RESPONSIBILITY
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CONTENTS

Levels of responsibility
Responsibility is a or the key source of power
As a responsible person you are:
What is responsibility?
Blame versus responsibility
The "point of view" that works
Other notes
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LEVELS OF RESPONSIBILITY

Stage I of taking responsibility is in recognizing "If it's to be, it's up to me."

The top level:  Being at 100% cause in the matter


RESPONSIBILITY IS A OR THE KEY SOURCE OF POWER

Responsibility is a key source of power.  Irresponsibility is a key source of weakness or the lack of power.  (Hopefully, you will have determined where you are on the Spectrum From Victimhood To Responsibility.)


AS A RESPONSIBLE PERSON YOU ARE

As a responsible person you are:

1.  Independently interdependent

2.   At the cause of the matter

3.   And the "at cause" is unconditional, a "no matter what" viewpoint

No matter the circumstance, you respond by saying that is just "what is so" (acceptance) and then put it into perspective ("so what?") and then simply ask "now what?", making the best of the situation.  You create happiness no matter what.  To be fully responsible you become Fearless, no longer governed by fears of no actual consequence.

There is no "rescue me" or dependence on someone else taking the responsibility for you.  Addictions are seen for what they are, giving over responsibility to the largely unconscious brain circuits of Dumb and Dumber.  You are no longer "at the effect of" other things or other people.

You are fully in your power in life.

You assume the very useful myth (better than the disempowering myths) that you are the cause of everything, even the uncontrollable, and from that point of view you seek to give it your best to cause the desired result(s).


WHAT IS RESPONSIBILITY?

Responsibility begins with the decision to take on life as being "cause in the matter of one's life".  As such, one is responsible no matter what has happened, with no victimness - one assume the role of creating and determining all that is possible in one's life.  Although some circumstances are beyond one's control, responsibility takes on everything else in life, including handling the response to those uncontrollable circumstances and outcomes - to a truly responsible person, what happens is a "so what?!" and the next thing in line is a "now what?"

The understanding of what responsibility actually is will create, by itself, a huge difference in one's life.  On the other hand, it is clear that the effects of non-responsibility are immensely negative.  It is essential that you read and understand Responsibility - What Is It? How Do I Create More Of It?  What Are Its Benefits?


BLAME VERSUS RESPONSIBILITY

Anger is a person's last desperate attempt to avoid responsibility.  Resentment is a more subtle form of hold the other to be "responsible", which in this case is construed as "at fault", "at blame".  Resistance to another is similar, as, of course, is "getting even" (withdrawing what is wanted, etc.).  Here is a discussion on all of this and what to do to offset those:  Responsibility Versus Blame And/Or Resentment.  Making the distinction between the blame mentality and the responsibility mentality is one of the keys to growing up and letting go of what holds you back and directs your attention to the wrong place and the "wrong cause."

It is ludicrous and childish when one spouse treats the other as if the other were an enemy, when the actual enemies are...
         

THE "POINT OF VIEW" THAT WORKS

The epitome of responsibility in life is to choose to choose to Operate In The Loving, Rational Adult, which is a way of thinking from the position of taking on the persona of The Loving, Rational Adult and giving up the remnants of the Child Persona.  


OTHER NOTES

See also The Detection Game - Was I Being Victim, Persecutor, Pleaser or Adult. 

There are insights and ways of operating responsibly in life that support confidence and self-esteem - and there are ways that undermine this.  See Psychology, Happiness, Self-Esteem/Confidence.  Victims have a misconception about control, so read that section.