AN INQUIRY
An example of the asking of the question "what do I really, really want?"
FEELING UNDER PRESSURE, DISSATISFIED...
Feeling under pressure to meet all my artificially contrived goals and "needs", I had to back away, as the pressure was too great - and I was talking to myself very negatively. I was getting too busy, or actually letting myself get frazzled and overwhelmed.
PERMISSION TO WANT WHAT I WANT
At Option Institute, they put forth the idea that we can want what we want for no reason (or with no justification) at all! Just let ourselves want, freely. Let the "want" be the guide!
SO, I ASKED MYSELF, WHAT DO I REALLY WANT?
This is what occurred to me:
What has me be happy:
Cuddle with my partner
Happy around people
Feel good about contribution
Feel like I'm building something
Feel well-rested, alert, energetic, calm
Avoid the "not wants"
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WHAT IS ACTUALLY IRRELEVANT?
Except what affects my actually livelihood (and even then I am fine if I was
only at My Baseline), these are irrelevant:
What I make up in my mind as something I need to have but don't really
need to have what I really need and want:
People's approval, perfection, looking good, admiration/fame
Huge accomplishments, being good enough
WHAT DO I LIKE?
Movies, some TV
Open air car
Sun
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WHAT DO I NOT "LIKE"?
To do maintenance and necessary things that are a drag or a hassle or feeling
like I could do something more fun or that I'm missing on something better.
WHAT DO I DO ABOUT IT?
Decide My Baseline.
READINGS
What I Really Want - Ultimately - A worksheet, with some suggestions on structure, to determine what I really, really want in my life. And it is not things!
