THE OVERVIEW OF HOW TO ACHIEVE LIFE-EFFECTIVENESS
AND ENDURING DEEP HAPPINESS
CONTENTS OF THIS INTRODUCTION PAGE
The Big Question: How do we create a super quality life as quickly and effectively as possible?
What is in common among all truly successful people
We all have an incomplete life build-up (learning)
The opportunity to build it as you would have liked to
The place to start
You can choose a different order
The time taken will be more than replaced
The level you want to live life at: It's your choice
Further reading later, if you wish:
The outline of purpose and themes of this site
Choose whatever level and area you want
What is the process?
What is the purpose of life?
What is the purpose of learning/growth?
What is the necessary foundation?
What are the means?
Where do I get the time to do it?
A suggested order of steps
The key questions
The big question
In the piece below, as with any major introduction, it is generally more productive to read the piece straight through and then go back and link into the links within the text. Some will prefer to use the links in the text as they go, however. Your choice.
Whether you are a person where anxiety is a major part of your life or an already powerful person "out there", you can vastly improve your effectiveness and your experience of life (happiness, satisfaction) - by following along to discover what are the vital elements that make the biggest difference, so you can harvest them for rapid progress you can enjoy as you engage in it. A few shifts can drive big change!
A life without maximum wisdom and excellent management is a life wasted or only partially harvested.
See particularly the section, below, on What Is In Common Among All Truly Successful People, for it points out the "glue" that makes all the difference in life.
THE BIG QUESTION: HOW DO WE CREATE A SUPER QUALITY LIFE AS QUICKLY AND EFFECTIVELY AS POSSIBLE?
This is the question I asked myself in creating this site (and any supporting resources).
This site is a major part of the answer. The information is highly condensed so you can be knowledgeable enough to effectively implement what is needed but not have to spend alot of wasted time and energy digging it out from other sources. Also, the workability of the information and the resources have been screened and worked out for you.
Of course, there will be some work required in the designated areas of need, but the worth will be so great that the cost in time will be relatively minor. The ultimate product, a you with full life effectiveness and happiness, is beyond value, priceless, incredibly dear.
WHAT IS IN COMMON AMONG ALL TRULY SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE
In the Success section, we define success as getting what you want in life (and knowing what this is). It is not "being successful in one area of life" at the cost of other areas.
All truly successful people have, in Levels I and II, a particular way (or, rather, set of ways) of handling life, that are successful. This is a major objective of this site: to enable you to embrace and practice this set of ways to assure you will be successful in life.
Along the way, some barriers will come up that are based on misunderstandings that one accumulates over time. If they are not straightened out, they persist in thwarting one's success.
Using this set of ways, together with knocking off the most significant barriers, will guarantee one success in life regardless of any uncontrollable undesired outcomes along the way.
However, it is at Level III that we can turn around and create great Levels I and II for you. Levels I and II, however, provide the necessary ingredients/pieces to a good life (such as good health) but they are not sufficient to achieve a really great life - in terms of true happiness and satisfaction with life.
Level III is the glue that is necessary to really hold life together, to make it all more than worthwhile. It is the most important level to arrive at if you want to live a life beyond just a reasonably ok life.
Level III is about the "secret" understandings about life and how it all works - a melding of science, in a way, and of life philosophy, along with ultimate practicality. This is more of a place to see things from and to understand them, so that higher level choices are made. This place is a place of great perspective on and about life, where you're not just down "in it" (in the living of life) but able to see how it all relates, with no right/wrong, no blame, no faulting, but true appreciation and, indeed, mastery of life. (Of course, the is no "secret", as all the facts are very discoverable, as is the wisdom. People just haven't bothered to go "all the way" to understanding, so it remains "secret" in the sense that it is undiscovered by many.)
Part of Level III is composed of principles that will act as guides from which to make choices. Part of it is from "understanding", really "grokking" what life is about and how it all works. Both take some time to learn - and learning them as early as possible in life will help one to create a life of true happiness and satisfaction beyond mere skills, beyond the mere content, beyond smallness in life.
["Grokking" is a term meaning total deep understanding as if one is within the very object of the understanding...understanding beyond the "normal" levels of understanding.. The term originated in Stranger From A Strange Land, a beautiful tale of life from a "stranger"s point of view...]
This is a totally different understanding and perspective of and on life - this is the final piece in living the life you truly love and truly loving the life you live.
And there is a path that leads to that...
WE ALL HAVE AN INCOMPLETE LIFE BUILD-UP
Whether an accomplished, powerful leader or a gentle, caring helper or somewhere on the scales of personal or worldly effectiveness, you absolutely have not constructed your "life house" completely and with the integrous structure that will serve you at the highest. You are operating, needlessly, with barriers - the removal of which trumps the power of any strengths you have, in fact releasing your power to live a great life with grace, ease, and satisfaction at a level that you are likely to never have fully believed before.
