATIONS SPECIFIC AREAS
SITUATIONAL AFFIRMING/COPING CONVERSATIONS
STATEMENTS
Mantras - Repeat over and over to become centered, peaceful, powerful or
whatever one desires as a way of being or thinking.
Comforting statements - Talking to yourself as a loving parent would comfort a
child. Have 1, 3, or 5 strong ones.
offsetting stress, offsetting suffering, and/or addressing fears. See list
of items might comfort self for in the Mantras section..
or the importance and puts it into perspective more.
DECLARATIONS
Taking A Stand
Declarations
Of intention
Of truths
to make "clear disclaimers of what is absolutely untrue!"
part of freeing yourself up from useless old beliefs. These are examples
of what you should disclaim - see if you agree.
Of Who I Am
in life and the way I will leave
See also and know the basics of
psychology.
Sentence - Processing Into Empowering Statements
Reworking Core Statements
Stupid (and other) Tapes - Dealing with them
OTHER RELATED SECTIONS
confidence based on a very well-grounded approach
Anxiety, Fear - Reducing it to virtually nothing.
Mood management - Being able to pull out of or put yourself into a particular "mood".
Stress (Also see Physical) - You should have an active but relatively stress-free life.
Suffering and struggle - Stop creating unnecessary suffering and making life hard.
