This section is added and being developed because of recent demand for it. See Relationship Resources (includes websites, services, and books). THE DETERIORATION PROCESS - Easily predictable and identifiable as to causes. Read about what happens, as understanding what happened is a key to solving the problem. THE REPAIR PROCESS - Some great action steps, some learning and understanding - and a great new relationship foundation is created.
THE DETERIORATION PROCESS
Making Up Things - And Even Believing Them
The Projections, Assumptions, Criticisms, Ignorances, and Defenses
Sexual Relationship, The Deterioration Of -
Being In Relationship Hell
My Experience of Getting Out Of Relationship Hell
THE REPAIR PROCESS - It is useful to review and understand The Problem Solving section, with the "Loving Solution" and Conflict Management.
For any level of deterioration:
made it not work (pretty simple, actually), what you need to learn, and a list of items
to commit to that will make it work...takes some work, but it is worth it.
wish to agree to in order to put together the commitment to counseling,
learning/training, and communication repair.
Facing The Reality of What A Relationship Really Is - This understanding is key, for lack
of knowledge of this dooms the relationship, whereas knowledge of it illuminates the
relationship and creates a realistic basis for having a whole new foundation and love.
whose relationship is in trouble (even separated) but who would like to save it:
RETROUVAILLE.- A LIFELINE FOR MARRIAGES: This "free" weekend is staffed
entirely by volunteers based on a very effective curriculum and process where couples
often have decided to split but are taking one last ditch hope. Estranged couples by
the end of the process are closer and are involved in an ongoing process they have
learned that works so well that over 70% of the couples are still together 5 years later!!! The cost of staying in the hotel for the weekend and the seminar are provided by the
organization, with an optional voluntary contribution at the end of the weekend.
Also see: The section: "METHODS TO COMPLETE AND/OR RESOLVE,"
Read: Rescuing Relationships, Dr. Phil McGraw
the general theaters, the rescue of the relationship, and a book The 40 Day Love Dare
provide a good basis for repair. (Has a religious theme base, but if you don't object to
that you'll see the general applicability and usefulness - it's more about an attitude or
viewpoint than about being religious.