LOSS
UNDERSTAND AND GET PERSPECTIVE, FOR HAPPINESS
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Contents:
Loss: The Central Concept For Unhappiness
Loss Vs. "Havingness"
How Full Is The Glass?
The Happiness Gap: What It Is And How To Close it.
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LOSS: THE CENTRAL CONCEPT FOR UNHAPPINESS
We are so worried about "losing" something that we fail to see what is there, we fail to see the greatness of what we still have. (Thus it is no wonder that the practice of gratitude has a significant effect on happiness!)
Also, ironically, we unrealistically and unknowledgeably believe that we "need" "more" (by far) than we actually need to be happy. Because of that we feel a relatively constant "lack of safety", as we fear losing the extra we have that we don't actually need - that's a poor game to play in life!
(Read also about how we humans are notoriously bad at estimating what will make us happy, so we go down the wrong roads and do not find that predicted happiness, wasting alot of life. See and become knowledgeable on Happiness so that you don't make that mistake!)
LOSS VS. HAVINGNESS
We "lose" small stuff compared to all we permanently have.
Read in the Gratitude section:
What I Have Compared To So-Called Losses , which is a perspective piece to see the overall picture on how much we actually do have. Read the full piece, as it is much more in depth than the simplified partial illustration below, especially as we use the process of seeing what is there (carried out in the Gratitude section)
We need to daily keep our "tank" full by doing "havingness" processes using set processes and methods to do so, using something like the Reminders Notebook, otherwise we set ourselves up for playing the "loss game", an insidious, harmful game to "play" and an incredibly ignorant, unknowledgeable, unnecessary game!
HOW FULL IS THE GLASS?
Reality: The glass is...
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"Not full" 1/10th (Loss = 1/100th)
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"Full" 9/10ths
All the elements in the world for life
The world "works": weather, food
Gifts of the sun, nature, "owning" it all
Having the greatest computer in the universe
The ability to alter thoughts and beliefs to make them
beneficial
An incredible self-regulating, automatic, abuse-tolerating body
The abilities to experience emotions
Abilities to express one's talents, beliefs, values
Abilities to add value and meaning to life
Much, much, much, much, much more
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If all we do is "look", we can see that the glass is notjust 50% full or 50% empty, but actually at least 9/10ths full and less than 1/10th empty - which is pretty darned good! To see more of what is "in the glass", read the basics of Gratitude and then decide how much worth there is to becoming really good at it!
THE HAPPINESS GAP: WHAT IT IS AND HOW TO CLOSE IT
The size of the gap between where you are and where you believe you "should" be equals your level of unhappiness. We recommend you close it, now and forever.
