Rapid and effective
A "problem" is a problem
What is always involved first
Position to operate from
Completing the plan
A format to use
RAPID AND EFFECTIVE
If one wants to glide quickly through life, one should rapidly implement the "what happened" and "what's next?" conversations. I say "rapidly" because if you do, then all your problems will be dealt with when they are small, which will not allow them to get big.
The "what's next?" conversation is simply a problem solving conversation that is designed to achieve a desired result that is not there currently.
A "PROBLEM" IS A PROBLEM
If one attempts to achieve a result and that does not happen, that could be called a "breakdown". This is simply being in a condition of "not having achieved the desired result yet". There need be no regret or selfcriticism about it. See Breakdowns And Breakthroughs to learn more.
This what's next conversation applies to achieving any desired result not yet achieved, regardless of why.
WHAT IS ALWAYS INVOLVED FIRST
It always involves renewing, or getting for the first time, clarity about what one wants.
Then it involves clarity about whether or not it is worth the effort. At some point one needs to have clarity that one is committed to doing what is necessary.
Then it involves clarity about whether it is the best thing to do now, given other alternatives.
If the answer is yes to "is it worth it?", then one would continue along the path of what is next to be done.
POSITION TO OPERATE FROM
Many people find it useful to create a viewpoint or a "way of being" from which to ask the question about the next actions to take.
Clearly, if one was tired and disspirited when one tried to get a result and failed in getting that result, that "way of being" was possibly contributory to not getting the result. (Of course, we need to discern if that was true, as we need to identify with clarity all causes and contributors that caused one not to get the desired results.)
With regard to these conditions, then, one could plan to proceed with the actions after correcting the conditions, being fully rested and after implementing a conversation or whatever is needed to not feel disspirited.
One could assume a "role" or way of being of "being strong", "being committed" or such.
Then one simply says, "if I am strong" or "if I were strong", "what decisions would I make?" and "what actions would I take?"
COMPLETING THE PLAN
Then one would write those down and create target dates, using the usual planning methods.
Part of that would probably include feedback mechanisms so that one could know how one is doing and whether to alter one's course and supporting structures to help achieve the result.
A FORMAT TO USE
Just use that and you'll have a structure for your conversation.