The Person Living Life As It Should Be Lived



This is what is very attainable for us all.  Of course, it would be necessary to put in the proper learning efforts and installation of the best ways of living life.  Note that the order of this is designed to give the necessary overviews first, and thus we will drill down later into each of the areas to the degree that we need to to implement life successfully.  (There are other models and examples, many linked to from the central directory Becoming The Person You Want To Be Contents/Links.)


What level of learning or mastery are you at with these?  You could rate yourself as to the percentage of the way you are along that part of the path and then compare it to a percentage indicating where you truly want to be at in order to live the life you want.  Then you make the decision as to acting on it or not (and then follow the links below to a deeper level and/or follow The Paths provided to follow).  Indeed, every time you have a problem, notice which of these was deficient at the time - and shore those up to a sufficient level not to incur that problem again!!!


HAPPY NO MATTER WHAT - Not dependent on outcomes, situations, people 
(Good Life No Matter What)

LIVING LIFE AS A LIFE CHAMPION - Noticing what doesn't work and correcting the procedure and belief

      Maintaining the homeostatic Power Zone level of functioning.
          Using the pause/notice (the Time Out Tool) to enable the regulation of body 
              and mind stress to maintain homeostasis 
      Knowing how my brain works and how to manage it.
      Knowing how my body works and how to manage it. 
      Learning and implementing the critical thinking skills:  Reasoning, fact finding, 
           and clear decisionmaking process (= more good decisions based on an 
           effective problem solving process)
      Learning and implementing the learning skills.
      Coping strategies set up for when "correction" is needed ('failure' is seen as a 
           lack of proper strategy and/or learning, not as a fault in oneself)

ACCEPTS REALITY - And accepts mistakesundesired outcomes and anything that happens - and then chooses what to do next to go in the desired direction, living life basically free of fear.

      No criticism/judgment of self or others.  (Has learned "no fault, no blame")     
            Understanding this is a vital, a must.
      Appreciate and "see" the abundance of what is; no focus on what isn't, as 
            "what isn't" is all acceptable once we get to (and see) that we are, or easily 
             can be, at the level of what is "enough".

Use only clean, true, positive languaging and is impeccable with his word (!!!).

Completely self-sufficient, not dependent, but wisely interdependent.  

      Immune to the opinions of others - Not wasting any energy on this, at all.    

A very defined, clear philosophy of life.

      Living life by what I set up as my standardsrules, and values.  
      Beliefs refined to what is workable and true.  Has re-examined and addressed
            the key beliefs.

Living what works for happiness

      Knows what works for happiness and what doesn't
      Establishes a foundation of "how much is enough" - and "holds" the rest as
          being bonuses - he is secure in this 
      Builds based on "doing" values, and correspondingly experiencing 
          "accumulated value", not based on "conditions" (wealth, approval, 
            No emergencies or "not being far enough" or "not good enough"     
      Kindness viewpoint to others and to self (includes compassion for fellow man, 
            as in Buddhism)

Lives the 80/20 Life, with enough perspective time to be able to choose "highest impact", and has a sense of there being plenty of time, as he is unbusy and in control of time

      Skillful time management - Without which you will never have enough time 
            to do what works in life  
            Living by a plan 
            Daily planning/decisions, specific pre-planned alternative schedules 
            Organized (spends enough time to assure it)
            Many "days off", rejuvenation time

Energy and physical resource management 

      Homeostasis - He/she assures being in the homeostatic Power Zone. 
           Rejuvenation is one of the tools used liberally
           Assures overall adequate rest as necessary to functioning well.
      Builds and assures endurance and durability and energy, through the easiest 
           and most time effective exercise  
      Honors the body with good nutrition  



This model does suggest that we need to develop the life skills but there is also a key viewpoint that is necessary to make it all work:  the no-criticism, no-fault, no-blame understanding - you cannot be happy without learning and fully understanding this as a basis for how you live your life!!!!  This viewpoint leads to many of the individual items above that would not exist fully without this wisdom.

Knowing you have a firm foundation for your life is absolutely essential - so you can have high certainty about your life and yourself plus a "this is more than enough" understanding - and that everything above that is just a bonus.  With this, you'll eliminate 99% of what we make ourselves unhappy about.   

Part of that sound base is knowing that you are no longer dependent and that you are self-sufficient, so you're not being buffeted about by what other people do or don't do.  You cannot be happy living a life involving the latter. 

You will only get to this level of living by following "The Life Power Process", which could be your next piece to read, before selecting a path to follow (see The Paths). 

You will also benefit from the items in the directory:  Becoming The Person You Want To Be Contents/Links.

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Another good reference:  Life Management Contents/Links

Building A Powerful Being  

Create Who You Want To Be 

The Powerful Person 
The Empowered Person 
The Self-Actualized 
Create A Whole New 
Being Great  

Role Models And Mentors - Guidance, Wisdom, And Not Reinventing The Wheel - And some examples of actual people who are powerfully living life. One of the most important practical concepts in life!