LIVING WELL IN "THE GAP"
VERSUS STRESSING OUT OVER IT



IT'S ALL IMPORTANT TO THE UNDISCRIMINATING MIND

I had a simple problem of very minor import which had to be left open for two days, but I noticed that i "felt" "bad", kinda.  My brain, as I tuned into it, registered it as a negative - and it got up so close to it, that it looked large from that perspective. 

And, other than super-threatening instances, the brain fails to "think things out" on its own and it tends to vie for solution as if most of the threats were the same, lying there stewing in a cesspool of toxic thoughts.


TOXIC CHEMICALS CONTINUE UNTIL STOPPED (DUH!)

As with any "bad" "feeling", there are by definition toxic chemicals, which the body responds to, experiencing what is a process of 'upset".  [Interesting that people say "I'm not upset", when they are being pissed of or resentful or having negative thoughts.  Yes, by definition they are "upset" and denial prevents addressing the problem and coming to a solution!  And then the underlying thoughts tend to fester even more. Read Upset.]

The moment I noticed the feeling, I implemented The Pause (an essential life practice) and addressed the issue.

I noticed that I needed to manage this process (as a preferrable alternative to being "upset", with the brain on automatic).


PUTTING IT INTO PERSPECTIVE AND INTO REALITY

And the process to offset it involved putting it into perspective (and "right sizing it"). (Consider reading How Big Is The Problem, Really? and Proper And Proportionate Response , which are reminiscent of Richard Carlson's "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff, And It's [virtually) All Small Stuff",)

"All is well.  All is well."  (Repeated many times, plus each time the thought comes up.)

"I can surely handle this.  I can handle everything in life that is actually needed.  All is well.""

"This will be solved.  It's ok.  All is well."

And, of course, noticing my shallow breathing, it was necessary to purposely breathe slowly and deeply (which actually sends a signal back to the amygdala, indicating "safety" since the brain has it wired that deep, slow breathing occurs when one is safe - the wiring runs both directions). (Read Breathe To Feel Good.)





Perspective - All wise men and all happy
people use this skill.  
The Pause - An essential life practice.

How Big Is The Problem, Really?   

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