(See, when looking for specifics,
With links - Gives more detail to guide you to the relevant section; then each section has a detailed contents section. Scan to see what is available.
Although human beings have all the basics of what it takes to live well, it is necessary to integrate it allinto one working whole where we have completed each part so that all parts work together. When parts limit us or work against us, we are, metaphorically, trying to run holding a lot of weights with a person pushing against us. We may make progress, but life is a lot more difficult and effortful than it need be. Life can be light and fulfilling and easy and graceful!
Mastering this area once and for all will have you being "complete and whole" at a much higher level than with having only the wonderful basic gifts we are given as humans - having re-formed this area of our life, we now are not only capable but we are truly powerful and effective in creating what we want in life.
THE PROCESS - COMPLETING IT WELL IS THE KEY
Look at these and choose which results you want and then how much effort you are committed to:
MINIMUM UPGRADE LIFE COMPLETE UPGRADE!
STATUS QUO ON PURPOSE WITH TRUE COMMITMENT
CHILD GET OLDER NEW LEARNING RE-VIEW, RE-FORM
AS SMARTER ADULT!
___ ___ ____ ____
FEARS REDUCE FEARS HIGHLY EFFECTIVE
LIMITATIONS SLIGHT REDUCE LIMITS FULFILLED
STRATEGIES - --> DIFFERENCE --> STRATEGIES - --> HAPPY
A MUCH, MUCH
BETTER LIFE !
Don't get stuck here. Small effort reaps Easier. A quality life.
Much less life! improved life. Appreciate life much more. Much happier.
It has been proven that we formulated many of our thoughts, decisions, and strategies for life mostly by age 4 and almost completely by age 7. It is, then, rationally undeniable that those beliefs are based on insufficient knowledge and lack of logic (the child doesn't develop logic until after age 7). Therefore, we operate with many ill-formed, unproductive beliefs and life strategies that cannot possibly lead to as good a life as is actually attainable with effectively designed life strategies and effective, re-worked beliefs.
However, many people do not realize that these old beliefs and life strategies are mostly reinforced and justified as we grow older, with only a relatively small portion of them being completely re-formed to what will serve one's life at the highest. We believe we "learn" life and wisdom as we go, but that is not exactly true - we learn life much more effectively through systematic learning, the use of reasoning, and effective planning for implementation. What is the simple truth is that we must re-form, with thought, reasoning and adult thinking, our beliefs and strategies in order to live life completely, freely, and happily. That is the aim of this website.
THE HIGHLY FUNCTIONING, HAPPY HUMAN BEING
WHAT HE/SHE HAS DONE:
Has re-decided and re-designed personal psychology through the use of
- Systematic learning based on expert information and
- A systematic re-"forming" of beliefs, ways of thinking and strategies.
(It is highly unrealistic to hope that somehow all of this will come about all on its own and that you'll be one of the mythical few who grew up with all the right beliefs and reformulations as they matured.)
WHAT HE/SHE LOOKS LIKE, AS A RESULT OF REFORMING BELIEFS THE RIGHT WAY:
EMPOWERING SELF-CONVERSATIONS - See Empowerment and
EFFECTIVE LIFE STRATEGIES - With much better results in life and much
LIFE IS EASY AND ABUNDANT - Without the friction of limiting thinking
and fears, grace and ease are an integral part of life. See The Possible You
(soon to be written).
THE COMPONENTS OF A STRONG PSYCHOLOGICAL FOUNDATION
He/she has these components; see the more detailed Components Of A Strong Psychological Foundation: (As in any healthy standard, this is an "80% and I'm doing good!" Again, the brief test: How Psychologically Powerful Are You? A more in-depth one(s) is included in the more detailed version of The Components, which will have links added so you can address each one in more detail if you wish.) Though you can test yourself below, I would recommend you use the more detailed pages cited.)
___ OPTIMISTIC VIEWPOINT INSTALLED, yet able to switch to hard
reasoning when needed (the latter is very important!!!!).
___ GRATITUDE, express appreciation of self and of others, satisfied with life
___ KNOWLEDGEABLE ABOUT LIFE
___ Realistic expectations of life
___ Not resist life as it is, strong acceptance
___ REALISTIC VIEW OF SELF - High self-esteem within that view
___ CERTAINTY, strong sense of
___ Strong sense of "who I am"
___ SENSE OF PERSONAL CONTROL
___ Limits self primarily to what is CONTROLLABLE, with very little effort
on the uncontrollable
___ Confidence in ability to make oneself happy in any future circumstance,
___ FULL SELF-RESPONSIBILITY
___ Free of the right/wrong and blame syndromes
___ No criticism for self or others
___ No victimness or waiting to be rescued
___ Zero complaints/gossiping, only bring things up for a constructive
___ No need for approval, though it is preferred (of course)
___ Work on a "what works" basis, without the right/wrong conversation
___ MAINTAINS PERSONAL STRENGTH/CAPABILITY AND
___ Strong physical care (so ___ able to handle stress, ___ no unstable energy
or anxiety producing practices, ___ rest, ___ exercise, )
___ Cultivate being calm and centered in one's self
___ EFFECTIVE REJUVENATION TIME vs. just distraction or escape
___ STRONG EMOTIONAL MANAGEMENT SKILLS
___ POWERFUL LANGUAGING
___ Positive, clear statements with regard to life, self, others
___ Authentic, genuine
A FEW REALITIES AND WHY THIS SHOULD BE USED QUICKLY FOR REFERENCE
When you seem to need it the most, the human brain does not work very well. It actually is geared toward saving your life, not toward solving problems. The brain shuts down and goes to "unthinking", mobilized reactions. We can't seem to come up with solutions when we are down or upset.
That is the time when we must stop and go to our arsenal of thinking - those are already written up here (though you can add some). Simply remember to come to this site and go to the subject at hand - as that is something even an addled brain can do. Try it, it works!
It is essential that one understands how the mind works and then how to manage it (see the section called Managing The Mind, which is the most essential function to learn, especially since the mind is our most powerful tool - which is not used very well by most people!).
As kids, we think up some irrational, "not smart" strategies and beliefs, mostly around how insecure we feel since we are powerless and dependent. As adults, unless we have "re-worked" and "re-thought" those things, we continue those beliefs and strategies - and our primitive brain remembers the scariness of it all, repeating alot of that over and over. That sounds strange or weird to many people, especially those who are sophisticated or tough - but it is an absolute, logical, proven truth that you might want to understand, so that you can accept it and use it to create a shorter path to what you woulld actually want in life (which you'll see as we go).
When you're ready, after reviewing the site, go to the Mastery Programs for the step by step plan as to what to do and when.
GROUNDING SUMMARY MODULES - To put this and overall life into perspective, scan these, going to the specific, detailed sections of the website when you see that there is a greater need for more definition and strategies and more in-depth learning. These modules are designed simply for getting a quick perspective on life overall. Perspective is one of the keys of wise men and women..
CASE STUDIES - Case studies showing changes, see those in Life Management. Case studies in