MY DECLARATION OF INDEPENDENCE
FROM THE TYRANNIES IN MY LIFE
When in the Course of my life, it becomes necessary for me to dissolve the bands which hold me back from fully living my life and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws Of Nature entitles me, a decent respect to the opinions of myself requires that I declare the causes which impel me to fully establish my own power.
I hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by nature with certain inalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness - that to secure these rights, I must so decide, that these cannot be infringed upon by others or even myself - that whenever any form of interaction becomes destructive of these ends. it is my Right to alter or abolish it, and to institute new ways of interacting and determining, laying a foundation on such principles and organizing my powers in such a way, as related to them shall seem most likely to further my Safety and Happiness.
Prudence, indeed, will dictate that rules and ways of being long established should not be changed for light and transient causes/reasons; and accordingly all experience hath shown, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which the set ways of being and running my life to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of damage and harm to myself, pursuing invariably the same Object and evidence a desire to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is my right, it is my duty, to throw off such shackles, and to provide new Guards for my future security. -- Such has been the patient sufferance of myself; and such is now the necessity which constrains myself to alter the former systems and ways of operating of my old self.
My history is a history of repeated injuries and usurpation of wiser paths, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute tyranny over myself. To prove this, let these Facts be submitted to a candid world.
I have refused, in that past, to choose that which is most wholesome and necessary for my good.
I have refused to re-work those rules and ways of being of which rework is of
immediate and pressing importance and when re-worked I have utterly neglected to attend to them.
I have refused to create other Laws and rules for the accommodation of myself, thereby giving up my rights and personal power, which refusal has me creating immeasurable harm to myself.
I have listened and given into others, asseding to them an authority or knowledge that I allow to overpower my own authority to choose with power and by gaining knowledge sufficient to decide well.
I have refused myself the power to make decisions that I have the right to make.
I have obstructed what is right through my ignorance and prejudices and through inaction and sloth.
I have quartered the enemy in my mind, giving it undue credibility and heedance.
I have taxed myself needlessly for false fears and resistances and inappropriate goals.
I have deprived myself of times for self care and of creating peace of mind out of ignorance and out of giving my power away to urgency and false importance and priorities of what I need to do in my life.
I have suspended my own good judgment and given in to its enemies - laziness of thought, assuming I have a lack of power, ignorance...
I have forgotten or put aside that which I decided to be the most important in my life, as well as putting aside my commitments to that which I decided would work better.
I have plundered my energy and my body, for short term but unworthy gain or avoidance.
I have done that which is totally unworthy of myself.
I have constrained myself, through false fears and false limitations, depriving myself of that which I can create for my well-being and satisfaction in life.
I have held myself captive to the uncertainty of unclear thinking and unclear commitment ...
In every stage of my self oppression, I have petitioned for living a freer, more powerful happier life, yet I have denied that to myself. I have been tyrannical to myself and that is a way of being that I refuse to continue.
I have failed to assert myself or warn others not to violate my rights and my space, but I now commit to protecting such.
It is now necessary to fully assert my rights and to insist that they be honored.
I, therefore, do, in the Name, and by Authority of myself, solemnly publish and declare, That I am absolved from all allegiance to old unworkable ways and do hereby dissolve all connection to them. And I do declare that I have full power to protect myself and assure my safety and security and to commit to doing that which I have a full right to do.
And for support of this Declaration, with a firm reliance on my own power, I pledge to myself and to the very parts of myself, my entire Fortune of energy and my sacred Honor.
This is, as some might notice, in the language (modified herein) of the United States Declaration Of Independence.
From this "adapted" personal declaration, I have gone through the process of discover what my dependencies are, which are harmful and non-mandatory, and decided what to no longer be dependent on. I have questioned the traditional assumptions and beliefs of the culture and of the normal human as we've evolved (based mostly on our world of 10,000 years ago, and needing updates and revisions).
Being dependent on anything that we do not have control over leaves us vulnerable to not getting what we want and/or need. While it is good to choose when to use interdependence (to work with others to create more than we could on our own), I have removed my belief of being dependent on other people and things and substituted my own power to fill the vacuum. Dependence can be a form of fear (or lead to it) and I choose to not allow such fear to continue in my life.
I recommend that you study dependence, using the materials on this site, for sure, and that you decide what and where you no longer need to be dependent. Start here: Dependency - "Giving Away Your Power".
Note that, in a way, this overlaps with no longer positioning oneself as being a victim of "out there" and becoming powerfully responsible for your own well-being instead of depending on people, circumstances, and the world taking care of you. It is not about cynicism nor about giving up social interactions and other things that have some benefit for us, but it is about no longer being the victim and overdepending on them, when they are not reliable sources!
Look at the linked piece and decide which, and to what extent, you will no longer be dependent upon to create the life and happiness you want!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!