THE HAPPINESS CREATORS
TAKING CARE OF THIS HALF OF THE EQUATION


CONTENTS

Determining the adders and the reducers
Identify where you are starting (test)
Focus on what matters most
Follow a plan
The happiness producers
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Preview of what degree of happiness is created by these factors:   Circle those you believe that aren't true and then put a square around those things you need to focus on more.  Give yourself a rating on how you operate currently in the high creators (A-F) - and improve on any areas with lower scores than you want!
























Note that all the "high creators" are under your control, as opposed to the items that have no effect, which we uselessly spend much energy on and stressing about.

Happiness, recall, is "feel goods", in a sense, though the long term satisfiers are the true basis for deep, enduring happiness. 
See also what creates unhappiness:  How To Create Unhappiness
See The Happiness Tests.
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DETERMINING THE ADDERS AND THE REDUCERS

On this page, we discuss and link into what will add to your happiness (see The Happiness Producers piece, plus the summary list below).  Of course, you would want to also link into How To Create Unhappiness - and then stop doing those!  After all, the formula is simple:

Net happiness = Happiness adders minus happiness reducers.

     Add happiness adders --> add happiness  --> net happiness

     Reduce happiness reducers --> net happiness

This is a bit of a "Duh!" when we look at it this way, but it is oh, so very true - and most people miss it!  And if they continue to miss it, then they are wasting days where they could be much happier!  (We bemoan and groan instead of solving all of this!  Ultimately, when we master what is in this section, we learn that there is no valid reason to be unhappy.)


IDENTIFY WHERE YOU ARE STARTING

Before you start, it is a great idea to see where you are starting from, so we can see later how far you've come!  This is also, by itself, a happiness producer - one that actually lasts! 

Inasmuch as the tests identify where changes would be desirable, the tests also serve as a "road map" to those things that will enhance your happiness.  

The Happiness Tests


FOCUS ON WHAT MATTERS MOST!

If we focus on those factors that matter the most (on the upside and on the downside), we'll get the bulk of the results we want.  We can fine tune later.  (This also means that you need to stop chasing those things that do not produce happiness, especially those that end up creating unhappiness!)

The 80/20 Principle applies here, as in everything.  The top 20% (or so) in importance produces 80% of the results.  Incidentally, operating from this principle will increase your happiness in total, reducing the big reducers and upping the big adders.


FOLLOW A PLAN

Plan out what you will work on, such as suggested in The Happiness Plan.  Then stick to implementing it - as a super priority!


THE HAPPINESS PRODUCERS

This is a copy of the table from The Happiness Producers.  The table lists what has been proven to produce happiness and what doesn't, based on actual scientific studies (based on actual facts and results).  Note that happiness is not controlled or caused by one's childhood or one's circumstances and abilities or good looks.

Actual effect                                           Factor

    HIGH             (Prioritize, invest in these)

High        Developing optimism style and positive viewpoint 
High        Learning thought control and creating thoughts anew 
      High        Gratitude
High        Using your ‘signature’  strengths ("gratification" vs. pleasure) 
      High        Self knowledge & emotional intelligence (re: self and of others)             High        Consistently exercising kindness and generous actions 
      High        Good memories (and recalling what is pleasant and positive) 


    MEDIUM       (Ok to spend time on, but after you've done the "high" payoffs.)
    
     Medium   Hope (from a study on religion, but independent of religion also)
     Medium   Avoiding negative events and negative emotions


     MINOR         (Don't depend on these, though they are positive.)

Minor     Marriage
      Minor      Rich social life
Minor      Social intelligence, by itself


     NONE           (Don't waste any time nor concern on these.)

      None       Income increase (increase beyond subsistence)
None       Having "things"
      None             High accomplishments, achieving
None       Childhood events
None       Physical attractiveness
      None       Being “cool”
      None       Education
None       Intelligence
None       Climate
None       Race
      None       Gender
    
The latter (the "nones") are so unculturated into us that we continue to believe them, although they are proven to not have the consequences or effects that we think they do.  Read the basic pieces in the Happiness section in order fully buy into the fact that they have no effect!
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Some books to use to verify these:

Seligman, Authentic Happiness 

RELEVANT

Contents/Links Happiness

The Happiness Tests
- Take the base test and see what you might alter.

The Checklist Of Happiness (And Unhappiness) Creators - A Reminder And An Implementation List 

The Happiness Plan 


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We make ourselves unhappy about things that we don't need to be unhappy about!    

How To Create Unhappiness



HIGH CREATORS

Gratitude, loving what is
Feeling good about oneself
Confidence in my self handling
   the future
The assessment that life is
   good
Using "signature strengths"
Exercising kindness
Exercising compassion
   To others
   To self
Reviewing good memories

Facilitators, enablers

Optimistic style
Positive viewpoint
Thought management (fear
   debunking)
Personal knowledge
Emotional intelligence


See Checklist For A Happy Life.
MEDIUM, MINOR

Medium:

Hope (and religion)
Avoiding negative events and negative emotions (constructively)

Minor:

Marriage
Rich social life
Social intelligence by itself

NONE OR VERY LITTLE

Income increases
Having "things"
High accomplishments,
   achieving
Childhood events
Physical attractiveness
Being "cool"
Education (!)
Intelligence
Climate, personal environment
Race
Gender
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And "feeling good about myself" comes from:

A feeling of control of one's life situation, of competency in dealing with what comes up.

Exercise of one's abilities, aptitudes, competencies

Feeling one is producing something of value for others, helping to contribute to others.
See the ACTUAL GAME:

Life Productivity - Producing The Maximum Life In Your Life.

SURVEY RESULTS:

When beeped in the moment to say how they felt, people reported being happier at work, by far, than "unlaxing" with TV or some idle distration!

Think about it! 

And perhaps reconsider what you do in life!