LIVING YOUR HAPPIEST AND BEST LIFE
ACHIEVING PERSONAL LIFE-EFFECTIVENESS
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Focusing on the 20% most important in life to assure happiness and effectiveness. And not wasting time or life elsewhere.
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The purpose of this site is: To have you be able to effectively and easily produce the life results you intend and to have you achieve the knowledge and wisdom needed to know what to intend to have in your life.
This is achieved through an effective, summary learning system coupled with practical, doable actions sufficient to have you be very effective and unconditionally happy with your life.
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CONTENTS OF THIS INTRODUCTION PAGE
Introduction
The level you want to live life at: it's your choice
The outline of purpose and themes of this site
Choose whatever level and area you want
Some clarifications
What is the process?
What is the purpose of life?
What is the purpose of learning/growth?
What is the necessary foundation?
What are the means?
Where do I get the time to do it?
A suggested order of steps
The key questions
The big question
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Read in the order, though you want want to add in the readings from the links within the text as you go.
INTRODUCTION
It is my intent to help you create a non-contingent happiness which will, in turn, allow you to have free flow of creativity and all your energy freed up to achieve life satisfaction and the life you love, not wasting any of it on worry, anxiety, or doubt. This is what life is about. And we will marry to that the means to live an effective life, where you make excellent decisions and feel good about what you are doing. You become a "fully functioning person", living with balance and no real stress.
To do that, we'll have to strengthen the core first, though you'll vary on what you'll need to fill in. Then we'll go out to the next layer, where you'll use the effective techniques of managing life. Once you've got that done, then we'll go out to relationships, then out to financial.
Of course, some of you may choose a different order for this. It is not illogical to go through, starting from the inner core, and pick out key items you want to strengthen, skipping over some of the other items and the related reading. However, I urge you to go back later after you've done your top priority items.
Of course, we'll use outside resources where needed, but we hope here to tie things together and to have practical programs where you can go through an area without wasting time but where you sufficiently complete an area to be highly effective in that area - so you can live a better life right away, and then cumulatively, as you go through and get better at the pieces and as everything comes together into an integrated whole.
THE LEVEL YOU WANT LIFE TO BE AT: IT'S YOUR CHOICE
Do you want to take the Gradually Boiling Frog route, going along with the "Drift", or will you make a stand for doing what you really want in life and creating the effectiveness level needed to truly create Power In Life? What choice will you make when answering The 5 Biggest Life Questions/Decisions?
The key idea here is to look at what one truly values and then to set up a means of aligning what one does in life with that, so one is highly motivated and excited about life - which is one great way to live life! It is a part of the key components of what creates happiness.
THE OUTLINE OF PURPOSE AND MAIN THEMES OF THIS SITE
PURPOSE OF LIFE: To be enduringly happy, unconditionally, independent of the circumstances of life.
PURPOSE OF THIS SITE:
1. To help one grow in the ability to appreciate and love your life more and more.
2. To build the tools to make that happen.
THE MAIN THEMES OF THIS SITE
REMOVING THE BARRIERS FIRST, so that it is no longer hard to move forward:
1. NON-UNDERSTANDING OF HOW THINGS WORK. (Your mind and body together.)
You get to run these for life, so knowing how to optimally make them work makes total
sense.
2. BELIEFS AND VIEWPOINTS THAT CREATE FEAR AND LIMITATION but which are untrue,
eliminating blame and make-wrong.
Operating without 98% of your fears allows you to live into what you really want - and
without this source of unhappiness! Fearlessness is highly recommended!
ADDING IN THE MOST EFFECTIVE, EFFICIENT, INTELLIGENT MEANS of getting the results we want:
1. Create Right Thinking, reformulating beliefs so that they are effective and feel good, plus
create virtual fearlessness, by learning:
a. Systematically (not randomly!)
b. From experts (proper sources!)
keeping calm, cool strength and happiness.
3. Resolve all key problems and barriers, eliminating impediments to living the best life!
a. Understand and rework all key belief systems to what works and is true.
b. Create a working philosophy of life that will have you being unstoppable and very,
very happy.
4. Planning (and “perspectivizing”) – Creating life effectively.
a. Stepping back and seeing the big overall perspective
b. Identifying what are the most impactful things we can do – and dropping the low
impact items. (Examples are in www.live8020.com , a sister site.)
We emphasize doing “doable” actions based on already formulated and thought-out means, rather than you having to figure out all things yourself (and spending time needlessly).
CHOOSE WHATEVER LEVEL AND AREA YOU WANT
Some us need cranialrectal surgery and others just need tweaking of our beliefs and methods, but all can create great forward progress. You may choose to do more work so that you will, per Zaffron and Logan, “achieve levels of performance in your life that occur as impossible to most people.” You may choose to fix a relationship or to enhance your moods, or any number of life areas – they are all on this site (or in the resources we send you to).
