An example of the asking of the question "what do I really, really want?"
There are desirable conditions, like health, nice place to live, etc. I want those, but the question to be answered relative to that is "How Much Is Enough?" (This is a key question that underlies one's life philosophy and, accordingly, one's happiness in life!)
FEELING UNDER PRESSURE, DISSATISFIED...
Feeling under pressure to meet all my artificially contrived goals and "needs", I had to back away, as the pressure was too great - and I was talking to myself very negatively. I was getting too busy, or actually letting myself get frazzled and overwhelmed.
PERMISSION TO WANT WHAT I WANT
At Option Institute, they put forth the idea that we can want what we want for no reason (or with no justification) at all! Just let ourselves want, freely. Let the "want" be the guide!
SO, I ASKED MYSELF, WHAT DO I REALLY WANT?
This is what occurred to me:
Peace - And maintaining calm and centeredness in my power over life.
What has me be happy:
Cuddle with my partner
Happy around people
Feel good about contribution
Feeling good about who I am
Feel like I'm building something
Feel well-rested, alert, energetic, calm
Avoid the "not wants"
WHAT IS ACTUALLY IRRELEVANT?
Except what affects my actually livelihood (and even then I am fine if I was
What I make up in my mind as something I need to have but don't really
need to have what I really need and want:
People's approval, perfection, looking good, admiration/fame
Huge accomplishments, being good enough
WHAT DO I LIKE?
Movies, some TV
Open air car
WHAT DO I NOT "LIKE"?
To do maintenance and necessary things that are a drag or a hassle or feeling
like I could do something more fun or that I'm missing on something
WHAT DO I DO ABOUT IT?
Read pieces you select in the Happiness Contents/Links. Decide what will actually make you happy - and what won't. Then change your want list, or at least the priorities on it!
What I Really Want - Ultimately - A worksheet, with some suggestions on structure, to determine what I really, really want in my life. And it is not things!