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CONTENTS
When something is "wrong" now or in the future
A belief, not a reality
The underlying beliefs
The answers and affirmations
All is, on average, well, and as it should be
Coping at the moment
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WHEN SOMETHING IS “WRONG” NOW OR IN THE FUTURE
If we spend our attention on dreading how we might feel if and/or when something will happen, we get to experience “pain” now and our brain begins to shut its awareness down and mobilize us for danger, with our body chemicals adjusting for danger.
This is not good.
A BELIEF, NOT A REALITY
"Something is wrong" is a belief, not a reality, so we deal with it as we would deal with any belief.
We debunk it and replace it with a valid, true belief. To do that, we must understand where it came from so we can see that it is no longer true or that it was never actually true.
THE UNDERLYING BELIEFS:
I couldn't stand bad results.
I won't be able to handle it when it comes, because I am inadequate and worthless,
helpless, powerless.
It's terrible that I am so powerless.
THE ANSWERS AND AFFIRMATIONS
"I absolutely can handle whatever comes up. Some things I won't like, but that is just part of life. I will simply accept that the thing happened and that s**t happens, as we can't control all things. Then I will do what is necessary to create a good result for me." Read Fearlessness, to see how you can eliminate false fears and create happiness.
"If a storm is coming, as is inevitable, I cannot worry about it, fight it, try to change it, as I won't make any difference. Yes, I can prepare for it, so that I'll be more comfortable and lose less, but I can't prevent it. And after the storm, I'll clean up the mess as well as I can. All the while I will be happy that I am alive and that circumstances do not determine my happiness."
Life, in fact, is as good as it can be. Plenty of opportunities, mostly good people, lots of supply, a miraculous body and mind.
Yes, something will happen that I don't like, as there are so many things happening and some of them will not be favorable. But that's ok...
I can stand it...I'm still alive... others stand it, bad past good future w mitchell..
ALL IS, ON AVERAGE, WELL AND AS IT SHOULD BE
All that is critical in life for a foundation from which you can operate happily is:
1. Enough food. "I have enough food and I always will."
2. Sufficient shelter. "I have sufficient shelter. I don't need more. I can create happiness from this base."
3. The knowledge of how to make myself happy. "I am learning as fast as I can the knowledge and skills to be happy and see life how it is. As I progress, I will appreciate life more and more and I will see that 'all is well'."
My "transition" teacher, for my retirement, said many times: "All you need to have a good life is a job at McDonald's, a room, and a library to go to to get books to read." Of course, I didn't see it at the time, as I was still stuck in the paradigm of "more" (read how we create Suffering And Struggle). I see now that there is much to be grateful for and that Life Is Good.
I see that I have more than enough, that the world and life provide an incredible amount of opportunities and things that work well for me (including my miraculous body and incredible best-in-the-universe computer/brain) and that there is something I can do to harvest what I need. I am self-sufficient and I can create all that I need. I am happy. I am blessed, and, indeed, life is a miracle!
COPING, AT THE MOMENT
To handle this we need a quick, available response.
Hey, life is good.
This is your adult speaking. I will take care of you. Now, listen up. If there is no real physical threat and we do not need to run, we can stop and re-center ourself. There is no real threat!
I am not threatened in survival. I need not experience pain about something that hasn’t happened.
I will not tolerate this behavior. It is a waste. Let’s just sit down and solve it as best we can. We can be happy anyway. There is so much to be grateful for.
Mantra: Life is good. There is so much to be grateful for.
I can easily survive the worst that can happen, for I have a base of happiness that is not contingent upon having more!
I’ll just do my best and things will either turn out or not – and I’ll be ok either way….
So what if people don’t admire you or think you are a fool…
I am kind and compassionate with myself.
Notes for inclusion in next draft
There is very, very few things that are actually threatening to me. And those that are an actual threat occur so seldom that I need not ...no use as it has no effect... preventing a big storm... just know you'll respond, still ok even if paraplegic.
what is rational here? what is the truth?
what is to become of me....child
not ok unworthy, not good enough
worry
