EMOTIONAL DEPOSITS AND WITHDRAWALS
WHICH SHOULD YOU DO MORE OR LESS OF?
It is important for anybody who feels a "deficit" or low account balance that they "get" the point here - we are supposed to shift the proportions between the positives and the negatives, adding alot more positives and inhibiting the negatives. Doing as many affirmations and inserting as many soothing, nurturing activities into your schedule and practices as you can will begin to shift the balances in your favor.
These lists could go on forever. If you have any suggestions, please email them to me.
WITHDRAWALS
The Huge Withdrawals
Having to keep everything in life in place, trying to perform well enough at a high
standard, winning people's approval - exhausting.
Blame/SelfCriticism/Anger - Antidote: Know the reasoning behind no-blame
Subset: Perfectionism
Anxiety/Worry/UnnecessaryFearing - Antidote: Know what is real and not real
Holding oneself as a victim or child
The insidious small-seeming withdrawals
Hurrying, being very "busy"
Running late or "just in time"
Tensing for any reason, usually emotional "holding", holding the breath, hyperventilating
Distaste, disliking what you are doing (and not appreciating what it gets you)
Negative talk of any sort
The more subtle ones: Exaggerating the negative, justifying the present because of the past.
THE DEPOSITS
The Huge Deposits
Changing your beliefs to useful, true beliefs
Becoming an expert (good at) something you like and have aptitude for
The Good-sized Deposits (which are more frequent than the huge ones!)
Exercise (3 30 minute aerobic per week and 3 weight bearing sessions a week)
Bonus for stretching and doing yoga like exercise for 15 minutes or more
Regular soothing, nurturing activities built into every week
Affirmations
Mantras and empowering statements/affirmations
Inspiring materials
Worthwhile Deposits
Looking at photos
Writing up good things you’ve done
Keeping copies and logs of thank yous and good deeds,
See the items for you to do in your Reminders Notebook.
