All part of the "low" self-esteem syndrome
The need and process of "re-forming"
With regard to couples...
The preposterous idea: "Something is wrong with me. That shouldn't be. It's terrible. Woe is me!"
Wrong is defined as "not in accordance with an established standard; unsatisfactory."
Yes, "something" is wrong with you, in the context of this culture of right/wrong. And, yes, there are some inabilities you have, including the inability to be able to do everything and know everything. And, yes, there are some things you don't do well. And there are things you don't do as well as the average person.
It is impossible to be perfect, therefore it is ok to have limited knowledge and to be missing something or doing something wrongly.
In the first place, it doesn't matter that "something is wrong with you". All that matters is that you are capable somehow, through whatever "good or bad" means, of surviving reasonably well. And almost all of us are capable of that. The right/wrong, good/bad game is a useless fiction and no longer applicable to you.
If you apply the principles and learn what is in this site, you will be able to learn the skills of Happiness - and if you do that, I will guarantee that you'll be so happy that it won't even occur to you anymore to say that something is wrong with you!
ALL PART OF THE "LOW" SELF-ESTEEM SYNDROME
Of course, this belief is part of the foundation for low self-esteem, so you'll want to apply the steps in the Self-Esteem section.
THE NEED AND PROCESS OF "RE-FORMING"
If someone thinks that "something is wrong with me", then it is based on erroneous beliefs that one must replace with workable ones. Of course, the whole process would be done systematically as in the Beliefs section, and then they would be installed with Affirming/Empowering statements.
"I am human and therefore not superman!"
"I can only do that which my awareness allows me to. If I want more then I must increase my awareness. Basically, I am capable of getting to the higher levels of being human."
WITH REGARD TO COUPLES
There is a general rule here that is made up to avoid triggering a child reaction from another person. It is set up to cut off the possibility of another person interpreting that something is wrong with themselves, or thinking that "you are putting me down", "you are putting yourself in a superior position by trying to teach me (you aren’t my mother! [or father] Who do you think you are!)." But if two people are able to largely stay in their adult, that rule is no longer needed since what it is designed to protect against, no longer exists! The couples I have seen attain this level are “on fire” and moving forward at an exciting pace, very strongly supporting each other. (Of course the rule of “asking permission to give advice or inputs” applies and the couple in the latter instance has given blanket permission as they have learned not to overreact.)