WHAT DO I REALLY WANT?
GETTING IN TOUCH WHEN YOU REALLY NEED IT


AN INQUIRY

An example of the asking of the question "what do I really, really want?"

There are desirable conditions, like health, nice place to live, etc.   I want those, but the question to be answered relative to that is "How Much Is Enough?" (This is a key question that underlies one's life philosophy and, accordingly, one's happiness in life!)

And then there is the question of "who do I want to be/become?" (See Becoming The Person You Want To Be.)


FEELING UNDER PRESSURE, DISSATISFIED...

Feeling under pressure to meet all my artificially contrived goals and "needs", I had to back away, as the pressure was too great - and I was talking to myself very negatively.   I was getting too busy, or actually letting myself get frazzled and overwhelmed.


PERMISSION TO WANT WHAT I WANT

At Option Institute, they put forth the idea that we can want what we want for no reason (or with no justification) at all!  Just let ourselves want, freely.  Let the "want" be the guide! 


SO, I ASKED MYSELF, WHAT DO I REALLY WANT?

This is what occurred to me:

    Peace - And maintaining calm and centeredness in my power over life.
    Happiness

    What has me be happy:

    Cuddle with my partner
    Happy around people
    Feel good about contribution
    Feeling good about who I am 
    Feel like I'm building something
    Feel well-rested, alert, energetic, calm
    Avoid the "not wants"
    More...

WHAT IS ACTUALLY IRRELEVANT?

    Except what affects my actually livelihood (and even then I am fine if I was
        only at My Baseline), these are irrelevant:
   
        What I make up in my mind as something I need to have but don't really
             need to have what I really need and want:
            
             People's approval, perfection, looking good, admiration/fame
             Huge accomplishments, being good enough
   

WHAT DO I LIKE?

    Movies, some TV
    Open air car
    Sun
    More....


WHAT DO I NOT "LIKE"?

    To do maintenance and necessary things that are a drag or a hassle or feeling
         like I could do something more fun or that I'm missing on something
         better.
         However, see You Must Pay The Price To Get What You Want. 


WHAT DO I DO ABOUT IT?

Read pieces you select in the Happiness Contents/Links.  Decide what will actually make you happy - and what won't.  Then change your want list, or at least the priorities on it!

Decide My Baseline.  A useful exercise in establishing a good, solid, reliable baseline
   

READINGS

What I Really Want - Ultimately - A worksheet, with some suggestions on structure, to determine what I really, really want in my life.  And it is not things!