WHAT CURES ANXIETY
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW TO NO LONGER BE ANXIOUS - Follow this
RELATED TOPICS - Read why they are related.
TESTS - Feedback and measures are the breakfast of champions.
MANAGING, MONITORING - The vehicle for making it all happen.
GOOD PRACTICES - Implement these to keep low anxiety in place!
However, in wise living, anxiety (and stress) should be very limited in life, to only the occasional situations (such as performances that matter) - each of your days should be virtually stress free and anxiety free. Anything less than being free of this is not acceptable, for the quality of life is more important than anything!
The "feeling" of anxiety is a sense of agitation, which further signals the brain to be on guard and even hyperreactively on guard. It is a feeling of being upset, off center, and not in charge (not powerful).
The keys to managing anxiety are: (We first do all the simple, easy to execute, very doable actions that make a very big difference and then we do what takes a bit more understanding and execution time, but also are very doable.)
1. Understanding the basics and function of anxiety and the basics of the mechanics of the body and mind (see Summary).
2. Implementing all of the very doable actions that reduce the causes of anxiety.
3. Implementing all of the very doable actions that reduce hypervigilance and hypersensitivity of the mind.
4. Implement a few basics very doable actions that provide relief of anxiety, in a healthy productive way.
5. We employ The Build strategy that creates a stronger psychological foundation, so that anxiety is stopped and/or not started in the first place.
Some of the strategies to better build of the psychological foundation :
1. Replacing (re-forming) self conversation about threats (deleting 99%, which are not real threats). (Have at least 10 definite true empowering sentences installed and available instantly - but jump off of some recommended ones.) 2. Developing a "knowing" that you can handle the essential life parts no matter what. ("Fearlessness") 4. Absolutely being sure to stay in high functioning balance (physically and psychologically), so that agitation signals are eliminated. Much of this is simple physical adjustments that can be easily implemented.
WHAT CURES ANXIETY
The unremarkable answer is to do the opposite of what causes it. So, let's look at those first.
Causes, causal chain → ANXIETY ← Lack of perspective, knowledge
THE CAUSES AND THE CURES
Causes - Fear beliefs are the cause
False ideas of what to fear - See the piece, and its related pieces: I Am Safe.
Contributors Habits contribute, as they can be "anxiety-continuing" and "anxiety
causing" (fear related)
Develop new habits a little bit at a time Hyperreactivity Repeated bad practices/habits create the hyperreactivity
Use practices that cause calm; eliminate/reduce bad practices
Lack of perspective, knowledge
Note that anxiety, depression, and fear are all from the same source, so, naturally, the solutions are similar. Understanding fear is, of course, the primary step to unraveling the whole complex of the habits you misuse and the untrue beliefs you operate from.
It is very, very difficult to operate when one has constant concern about being ok and safe enough, as the mind wants to fix the threat. The mind doesn't know it is a false threat, so somehow we have to get you to the point where you see that - and where you feel content with life and where you just go about harvesting it for all it is worth for you and for others.
Our objective here is to get rid of that constant concern and have you know that life can and will be handled so that things turn out more than ok overall.
Transforming one's whole life philosophy (viewpoint on life) is essential to creating ease and wisdom. Therefore, you would use the various life/philosophy trainings/workshops/seminars that we recommend to further your progress. (Where you really need to unravel severe anxiety and get down to the core of things you'd use the Hoffman Institute.) Your erroneous beliefs are what create anxiety, not external situational things (people, circumstances, if you have or don't have something, etc.). That is why converting to "right thinking" relieves one of an incredible amount of needless anxiety. You can rely on the fact that if you "feel bad", other than physical maladies, you are engaged in thinking a false belief - guaranteed!
The effects of anxiety on the quality of life are enormous - and very, very unnecessary. And it is virtually certain that your body and your health and longevity will be affected significantly. Correspondingly, the payoffs of finishing off your anxiety are huge - and well worth the effort, rather than an occasional dipping into ineffectual pieces of learning.
