WHO ARE YOU?
REALLY?


First, be clear about who you really are.  Most people have it wrong and it has a great, great cost to them.  (See also Who I Really Am main page.)

This is not a bunch of philosophical hoo-ha.  This is core, practical knowledge.





































In looking at this in perspective, the Pure YOU is capable of creating all the rest, as it is equipped to learn anything learnable and to think.  Of course, given that you have the ability to learn, you should learn better how to learn better and learn better how to think more effectively - which are the key core skills you must have if you are to make good decisions and create a happy life.  See The Essential, Core Life Skills Without Which There Is Little Personal Power Or Happiness.


REALITY ABOUT WHO YOU ARE AND
HOW TO ACHIEVE UNCONDITIONAL HAPPINESS


    PURE YOU          +         ADDITIONS AND OBSTACLES       =       THE WHOLE OF LIFE
(Complete and whole,                   (These are not you, but added items
high functioning unit)                that can cover up or hinder the real you)

You take on beliefs from various sources, but you can correct, change and remove what doesn't work.

If you concentrate on building the core self such that you have adequate skills to produce what you need, you need not be dependent on getting that from the outside.  The outside is only a bonus.
You do not waste energy on the lower payoffs of trying to control the outside non-effectors, such as getting approval.                                        

If you build the core and are not dependent on "out there", you will be able to create:

A GREAT LIFE, COMPLETE SELF ACCEPTANCE/LOVE/COMPASSION/HAPPINESS

Read The Core Of Your Life - Just Maintain This And Your Circumstances Will Not Matter and      
Doing The Build" For Greater Success In Life
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THE LAYERS, AND IMPACT:

The "layers" also represent actual degrees of control, diminishing as one goes further away from the core.  In other words, since there is greater control closer to the center, one will have a greater effect from exerting control on the center, and a smaller and smaller effect as one goes further from the center.  Trying to exert control where there is little actual control is largely ineffective - a poor use of your time and effort, plus it can be frustrating.  Spend your control efforts on the core and stop spending your effort for little or poor results. 

Efforts in the further out layers bear less and less fruit.  Accordingly, foolishness and ineffectiveness in life is the end result for people who seek happiness from other people and other things (those are only bonuses, the icing on the cake, but not the cake).  As you concentrate more of your control efforts closer to the center, your power and influence beyond that will increase, as suggested nicely in Stephen Covey's classic The Seven Habits Of Highly Effective People.  Read and know the key concepts:  Control.


FALSE IDENTIFICATION, "USING" A PERSONA

False identification with a created and/or voluntarily-used persona is harmful, as we set about protecting something we think is us, but isn't, so we waste effort and get no good results.  Sure, defending it may feel like it benefits us, but we are playing an unwinnable game, for there is nothing to defend, as there is no real threat to us (our core).  

Identifying with the young, defended, immature ego causes one to "come from" more of a victim position where the power is "out there".   In the victim position/persona, one is not choosing to be responsible for one's life but is hoping someone else will be.  Power, of course, is used only when we choose to be responsible, meaning we go into action to try to produce a desired result.  (Power = exerted force via an action to get a result.  We all have power if we choose it.  We don't have magical powers or the ability to never make mistakes, but we can "cause" results out there.  See Power

The signs of adopting the persona of being a child or victim are:

"Feel" (actually, think) you are powerless
"Feel" (actually, think) there is no hope (since you believe you are powerless you therefore believe you cannot do an action to produce a result)
Seeking rescue from others
      Others have the power and you are dependent on their actions to rescue you or make you happy
     You must have their approval (love, etc.) in order to feel good about yourself
"Feel" (actually, think) we are unworthy, not enough, not good enough
      We "compare" and try to be as good as others, in a fruitless unwinnable game 


THE CORRECT "PERSONA"

The correct persona, the one that works, is that of being the creator of your life, having the power to create results, though, of course, not perfectly.  You must protect yourself from actual physical harm so that you can still function, but need not feel a threat from anything else, for the real you, the core you, is still intact no matter what else occurs in life. 

My persona is that "I am the creator."  "I am he who has the ability to think and create due to having a brain that is capable of an incredibly high level of thinking that I am the lucky recipient of.  I need nothing more, for I can create create happiness no matter what.  I am completely free of made-up fears.  I am whole and complete."

None of us are inferior.  We are 99.9% the same, with variations due to how our lives unfolded and a little serendipity to the good or bad side.  We all have the necessary equipment to make life work for us.

Believing otherwise is strictly believing a false belief.

The Dalai Lama:  "Right now, at this very moment, we have a mind, which is all the basic equipment we need to achieve complete happiness."   (The higher thinking of the mind is the actual core self, the see-er, the experiencer as an "I", the creator of beliefs and thereby happiness itself.)
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See also:  Who I Am main page, for a similar discussion, but in greater depth.




YOUR TOTAL WORLD


Outer
Layer 2



































ALL AROUND US:  ENVIRONMENT, UPBRINGING
OTHER PEOPLE, GETTING LOVE FROM OTHER PEOPLE, OUR IMAGE = OURSELVES (erroneous)
ATTACHING HAPPINESS TO THINGS AND CIRCUMSTANCES (Unhappy when "lose" or think about losing)


Outer
Layer 1

















BELIEFS/CONCEPTS ACQUIRED (Remove the erroneous ones!)
      ABOUT REALITY
      ABOUT YOURSELF
      EXPECTATIONS (And standards, ideals, way it should be...) 
      STORIES, EXPLANATIONS, AND JUSTIFICATIONS 
HABITS BUILT (Beliefs in action, practiced, automatic - replace unworkable ones)
SKILLS DEVELOPMENT
     SKILLFUL MEANS IN PHYSICAL MATTERS ($, career, physical objects, etc.)
     SKILLFUL MEANS IN LIFE (Often not done well, not even close to mastery)
            LEARNING PROCESS (Especially how things actually work and how to work them)
            DECISION PROCESS
            PROBLEM SOLVING PROCESS
            CREATING (Planning, implementing, being effective...)
WAYS OF LIVING
    PRACTICES










Key central items are added that are "close" to you and are hard to distinguish from the core you. Creates a "You Plus", with these added in an expanded core:

VALUES
SPECIAL CORE PHILOSOPHIES
THE ACTUAL PURE YOU

Awareness
Huge thinking ability
Decider, Chooser Creater
Have: Hugely capable physical/brain support system