AGREEMENTS, COMMITMENTS, RULES (See also Planning, Visions, Goals. Keep these in
Written commitments and agreements are necessary for clarity and definiteness, plus they
serve as a reference reminder that enables one to get back on path.
The Most Vital Agreement
after, look at this and then commit, as it will be the basis for a successful
have a productive, good relationship
2 versions that are similar, the latter excludes the recognizing the way you have been
1) "Where I was at before and my actions" during the "difficulties" period of
2) For the future, the level I will operate at
3) My specific commitment to the relationship and my partner - includes
how I will treat my partner and specific commitments to doing whatever it
takes to create and maintain a loving, conscious relationship.
section about the "level I will operate at" in specific areas
psychological health to willingness vs. resistance and barriers, including how much
time you are willing to commit to the process.
essential that this agreement be executed so that you are committed to doing what
works and not delaying it.
understand that a relationship is based on meeting each other's needs, not on "love".
realize is true in relationships and responsibility, and what you commit to. A most
valuable exercise, one that can shortcut alot of counseling.
doing toxic spewing actions or not. This has a tremendous impact on relationships.