The function of this site is to give you the core of what works and to provide the means to implement that. It could be helpful for you to read some of the recommended books. Read the Basic Readings, below, to give you the framework and foundation for understanding and solving anxiety and what underlies it.
DISCUSSION, CONTINUING, continuing, into more depth.
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW TO NO LONGER BE ANXIOUS
These are basic readings that you'll need to know in order to correct your erroneous belief. There is no way around this, as there is no "instant panacea". People look for the quick cure, but they succeed in only being a dilettante about it, but never actually doing the completion necessary to achieve the desired result! (Read Completion in the also helpful Power In Life section.)
If you want to jump to the core reading, see "I Am Safe", below.
Anxiety Process - Differentiating with regard to what negative living looks like versus positive living. Get clear on why you are creating anxiety and the alternative ways to think and act. The Experience Of Life - Thru Filters - The source of your experience of life is either fear or "love" (actually positivity, progressiveness, etc.). It is one or the other; it can't be both at the same time. By recognizing and controlling those sources, the quality of your life will improve dramatically. Something's Wrong - Read this to identify and handle that underlying, ever-present "fear" that something is wrong (here or with me). Victimhood - A viewpoint that creates the greatest degree of anxiety and lack of self-confidence, which is a (or "the") source of anxiety.
our great capability and encourages us to live a "large" life. This piece is one of the pieces
you might want to read fairly often, so you might insert it into a notebook, such as the ones
Coping Statements - Vital as a part of your conversation AND as an integral part of your
philosophy. These are "thought statements" that generalize about life, which are brought
into mind readily and frequently when things happen. They can be disempowering (identify
yours) or empowering. Examples of coping statements are provided to choose from or jump
CREATING A BASE OF SAFETY - Do this and you'll offset alot of the unreasonable and useless "danger" signals - and it'll help rewire the brain to do alot of this automatically!
GRATITUDE - When learned, this is the antidote to fear, worry, anxiety, depression, etc. A key understanding and a key skill. PEACE OF MIND - Teach yourself how to have it. Leads also to Meditation section. PROBLEM SOLVING - Helps prevent undesired or feared outcomes, plus it helps on making better decisions, for a much better run life! And alot more confidence! MOOD MANAGEMENT - Manage "moods", of which you might say even that "worry" is a mood, that lower your vitality and make you needlessly more susceptible to worry and stress WORRY, ANXIETY'S KISSING COUSIN - Reduce this substantially, getting rid of the useless and doing something more useful with the time and energy.
handle fears and emotions?
decide what you are committed to enhancing in life.
you need to commit to every day and the level of rest and relaxation needed to have
less anxiety and/or stress.
rating for the day and the practices and habits for the day. Valuable "feedback"
Click on the link above and implement these!
RESOURCES, BOOKS - See related books under Psychology Resources. See Amazon link at top, to help pay for this site and for scholarships. BARKSDALE MATERIALS - The road to being anxiety-free is through "straight thinking" or what is called "right thinking" by the Buddhists and "reality thinking" by others. These materials are key, in my opinion, to getting rid of alot of the causes of anxiety.
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated, David Burns - The update of one of the most successful handbooks ever published.
How To Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You, Albert Ellis, Ph. D. - Really clear and really definite.
The Pursuit Of Perfect, Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph. D. - From the instructor of the largest class ever at Harvard, on happiness, helps get one out of the trap of the set up for unhappiness and anxiety: seeking perfection. He gives us practical methods of being "optimal" within a range that works for us.
Depressed and Anxious, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Workbook for Overcoming Depression & Anxiety, Thomas Marra, Ph. D. - Depression and anxiety are kissing cousins, to be solved with a similar approach.
On specific types of anxiety:
Overcoming Social Anxiety And Shyness, Gillian Butler - Using the effective cognitive behavior approach, this guide should help you to get rid of 80% or more of that type of anxiety, IF you practice it!
SITES - Note their recommendations for resources, also.
Anxiety Network: From Generalized Anxiety Disorder through to Social Anxiety and Panic.