THE PROGRAM FOR UPGRADING YOUR BELIEFS
THE SEQUENTIAL PROGRAM FOR LEARNING AND IMPLEMENTATION
Although people want to "get on with it", "just do it", or take a shortcut, certain steps must always be taken. You cannot make something work if you do not know enough about how it works, so each program starts with learning - skip learning steps and you will find it harder and less effective to implement what will get you the desired results.
One alternative that does work is to have parallel programs. One where you are learning and the other one where you are actually engaged in the process. This works as long as you do not drop the learning part, because this is necessary for you to develop the basic skill that will serve you for a lifetime of happiness!
For now, until I consolidate the duplications, you will have to view them again, possibly just scanning over them if you already know them solidly.
Print the sheet, check these off as you complete them (or enter the day's date number to indicate the day you finished it. (The check off is "I understand and agree with this". If you are missing or disagreeing, explore further, such as talking with a knowledgeable person in the area.) The scoring system, until you can come up with a better one will be ten points for every hour spent learning and revising and devising beliefs. To do the right job, methinks, would take 100 points. If you get more points than that, you are to be applauded for your tenacity. Use a daily scoring sheet to keep track. Celebrate for each 10 points attained, as that is a marvelous focused continued effort on your part - few people stick to it that long or even devote much continuous attention along a path.
Note that, although you will be learning and devising and focusing on key beliefs to change, your essential work is to fill in all the parts of the "end product" - scroll down to see what that is...
Incidentally, you're not finished until you can say, truly, "I am happy."
JUST FOLLOW THESE
__ Get the overview from the main overview intro pages:
essential understanding that people deny, much to their detriment.
source of not being happy.
good overview and the instructions of what to do. See "Changing Beliefs" section, below.
Harmful Thinking. If you correct these two, the other false beliefs about yourself cannot
is essential for happiness. It is not optional. Once one sees the reality of it, there is no going back.
source of not being happy.
that they have great powers of perception. They insist on reading minds, behaviors,
relying on intuition, etc., but they end up doing themselves harm.
CHANGING THE BELIEFS
First, be aware that there are different types of beliefs: Values, Global Beliefs, Core Beliefs, and specific beliefs that revolve around a particular emotion or situation or way of dealing with life, from anger to seeking approval. To improve beliefs you would want to see examples of what the beliefs consist of and how they have been upgraded. See the appropriate section fo the above, all in boxes on the page for the Directory/Links Beliefs And Thoughts section.
"complete" the work.
be cleared up to live a good life!
purpose for a belief offers the opportunity to ferret out if the belief truly works for that purpose
disclaiming it has a powerful effect on 'disappearing' old beliefs.
What fits here in the sequence of what is needed in life is The Program For Managing Thoughts, for beliefs are simply thoughts (mental constructs) which need not be believed or harbored uselessly or harmfully in our minds. Of course, if you dump a negative belief, then there is less to manage on an ongoing basis - and enormous energy can be freed up!
OF GREAT IMPACT These change and often cancel out the power of negative beliefs. Very impactful. Don't underestimate the power of these. Just "talking these outloud" makes a huge difference.
these as trite formalities or "being technical" for no purpose.
MOST HARMFUL BELIEFS RESULT IN "FEAR"
List of all the fears - Virtually all are just made up beliefs. Look for your fears here (and possibly match it up to the specific beliefs listed in the Beliefs Contents/Links page.
We'll come back to this to further understand it in the learning curve.
AN ALTERNATIVE OPTION TO SHORE UP THE REALITIES OF LIFE
The basic Barksdale program worked for me years ago. It is a good reinforcer for what is above, and below. You might begin with this piece in the sequence and then go to the one that follows, and so on: The Procedure For Building Sound Self-Esteem.
__ Model the new beliefs after these.
__ Beliefs suggested to substitute for existing specific beliefs, see Directory.
__ Beliefs of healthy, effective, powerful people
__ What the "product" looks like: The Beliefs Workbook contains the organization for your beliefs, starting at section #300. Note that some of these were not addressed above, but they still are a form of belief. The 500 series is a rigorous extension of your thinking and formulating results. Having these slots "filled in" in your mind is powerful - very, very powerful. All the titles can be inserted in the search engine so that you'll see an explanation and examples.