SOME CLARIFICATIONS
Right thinking uses the brain’s capacity to reason. It uses only reality (and “truth") and its criteria is only “workability” – i.e. does it work to get what we want or not? While it acknowledges all factors, including emotions, it never lets those factors govern, though its primary purpose is to assure long term "feel good". All decisions are well reasoned, based on facts as far as determinable. Without this you will be too impeded to make great progress in life. (Even if you don’t learn this totally, you’ll be benefited by it in specific areas you choose to partake of.)
Learning systematically means:
Not piecemeal
Not randomly as the need comes up or as it comes to consciousness
Not without plan.
"80-20 Living" actually is part of planning and perspective. It is specifically setting it up so that the top 20% of what is productive (and produces 80% of the results) is what is focused on and done. At least the bottom 40% of all activities will be dropped. Your “life effectiveness” will go through the roof. See www.live8020.com.
Note: At this point you might want to jump into the various pieces of the website, particularly looking at the items of particular interest or concern. (Don't forget to use the search engine, too!)
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WHAT IS THE PROCESS?
This site, and the referenced resources, serve to help you in going after what you want and getting "it". Read The Program's Objectives And Key Priorities for succinct perspective on what works.
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF LIFE?
Enduring, deep, non-condition-based happiness
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF LEARNING/GROWTH?
To attain more and more wisdom so that one grows in the ability to see, harvest and
appreciate what is good about life; this has life getting better and better as one goes.
WHAT IS THE NECESSARY FOUNDATION?
A strong well-built philosophy of life. (And, of course, the wisdom underlying it.)
WHAT ARE THE MEANS?
Life management strategies that put it all together, following an efficient, effective path.
Removal of ineffective beliefs and dysfunctional psychological thinking and replacement
with what works at a very high level.
WHERE DO I GET THE TIME TO DO IT?
Taken from low level life activities, increasing life and energy as one goes. (We'll direct you
into an easier more productive way of managing what you do.)
Everything is well-reasoned, soundly based and without "New Age" or wishful thinking viewpoints.
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A SUGGESTED ORDER OF STEPS
Though this can be approached in any number of ways, I think this is the best way. Sometimes, the approach will start off more piecemeal, and then one comes back and completes these. It is not infrequent that people want to go in and get some quick benefits that "fill their tank", and then they often come back to this.
FIRST: DECIDING WHAT IS WANTED, DEFINING IT
Before we embark in attaining things in life, it is best to decide what it is we want and to define it well. Often we lean our ladder against the wrong wall and as we climb to the top, we decide this is not really getting us to what we really want. (See Planning , Dreams/Visions, )
So, we start first with the idea: Begin with the "end in mind" and then construct a way to get to it. The "how to attain it" is what else this site is about; a discussion of how to attain that follows this section.
In order to make this work, one needs to define and see clearly what the "end" is. Without a clear definition, we're bound to reach some other end that is not as desirable.
So we identify what a possible "end" might be - i.e. what actually makes us happy, what does a good relationship look like, etc. When we can "see" what it looks like, then we can actually attain it.
In order to construct a path from "here" to "there" (the end), one needs to know where "here" is. So, in each vital area and then its subareas, we have set forth an assessment mechanism.
Then we suggest the quickest and/or most effective path toward closing the gap. Obviously, learning (in the most effective way) and the willingness to learn are key here; assess what your willingness is. To help progress along the path, we provide summaries, screened resources, and more in-depth pieces for your use.
THE KEY QUESTIONS WE ASK TO GET WHAT WE WANT, AND THEN
ANSWER:
What does it take to: (the links are to the relevant section; in each section there are assessments/tests to see where you are at)
Be very HAPPY?
Be a GREAT PARTNER? (Take the tests under relationships, which include
assessing each partner.)
Be HEALTHY PHYSICALLY (in the most effective, easiest way)? Criteria, Assessment
Live a STRESS-FREE life?
IF YOU ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS, ASSESS WHERE YOU ARE, AND THEN USE THE PATH, YOU WILL CREATE A LIFE YOU TRULY LOVE, PERIOD!!!
AND, NOW, ONTO THE BIG QUESTION: HOW DO I ATTAIN 'IT'?
This is what this site is about: attaining the desired life in an easier, more effective, more direct way (without wasting time and going down less useful paths). But to go on this journey, it is essential that you answer, for yourself, "The Big Question".
(You can go ahead and use the site now if you wish. Simply just use the navigation bars, which lead logically to greater and greater detail or look at the Introduction To The Site to see:
Where and how to start
Why bother?
Is there a big payoff?
Can it be done efficiently?
How do I get what I want?
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