The basis for all this being realistic
So what is the pathway leading to this pathway?
Some supporting reading pieces from this site
Let's take this beyond the trite, beyond the "good idea" stage, into what is practical...
Let's appreciate appreciation in order to gain a practical benefit...
Definition of appreciate: "To raise the value of"
Definition of depreciate: "To reduce in value"
It is your choice whether to raise of reduce the value of what is in your life.
In the stock market, we get rich through the appreciation (increase) in the value of the stocks. In life, we get richer by purposely appreciating (increasing the value of) what is in life.
Appreciation of what is in life depends on (as in the defition) "sufficient critical judgment to see the value of or to enjoy something," "to recognize the value," "to make a 'proper estimation' of." This, of course, implies some intelligence being applied to make appreciation come about - and the openness to look at facts.
If we appreciate more, then we purposely increase value in life, and in so doing, we increase one of the causes of more happiness. If we depreciate or deprecate, we make something less important or less valuable.
THE BASIS FOR ALL OF THIS BEING REALISTIC
Any scientific look at what we have in life indicates that we have an incredible number of benefits available to us, that we are indeed so fortunate that we have more than we could possibly need, that we live in a time of great abundance.
This is scientifically undisputable, but those without adequate judgment and knowledge see the opposite or fail to see it.
So, it is necessary that any less than very happy person learn what is necessary to increase that knowledge and ability to see what is there.
Note that "scientific" means "real" and "true". All that is necessary exists in reality.
The only thing missing is sufficient appreciation.
What is the difference between gratitude and appreciation? I'd say gratitude is the process of appreciating what exists and appreciation is a skill of seeing what has value and then speaking it, being engaged actively outwardly appreciating.
So, they are virtually the same.
Having the intent to appreciate in order to enhance life is what we advocate here, so you can be realistically happier in a sustained fashion over time.
SO WHAT IS THE PATHWAY TO THIS PATHWAY?
One actually changes what one's mind comes up with on its own by simply using appreciative languaging, as the brain simply passively records everything that is said.
And then consciously commit to and insert into practice a daily Gratitude exercise. Read and follow the recommendations in the Gratitude section.
SOME SUPPORTING READING PIECES FROM THIS SITE
Relationships (Appreciation is a form of "love")
one's partner and then provides a form for conveying that appreciation to
one's partner, including a possible checklist to use.