There is no reality in "right/wrong" or "good/bad" judgments
What is "workability"?
Would you agree with these?
What is "good"?
How valid is it?
Removing the cage of self-judgment and anxiety
And being human means...
My operating formula from now on
THERE IS NO REALITY IN “RIGHT/WRONG” OR “GOOD/BAD” JUDGMENTS.
By "judgment" here I mean making judgments as to value and importance in a way that lacks tolerance, compassion and objectivity. This is the use related to being "pejorative", which means disparaging or derogatory. Objective means "independent of the mind, real or actual" and without bias or prejudice.
Put a check mark on each line where you agree:
___ Most of what is in the mind are "thoughts" about things and are not the
___ Therefore, what is in the mind can vary, even about the same thing.
___ People can think differently and feel differently that other people about
the same identicial thing, therefore what we think is strictly something
___ The only thing that exists is results (things that happen). (Existence means
something that is in the real world, not in the imagination or just the mind.)
WHAT IS "WORKABILITY"?
Definition: Working = Getting results that work for your benefit.
WOULD YOU AGREE?
Workability (or non-workability) is the only reality.
Something occurs --> We make up something about it, judge it, but...
___ Everybody does the best they can at the time given the current limits of
their awareness. This is a “mathematical certainty”, a truth.
___ Nobody is wrong or bad to do the best they can
___ Yes, they could do better if they knew better (were more aware)
___ They simply get a result (a "what is") and it works or not.
___ A judgment is something that is only a viewpoint created in the mind. It
doesn't exist in reality (out there), so it isn't actual (it's only a "made-up").
WHAT IS "GOOD"?
What is good? Compared to what?
Good is a value judgment comparing something to "bad".
And we made up the game of good and bad, first in order to distinguish "what works" and then we used the term to manipulate and control. As a child, you were dependent on another person for survival, so you shaped up (or tried to) whenever they said you were "bad", and we soon started to seek to be called "good."
Now that you are not a child, you are no longer controlled by "good" or "bad" labelling, nor do you need to use them, as you no longer seek to falsely control others.
HOW VALID IS IT?
There is no such thing as "good" or "bad", they are just "make-ups". They didn't exist before mankind existed and created them, so they're just fabrications.
[The criteria of "what works" has existed forever. Things just work or they don't work (to achieve the desired result).]
Back into the cultural trap, we notice that we're also dealing with a very low form of Einstein's Theory Of Relativity? Everything is relative.
We tend to compare ourselves to that which we think is "good enough" - which is usually something beyond where we are (or it wouldn't be a problem!).
Therefore, it is a set up for us to fall short and to be unhappy.
Barksdale had it right when he said that there is no good or bad and that "we simply our doing the best we can at the time given the limits of our awareness at that time. We are not the problem (as we are capable humans); it is the lack of awareness that is the problem. If we want to create more feel good in our lives, we simply need to add more awareness."
REMOVING THE CAGE OF SELF-JUDGMENT AND ANXIETY
In Tara Brach’s book, Radical Acceptance , she uses the term to “cage” oneself by putting up the artificial walls of self-judgment and anxiety. (See some of the “cage” statements in the appendix, with acceptance statement and empowering statements.)
Once one gets to the point of realizing that all self-judgments (right/wrong, good/bad, and I’m powerless to survive) and almost all threats are not real and are strictly fabricated as a childish way of “protecting” oneself from the concept of “non-survival,” there is nothing left to not accept.
AND BEING HUMAN MEANS...
And! Being human means…
That you will be human (amazingly enough)!
That just means that you are vulnerable to what affects humans:
Not knowing everything needed
Which means you will, at times,
Not meet some objectives (called by some “failure”)
Not do, occasionally, what was necessary for succeeding
Not keep some promises
But you best not make yourself wrong for it!
For, then, you lose your power
Do you make gravity wrong? Or is it just “what’s so”?
Well, in the same vein, being human is just a “what’s so”, and it is more than “ok” and – we can be happy about it!!!
So, remember that there is no real “right/wrong”, “good/bad”.
And, given that truth, when something occurs, we don't need to label it. We can simply say:
Observe "What is so?" (i.e. “what actually happened," free of stories)
Put it in relative perspective in life: “So what?”, and
Ask “Now what?!!” (and then just do what one can do!)
No fiddling around, no stories, just being responsible for creating what is wanted - and moving on quickly through life with alot more good results and alot less trauma or drama.
And you'll just live in a way where you will not make yourself wrong.
And if you don’t make yourself (or anybody else) wrong, you'll realize there is nothing to forgive and no reason to conjure up feeling guilt or shame.
MY OPERATING FORMULA FROM NOW ON
I will operate off of the formula discussed above, without throwing a story on it:
Something occurs --> "So what?" --> "What is so?" --> "Now what?"
___ I commit to doing my best to do that which works for creating
desired outcomes and for avoiding negative impacts on myself and
others. I am committed to “workability” as the key criterion for
life (and I hereby give up the labelling of right/wrong and good/bad as
Signed this ____ day of _____________________, ______