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When you realize that there is no approval that is needed, you will feel a great sense of freedom and probably relief, for you will be totally free to make your life what it can be. (You'll never have to be "nice" again, or rather "not nice" as a judgment; being nice is a thing put upon us to control us into doing the appropriate behavior, because we could not have understood it if someone said "it is best to do what is workable and it is workable to..." or "it will produce better results if you..."
When you realize that circumstances and people cannot be controlled and that outcomes are not known, then you'll free up all that energy and simply apply it to making the best of any outcome that occurs.
When you realize that all unhappiness occurs about being unhappy in another time - i.e. we make ourselves unhappy about unhappiness that isn't there - and give up the childish idea that being unhappy about the possibility of being unhappy in the future is not a viable strategy to prevent unhappiness in the future but only a perfect strategy for making oneself unhappy right now, then you can be happy. When you look at what is actually occurring right now, keeping your attention on the very right now, this instant, you will not see any unhappiness...
When you realize that when something uncomfortable or undesired (not preferred) happens, that you can still make yourself happy no matter what, then you will be fully in your power, fully in what is true, and fully capable of producing happiness - and knowing this, will give you a sense of underlying happiness, a sense that life is good, and even a sense that you are ok and blessed...
BEST SOURCES TO GO TO
Robin Sharma - Although he is oriented toward creating leaders and business success, his teachings are actually about life.
