This is what is very attainable for us all. Of course, it would be necessary to put in the proper learning efforts and installation of the best ways of living life. Note that the order of this is designed to give the necessary overviews first, and thus we will drill down later into each of the areas to the degree that we need to to implement life successfully. (There are other models and examples, many linked to from the central directory Becoming The Person You Want To Be Contents/Links.)
WHAT LEVEL IN EACH ASPECT ARE YOU AT?
What level of learning or mastery are you at with these? You could rate yourself as to the percentage of the way you are along that part of the path and then compare it to a percentage indicating where you truly want to be at in order to live the life you want. Then you make the decision as to acting on it or not (and then follow the links below to a deeper level and/or follow The Paths provided to follow). Indeed, every time you have a problem, notice which of these was deficient at the time - and shore those up to a sufficient level not to incur that problem again!!!
THE THINKING AND DOING OF THE MODEL PERSON
HAPPY NO MATTER WHAT - Not dependent on outcomes, situations, people
Maintaining the homeostatic Power Zone level of functioning.
and mind stress to maintain homeostasis
and clear decisionmaking process (= more good decisions based on an
Learning and implementing the learning skills. Coping strategies set up for when "correction" is needed ('failure' is seen as a
lack of proper strategy and/or learning, not as a fault in oneself)
No criticism/judgment of self or others. (Has learned "no fault, no blame")
Understanding this is a vital, a must.
Appreciate and "see" the abundance of what is; no focus on what isn't, as
"what isn't" is all acceptable once we get to (and see) that we are, or easily
Use only clean, true, positive languaging and is impeccable with his word (!!!).
A very defined, clear philosophy of life.
Living life by what I set up as my standards, rules, and values.
Beliefs refined to what is workable and true. Has re-examined and addressed
Living what works for happiness
being bonuses - he is secure in this
Builds based on "doing" values, and correspondingly experiencing
No emergencies or "not being far enough" or "not good enough"
as in Buddhism)
Lives the 80/20 Life, with enough perspective time to be able to choose "highest impact", and has a sense of there being plenty of time, as he is unbusy and in control of time
Skillful time management - Without which you will never have enough time
to do what works in life
Living by a plan
Daily planning/decisions, specific pre-planned alternative schedules
Organized (spends enough time to assure it)
Many "days off", rejuvenation time
Energy and physical resource management
Homeostasis - He/she assures being in the homeostatic Power Zone.
Assures overall adequate rest as necessary to functioning well.
Builds and assures endurance and durability and energy, through the easiest
This model does suggest that we need to develop the life skills but there is also a key viewpoint that is necessary to make it all work: the no-criticism, no-fault, no-blame understanding - you cannot be happy without learning and fully understanding this as a basis for how you live your life!!!! This viewpoint leads to many of the individual items above that would not exist fully without this wisdom. Knowing you have a firm foundation for your life is absolutely essential - so you can have high certainty about your life and yourself plus a "this is more than enough" understanding - and that everything above that is just a bonus. With this, you'll eliminate 99% of what we make ourselves unhappy about. Part of that sound base is knowing that you are no longer dependent and that you are self-sufficient, so you're not being buffeted about by what other people do or don't do. You cannot be happy living a life involving the latter. You will only get to this level of living by following "The Life Power Process", which could be your next piece to read, before selecting a path to follow (see The Paths).