You started life with a few instincts and then you acquired beliefs, rules, and strategies as you grew, with many of them untrue, dysfunctional, or otherwise less than optimal.
Then, you didn't have the time to go back and figure it all out. You didn't have time to structure it at the level you would if you had alot more knowledge, knew which resources to use, used reasoning, and constructed "on-purpose" what you really wanted.
You got really good at certain areas, acquired "strong suits", used "what worked" in the short term (but not long term), and cobbled together a reasonably good life - but you did it in a random, haphazard, catch-as-catch-can manner. You "grew like topsy" - quickly but awkwardly and not as you would have liked to.
But some will argue that they have constructed life as they wished and are certainly successful. A few could be close to being right, but this assertion will be belied by the evidence, which varies but can include: overweight, harmful habits, stress(!!!!), not enough success or too much success, anger/anxiety and other forms of lack of self emotion management, dulled to relationships or a relationship, and on and on.
THE OPPORTUNITY TO BUILD IT AS YOU WOULD HAVE LIKED TO
Since the foundation and structure of your life will determine your happiness and your effectiveness - and since no one has constructed it adequately or systematically - this is the very opportunity to do it right this time.
Yes, it will take time.
But, ironically, it will save more time than it takes. You'll have far less time wasted. And your time for all the future will be much more rewarding and much less (or virtually non-) stressful. You will be much happier in each unit of time.
And, you will receive the benefits as you go, a little at first, then it builds up to where you are ahead relatively soon.
It is my objective to help you make the most of your life. It is my intention to help you create a non-contingent happiness, not one based on your judgment of yourself nor on circumstances, achieving, gaining approval, or anything that one is not the master of. Establishing that solid foundation of non-contingent happiness allows us to be free of virtually all fears and unproductive emotional distractions - which will, in turn, allow you to have free flow of creativity and to have all of your energy freed up to achieve what matters most to you.
It is about creating life satisfaction and the life you love - and not wasting any of it on worry, anxiety, or doubt!
This is what life is about.
And we will marry to that the means to live an effective life, where you make excellent decisions and feel good about what you are doing. No matter where you are starting, high or low or in-between, you will become a "fully functioning person", living with balance and no real stress.
THE PLACE TO START
To achieve the objectives, we'll have to strengthen the "core you" first, though you'll vary on what you'll need to fill in.
Then we'll go out to the next layer, where you'll learn to use the effective techniques of managing life, including your psychological well-being at the top of the list.
Isn't your psychological well-being the most important thing in your life?
Once you've got that done, then we'll go out to relationships, then out to financial.
YOU CAN CHOOSE A DIFFERENT ORDER
Of course, some of you may choose a different order for this. It is not illogical to go through, starting from the inner core, and pick out key items you want to strengthen, skipping over some of the other items and the related reading. However, I urge you to go back later to tie down the rest of the key areas after you've done your top priority items.
Of course, we'll use outside resources where needed, but we hope here to tie things together and to have practical programs where you can go through an area without wasting time but where you sufficiently complete an area to be highly effective in that area - so you can live a better life right away, and then cumulatively, as you go through and get better at the pieces and as everything comes together into an integrated whole.
THE TIME TAKEN WILL BE MORE THAN REPLACED
THE LEVEL YOU WANT LIFE TO BE AT: IT'S YOUR CHOICE
The key idea here is to look at what one truly values and then to set up a means of aligning what one does in life with that, so one is highly motivated and excited about life - which is one great way to live life! It is a part of the key components of what creates happiness.
THE OUTLINE OF PURPOSE AND MAIN THEMES OF THIS SITE
PURPOSE OF LIFE: To be enduringly happy, unconditionally, independent of the circumstances of life.
PURPOSE OF THIS SITE:
1. To help one grow in the ability to appreciate and love your life more and more.
2. To build the tools to make that happen.
THE MAIN THEMES OF THIS SITE
REMOVING THE BARRIERS FIRST, so that it is no longer hard to move forward:
1. NON-UNDERSTANDING OF HOW THINGS WORK. (Your mind and
You get to run these for life, so knowing how to optimally make them work
makes total sense.
but which are untrue, eliminating blame and make-wrong.
Operating without 98% of your fears allows you to live into what you really
want - and without this source of unhappiness! Fearlessness is highly
ADDING IN THE MOST EFFECTIVE, EFFICIENT, INTELLIGENT MEANS of getting the results we want:
1. Create Right Thinking, reformulating beliefs so that they are effective and feel
good, plus create virtual fearlessness, by learning:
a. Systematically (not randomly!)
b. From experts (proper sources!)
and keeping calm, cool strength and happiness.
3. Resolve all key problems and barriers, eliminating impediments to living the best
a. Understand and rework all key belief systems to what works and is true.
b. Create a working philosophy of life that will have you being unstoppable and
very, very happy.
