The core beliefs
Re-forming these beliefs
Reading and worksheets
See the "Tree Of Beliefs", so that you can better understand, identify, and work with your beliefs to produce beliefs that serve you better and greatly increase your emotional well-being!!!!
THE CORE BELIEFS
The two core beliefs underlying the other beliefs are: (click the links and read)
THE SUPER-BELIEF IN LIFE
I AM IN DANGER AND I CAN'T HANDLE IT. (It's outside my control to handle it and if it occurs I will have a significant effect on my survival - which is in 99.9% of the cases untrue.)
These two core beliefs rely on a version of a super-belief that inhibits one's entire life: That I am in danger and can't handle it (since I have no power and I'm not good enough to merit someone saving me) and therefore I'm screwed and my life will be miserable (or might be, and I'll live in fear of that) - this is a left-over from childhood. If one is to live a good life, one can not be run, at all, by fears - one must figure out and embrace the reasoning needed to answer the key question in life: Am I Safe?. Follow the trail of links and establish fully: "I am, indeed, safe to live a life without fear, one where I can simply choose to create what I want, winning some and losing some, but never really losing. I have the power to live as I wish." These core beliefs are created from when we were children, when we were truly dependent and had no power. See The Child Persona to see why we made those up and to see why we no longer need to hold those absolutely untrue beliefs as being true. We made up these beliefs so that we would be better able to survive - but many of our beliefs do not actually produce a positive result, even if we "think" they serve us.
These are overall beliefs about yourself, at the core, that you carry around with you but which, as for most people, also do not serve you well.
RE-FORMING THESE BELIEFS
You can, without a great deal of difficulty, re-form (re-write) those to ones that will serve you well in life.
Re-forming and replacing those core beliefs allows one to more easily release those numerous supporting, disempowering beliefs that have been derived from each core belief - it is a lot like blowing up a large building, where the charges only have to be placed at the strategic supporting columns to have the whole building fall in on itself! A number of your beliefs are stacked up like a house of cards and will fold with just a little breath.
By dealing with the core beliefs, you can save yourself lots of time that could be wasted on dealing with each disempowering belief randomly and/or one at a time - which is one of the inefficiencies of most therapeutic approaches. Many beliefs are so overlapping or are just the same beliefs worded differently that we often find many beliefs falling by the wayside as a byproduct of going through the belief changing process with focus on a primary few beliefs.
READING AND WORKSHEETS (Also copied into the sidebar)
The Fears List - How we created "Derivative Fears" (aka derivative beliefs) and what to do to handle them.
Note that each of your fears are based on erroneous beliefs.
the core belief statements.