Draft 5/15/11
This decision will determine the quality of your life.
It will guide you in every choice you make in life.
The One Decision: To be responsible for creating high happiness as my primary purpose in life.
This is not:
Ice cream based (or substance based)
Escape based
Event/circumstance based
Possession based
Based on getting approval
This is:
Unconditional
Solely by your creation
This is based on the key to life:
Stop waiting or expecting to be made happy by outside events, things, or other people. Create all the happiness you need and if something else is added from outside, that is a bonus.
I guarantee you'll be happy if you follow this rule.
DISCUSSION
Making the decision to be happy is the biggest decision of all, for it is the purpose of life. Other purposes may be important, but they all lead to this ultimate purpose.
In ALL of the wisdom literature, we source suffering by depending on outside things to bring us happiness. This is the "I will be happy when..." false belief system. In order to be happy, we must give up this rule of unhappiness - and move on, to creating it all yourself.
One of the key principles of life is to not spend effort trying to control what one cannot control and to spend the primary effort on controlling what one can control. If you don't follow the opposite rule, I guarantee you will have enough things that you can control that are sufficient to create full, underlying happiness that is there regardless of the circumstances. And one of the ways you'll do this is through assuring that you live each day creating the 5+ to 1 Positivity Ratio - this is happiness itself, proven. See Positivity Ratio.
WHAT IS THE MAIN COURSE AND WHAT IS THE DESSERT
A while back someone wrote a book titled "Men Are Just Dessert". For those who heeded its central concept, they experienced the peace of no longer trying to make something happen that could not happen, trying to control the uncontrollable, and to accept what was so - and then to create based on that reality.
The basic idea is that it would not work for someone to try to have the men meet all the needs for a woman, or even those that the woman hoped to have them meet. The men could not provide all the sustenance of the main course. They were just possible desserts; bonuses, in a sense.
In life you will starve or have figurative emotional "sugar highs" and great lows if you depend on what is outside you. You'll be whipped around by circumstances, people's opinions of you, what you have or don't have, and "things". Not a smart strategy!!!!
But if you create and eat a full meal yourself, then you won't be hungry nor needy nor subject to the availability of dessert. You'll be full, satisfied, complete. You'll have happiness underlying all of what you do and all of what you live.
