Fear, other than a physical threat, is based on the idea of loss.
The fear reaction occurs when we think we will lose something
However, the loss is mostly imaginary and non-existent.
How much do I actually need to protect from loss?
"EXPANDED VERSION"
ACTUAL
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If we see that there is no REAL loss, then we do not need to be in fear - and we do not need to be stressed about it. And, with the proper perspective, we can see that it is no big deal - diminimus to the max!
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WHICH DO YOU THING TAKES THE MOST EFFORT?
When people don't know who they really are, they come up with a fabricated or expanded version of who they really are. However, they often mistake what they have for who they are. They have acquired traits and habits and they think that is who they are - and they evaluate them and fault themselves for them. And they have acquired beliefs - and they fight tooth and nail to defend some of those, as if they were defending their very selves - and their survival! See Ego - The Created Entity and The Two Choices - Protector Or Aliveness Creator.
In Buddhism, people looking on the surface question the idea of "disappearing self", so that one can be free and happy. Basically, the idea is to see that you've made up as yourself this 'personality' and made it into a thing, whereas it is totally imaginary and not at all permanent. People need, in order to see who they really are in actuality, then they'll be free of much unnecessary "stuckness" and/or suffering. Decide for yourself and write down for yourself who "I' is: Who I Am.
I guarantee you that the real "I", though it looks smaller, is a quantum leap more powerful than the "Expanded Me". It wastes no energy on payoffs that aren't real or beneficial. It maximally "experiences" and enjoys just creating, without big demands or stress. It doesn't make up stuff to protect or fight inside oneself about. It is bereft of the blocks that in get in the way, since "seeing" who the "I" is will simply disappear who the "I" isn't (which includes the imaginary blocks).
WHAT DO WE PROTECT FROM?
Well, that sounds like a dumb question, doesn't it?
But few ask it at its deepest level.
We protect from real loss and real damage that would impair our ability to operate well in life.
But the problem is that we spend our time protecting from made-up, unreal loss of things that are non-existent, except as "mental constructs" in our mind. We think they are real. We fail to define what real is (physically in existence and verifiable).
And we misdefine what abilities we need to operate well in life, as they do not include "ability to be extra smart to make lots of extra money", since that has very little extra value, which is likely to create costs greater than the value, and is definitely not needed to have one be happy in life. Am I impaired if I don't have the ability to be "extra cool so that I am extra popular"? Or is that a fabricated "need"?
AND ALMOST ALL OF IT IS "DEMINIMUS" (SMALL STUFF), ONCE YOU "GET IT"
THE FREEDOM AND GREAT ABILITY TO EXPERIENCE THE LIFE YOU WANT
Once you see who "I' is, the rest of the huge amount of added stuff disappears. Once we have the wisdom to see that "it's all small stuff", we are freed from the exaggeration of consequences inherent in all big fears and on down the scale - it becomes deminimus, all small stuff. And we are freed up to focus on what really makes the difference to the true "I' - and effectiveness in terms of getting what is worthwhile takes a giant leap.
Read the linked pieces. And study this until you "grok" it, as it is essential to real happiness!
This IS life itself, the very essence of what will transform your life.
Will you DO IT?
