If you want to get what you truly want in life, you must first decide what that is and then follow the practices of those who are successful in getting what they want. If you do that, you will be a very happy "champion of life".
The BuddhaKahuna
I notice that when I don't do these things, I get "off" and I don't feel so good about things anymore.
KG
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OF COURSE, LEARN FROM THOSE WHO ARE SUCCESSFUL!
We can learn how to succeed from a champion (highly accomplished person) in any field.
And the field that is most important to all of us is the field called life.
If we would live as a champion of life, we would accomplish what we needed to have in life to be
1. Happy
2. Effective
3. Fulfilled and satisfied
WHAT THEY HAVE AND DO TO "BE" CHAMPIONS
So, what do they have and do to become and operate as champions?
Decide Clearly
They decide what they want.
They set specific, by-when goals
They decide to do what is necessary to get what they want:
100% responsibility for the results they produce, no excuses, no blame, no
"victim" language (meticulously), things don't "happen to" them, they
make things happen, they are the creators of all in their lives.
Develop Self-control (aka self-discipline, but really self-power)
Develop a high goal of high competence/mastery (in general, of self; also for
effectiveness in getting what one wants).
Develop languaging and "conversation" that is based
Seeing what works, correcting quickly
They pay attention to what works and doesn't work - and quickly correct, but
more often and more completely than the non-champion
They get feedback very frequently (so they can make more course
corrections and stop practicing something that will throw them off.
They notice what is happening, then they Pause to see what is going on, to get
perspective and Plan to do what is needed (which may require some learning
first), and then they Pace themselves, never too fast, never too slow, smart
tortoise-like, almost always keeping themselve in optimum functionality...
Learn
They learn all they can about what it takes to be great, systematically, using
experts.
They access experts, including coaches
Practice
They practice, practice, practice (do over and over what is right and workable),
very often using visualization to get "perfect" practice and "see" what works.
Keep themselves in shape so that they can execute what is needed (Homeostasis)
If you do as a champion does, you will become a champion. If you are "being" how a champion is and operating as a champion would operate, then you'll have the greater ability and greater ease to achieve whatever you want.
I invite you to consider being a life champion and setting a goal to be that - and soon.
Or you can live in the illusion of living a life of avoiding discomforts and/or doing the right thing - which you know doesn't work, since you at a deeper level don't feel so good about how you are doing or being in life.
You get a choice. Invest a bit more upfront and get great investment returns or let things go as they are, thinking that you're saving effort. The irony is that in the latter case it actually takes dramatically more effort (and unpleasantness) over the long term to keep on living a life that is not working as you would wish it to. (I define "not working" as any more-than-occasionally unhappines or being stressed or being overweight or spending too much or not being successful enough financially or being unaccomplished or having uncleaned-up messes in your life. So a highly accomplished executive who doesn't see his family very often, who is highly stressed and overweight is not a success or a champion of life - he/she has to "notice" the feedback and then correct back to what works and then practice it until it is automatic and habitual.)
THE ESSENTIAL VITAL INGREDIENT: "DISCIPLINE"
I ask you:
how could you expect to get what you want in your life if you couldn't keep yourself on the path to what you want? The term "discipline" derives itself from the word for path. Discipline is just a matter of keeping yourself on the path. And noticing when you are off the path and then having enough self-control (and emotional reserves) to get yourself back on the path.
You cannot get to where you want to be in life without having self-discipline. (You must understand what discipline is and let go of the false ideas that make it have a negative connotation to you, which triggers a human's fear response - and, if you've studied how things work, you know that fear responses shut down your higher brain, making you operate stupidly. I don't recommend that...)
If you cause and maintain your power such that you exercise self control then you will, indeed, do the other vital ingredients! And you can't humanly operate without "fuel" for that self control. (See The Willpower Reserve and the corresponding The Emotional Bank Account.)
How can you be a champion of life without doing all of these??????
The answer is there is no other way!
But, can you do all of these things?
Absolutely. They are simply the "compounded" results of doing the little "doable" things, with some mistakes, that you'll get better and better at as you recommit and correct and persist.
WHY THE "NO VICTIM LANGUAGE RULE"
Before a champion is a champion, you would not catch him ever saying something like "well, the wind was off" or "well, I just wasn't feeling so good that day, I was upset." In fact, you'd never hear him talking about problems - he would only talk in terms of "here's some feedback, now I'm going to figure out how to implement that and to learn more."
He/she cannot afford to be anything less than meticuous, too be at all sloppy or permissive about letting his/her language be "victimy" or justify it by saying "well, I can't be perfect all the time in how I say things, so just let me speak this way because it is easier." (See Clean, Pure, True Languaging - And Preventing The Negative Messages, especially "Why this is vitally important".)
