(Print this and take it.  Then track your scores as you progress in your learning using the Self Esteem Progress Graph sheet..)

This self-esteem evaluation measures your current level of Self-Esteem, your Self-Esteem Index (SEI), and serves as a gauge of your progress in achieving sound Self-Esteem.  It is important to clearly understand all statements and be completely honest in your scoring if you are to obtain a valid SEI.  It is essential that you answer these statements according to how you actually feel or behave, instead of how you think you “should” feel or behave.

Score Self-Esteem Statements:   Score as follows (each score shows how true OR the amount of time you believe that statement is true for YOU):

0 = not at all true for me; 1 = somewhat true OR true only part of the time; 2 = fairly true OR true about half of the time;  3 = mainly true OR true most of the time; 4 = true all the time

___ 1.  I don’t feel anyone else is better than I am.
___ 2.  I am free of shame, blame or guilt.
___ 3.  I am a happy, carefree person.
___ 4.  I have no need to prove I am as good or better than others.
___ 5.  I do not have a strong need for people’s attention and approval.
___ 6.  Losing does not upset me or make me feel “less than” others.
___ 7.  I feel warm and friendly toward myself.
___ 8.  I do not feel others are better than I am because they can do things
             better, have more money, or are more popular.
___ 9.  I am at ease with strangers and make friends easily.
___ 10.  I speak up for my own ideas, likes and dislikes.
___ 11.  I am not hurt by other’s opinions or attitudes.
___ 12.  I do not need praise to feel good about myself.
___ 13.  I feel good about others’ good luck and winning.
___ 14.  I do not find fault with my family, friends or others.
___ 15.  I do not feel I must always please others.
___ 16.  I am open and honest and not afraid of letting people see my real self.
___ 17.  I am friendly, thoughtful and generous towards others.
___ 18.  I do not blame others for my problems and mistakes.
___ 19.  I enjoy being alone with myself.
___ 20.  I accept compliments and gifts without feeling ashamed or “less than.”
___ 21.  I admit my mistakes and defeats without feeling ashamed or "less than."
___ 22.  I feel no need to defend what I think, say or do.
___ 23.  I do not need others to agree with me or tell me I’m right.
___ 24.  I do not brag about myself, what I have done, or what my family has or
___ 25.  I do not feel “put down” when criticized by my friends or others.

______ YOUR SELF-ESTEEM INDEX (sum of all scores)

To find your self-esteem index (SEI), simply add scores of all Self-Esteem Statements.  The possible range of your Self-Esteem is from 0 to 100.  Sound Self-Esteem is indicated by an SEI of 95 or more. Experience shows that any score under 90 is a disadvantage, a scores of 75 or less is a serious handicap, and an SEI of 50 or less indicates a really crippling lack of Self-Esteem.

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