4. Planning (and “perspectivizing”) – Creating life effectively.
a. Stepping back and seeing the big overall perspective
b. Identifying what are the most impactful things we can do – and dropping the
We emphasize doing “doable” actions based on already formulated and thought-out means, rather than you having to figure out all things yourself (and spending time needlessly).
CHOOSE WHATEVER LEVEL AND AREA YOU WANT
Some us need cranialrectal surgery and others just need tweaking of our beliefs and methods, but all can create great forward progress. You may choose to do more work so that you will, per Zaffron and Logan, “achieve levels of performance in your life that occur as impossible to most people.” You may choose to fix a relationship or to enhance your moods, or any number of life areas – they are all on this site (or in the resources we send you to).
Right thinking uses the brain’s capacity to reason. It uses only reality (and “truth") and its criteria is only “workability” – i.e. does it work to get what we want or not? While it acknowledges all factors, including emotions, it never lets those factors govern, though its primary purpose is to assure long term "feel good". All decisions are well reasoned, based on facts as far as determinable. Without this you will be too impeded to make great progress in life. (Even if you don’t learn this totally, you’ll be benefited by it in specific areas you choose to partake of.)
Learning systematically means:
Not randomly as the need comes up or as it comes to consciousness
Not without plan.
"80-20 Living" actually is part of planning and perspective. It is specifically setting it up so that the top 20% of what is productive (and produces 80% of the results) is what is focused on and done. At least the bottom 40% of all activities will be dropped. Your “life effectiveness” will go through the roof. See www.live8020.com.
Note: At this point you might want to jump into the various pieces of the website, particularly looking at the items of particular interest or concern. (Don't forget to use the search engine, too!)
WHAT IS THE PROCESS?
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF LIFE?
Enduring, deep, non-condition-based happiness
WHAT IS THE PURPOSE OF LEARNING/GROWTH?
To attain more and more wisdom so that one grows in the ability to see, harvest and
appreciate what is good about life; this has life getting better and better as one
WHAT IS THE NECESSARY FOUNDATION?
WHAT ARE THE MEANS?
Life management strategies that put it all together, following an efficient, effective
Removal of ineffective beliefs and dysfunctional psychological thinking and
replacement with what works at a very high level.
WHERE DO I GET THE TIME TO DO IT?
You increase how well your life works, by the learning herein, so that you free up time that wasn't as "efficient".
You increase the "effectiveness" of what you do, so you get more results of higher value.
Everything is well-reasoned, soundly based and without "New Age" or wishful thinking viewpoints.
A SUGGESTED ORDER OF STEPS
Though this can be approached in any number of ways, I think this is the best way. Sometimes, the approach will start off more piecemeal, and then one comes back and completes these. It is not infrequent that people want to go in and get some quick benefits that "fill their tank", and then they often come back to this.
FIRST: DECIDING WHAT IS WANTED, DEFINING IT
Before we embark in attaining things in life, it is best to decide what it is we want and to define it well. Often we lean our ladder against the wrong wall and as we climb to the top, we decide this is not really getting us to what we really want. (See Planning , Dreams/Visions, )
So, we start first with the idea: Begin with the "end in mind" and then construct a way to get to it. The "how to attain it" is what else this site is about; a discussion of how to attain that follows this section.
In order to make this work, one needs to define and see clearly what the "end" is. Without a clear definition, we're bound to reach some other end that is not as desirable.
So we identify what a possible "end" might be - i.e. what actually makes us happy, what does a good relationship look like, etc. When we can "see" what it looks like, then we can actually attain it.
In order to construct a path from "here" to "there" (the end), one needs to know where "here" is. So, in each vital area and then its subareas, we have set forth an assessment mechanism.
Then we suggest the quickest and/or most effective path toward closing the gap. Obviously, learning (in the most effective way) and the willingness to learn are key here; assess what your willingness is. To help progress along the path, we provide summaries, screened resources, and more in-depth pieces for your use.
THE KEY QUESTIONS TO ASK TO GET WHAT WE WANT, AND THEN ANSWER:
What does it take to: (the links are to the relevant section; in each section there are assessments/tests to see where you are at)
Be a GREAT PARTNER? (Take the tests under relationships, which include
assessing each partner.)
IF YOU ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS, ASSESS WHERE YOU ARE, AND THEN USE THE PATH, YOU WILL CREATE A LIFE YOU TRULY LOVE, PERIOD!!!
AND, NOW, ONTO THE BIG QUESTION: HOW DO I ATTAIN 'IT'?
This is what this site is about: attaining the desired life in an easier, more effective, more direct way (without wasting time and going down less useful paths). But to go on this journey, it is essential that you answer, for yourself, "The Big Question".
(You can go ahead and use the site now if you wish. Simply just use the navigation bars, which lead logically to greater and greater detail or look at the Introduction To The Site to see:
Where and how to start
Is there a big payoff?
Can it be done efficiently?
How do I get what I want?