(Not completely written, but enough is here to capture this and not be a victim to it anymore!)
CONTENTS
The worth of an individual
Your self worth
And the trap of this all
How to solve this all
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DISCUSSION
I am not worthy is one of the four core beliefs for most human beings. Technically it is under the core belief "I am not good enough."
Why?
Because as I child we "had to be worthy", which was our primitive concept of what it took to be loved enough for us to be fed and sheltered and safe.
But do we have to be worthy in order to survive now, as an adult?
Of course not.
We can just take care of ourselves, without even needing the approval of others. We can simply go about the process of Loving Oneself, and have that be more than enough.
We do not have to be worthy in order to justify living, as we are living already. We're simply here and it has nothing to do with worth.
Tara Brach, in her book [top recommended] Radical Acceptance, says in The Truths In Life, paraphrased:
"I am worthy simply because I do exist." (If a baby is worthy when the baby
can only cry, take in food and liquids and excrete same, then how can we
after becoming much more useful and functional be any less worthy?)
In fact, I would propose that we are "more than worthy", from another point of view.
"No one in this world is worth one iota more or less than you are." And then one of the affirmations of reality is: "I am totally worthy and deserve to "feel good" mentally, physically and emotionally, for that is my birthright."
"I have no need to 'prove' myself since my very existence proves my innate worth and importance."
"Since I am not my actions, I cannot possibly 'prove my worth' by my actions. I am not 'bad' if I act 'bad'."
ANOTHER VIEW(ING)POINT
Tara Brach, in her book Radical Acceptance (highly recommended):
Cage statement: “I am flawed, not good enough, not worthy.”
Empowering truth statement: Those concepts simply contain no truth. I am powerful and able to create what I need. And that’s it.
Acceptance statement: We are all imperfect and that’s ok. That’s life. There’s nothing good or bad about it.
