THE FEAR/ANXIETY MANAGEMENT PROGRAM
TEST, THEN LEARN AND BUILD FEARLESSNESS
(F) = a form
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Fear, and its strangely vague cousin anxiety, is a big thing. It runs people's lives. To solve, dissolve, or deal with what remains, you must understand the basis for it, so you can unravel the pieces in the process - and produce fearlessness, other than the instinctual ones that soon pass once we have done what is necessary. 99% of your fears can be disappeared! (The zebra runs from the tiger. Then it's over. The fear is no longer active. And he grazes calmly...)
Suggested Procedure:
1. Take the tests - to see where you are (and to get some perspective)
2. To scan through the Grounding Summary Modules, in the sidebar, for perspective on life and its pieces. Warning: This is in outline form, so you'll have to accept it as just an overview of key items to understand, going into detail as needed by linking into sections.
3. Read The Key Pieces To Read First (below), for overall understanding and perspective.
4. Select "Per Interest" pieces, below, you want to read
5. See the "Fears Lists", to start your exercise of addressing fears.
6. Read the Fearlessness pieces, below, to capture the idea, though we'll add more depth later.
7. Then it is useful to use the forms in Managing, Monitoring, as part of your management process.
8. Next, you must be able to do Problem Solving, so that you don't let unresolved problems hang around to weigh on you.
9. And then some readings on stress and worry.
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TEST, FIRST
handle fears and emotions?
(F) Rating of My Viewpoint of Life - A simple rating system to see where you are and to decide what you are committed to enhancing in life.
After reading the key pieces, use the Fears List - Identifying Your Fears And What To Do To Handle Them form. This represent a "goals list" as you identify and prioritize your biggest fears and follow the paths to eradicating them AFTER you've done the basic grounding in fear management (so that you know more of what you're doing!).
FOLLOW THIS PROGRAM (Be as thorough as you can, go as deep as you need to to develop these fully. Do not, at all, take the losing process of stopping short. Pretend as if this is a masters course in life, one that you'll want to excel in!
Note also that this is somewhat duplicative, of course, of the Program For Managing And Mastering Emotion Management, which you also should do, perhaps first, but in whichever order you prefer.)
Fear, Anxiety, And Worry - Determining The Quality Of Life - The main intro and overview piece.
Threats And Fear Differentiating As To What Is A Legitimate (Real) Threat- Just reading this can assist you in getting rid of fears, but also it is a good idea to use the "Fears List" process below.
The Reality Reading Sequence - If one knows what reality is, one has a much better ability to spot the falseness of threats, and thus fear.
Controlling The Emotions In The Body - Simple And Quick - About how the body reacts from our pre-conscious emotions - and what we cannot do (that, unfortunately, many people try to do or believe they can do) and what we actually can do, simply and very doably - so you can actually do what works!
The Experience Of Life - Thru Filters - The source of your experience of life is either fear or "love" (actually positivity, progressiveness, etc.). It is one or the other; it can't be both at the same time. By recognizing and controlling those sources, the quality of your life will improve dramatically.
Your Choice - A Life Of Adaptation To Fears Or Be Free of Fears - Solve this sooner rather than later! The quality of your life is at stake!
Eliminate the faux fears:
Implement:
The Certainty Generators - Eliminating Uncertainty, Dramatically Reducing Anxiety- This is a much, much bigger deal than it appears to be. Once you begin, and go one step at a time, you will experience life different and with a more solid foundation based on the principle of The Build. Particularly notice the "Positives Portfolio" and what to learn to be more "life skillful".
The Belief Changing Process - All faux fears are based on incorrect beliefs that need to be corrected, replaced and installed. We will apply this to our fears list one at a time, but some will automatically disappear as their basis falls apart.
What Is Reality? Read the series, as when you learn what is reality and how
things actually work, then beliefs based on irreality will be blown out of the
water!
The Believing Brain - Get rid of the assumed "truths" and the nonsense...
The Fears List - Identifying Your Fears And What To Do To Handle Them - Since these are based on beliefs, you will also look at the list of specific beliefs and the solutions for them in the Beliefs And Thoughts Directory.
Managing: (F) Handling Fear, Including Form For Handling The Fear
See the forms under Managing And Monitoring, below or in the sidebar.
The process of systematically doing the fears list clearing will reduce and clean out the fears but full elimination of certain ones will only happen if you shore up your actual Life Capabilities. So, that is the next stage - and a wonderful stage to experience.
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READ PER INTEREST
(Use this to "fill some of the gaps", but your primary strategy must be the systematic following of the program, which will help you to do one of the key principles in life, to do "The Build".)
About Fear - How It's Created and Disappeared - This is a quick summary overview in
semi-outline form for quick review. It is essential to understand this from this perspective.
Anxiety and Worry - Forms To Fill Out When In Them
Anxiety Process - Differentiating with regard to what negative living looks like versus
positive living. Get clear on why you are creating anxiety.
Choosing What To Control and Not Control - It is vital for good psychological health to
be clear on those things you can control and what you can't. Finish this here and now.
Criticism - Desensitizing Yourself To It - You can learn to have this simply be neutral - but it takes a good perspective and understanding.
from The Intelligences, Life Management)
(F) My Failures And Ruins - The Worksheet - Handling and "finishing" any attachment or
thoughts about past failures is essential. And in this process we convert those thoughts to something more realistic and/or compassionate statement.
Something's Wrong - Read this to identify and handle that underlying, ever-present
"fear" that something is wrong (here or with me).
FEARS LISTS
(F) FEARS LIST - IDENTIFYING YOUR FEARS AND WHAT TO DO TO HANDLE THEM - Explains the basic and the derivative fears and the not so real ones, then you use the lists to identify yours, and then there is a program for "handling" them - mastering this will change your life dramatically.
Emotional Discomfort and
The specific emotions list in the right column of the
Something's Wrong - Read this to identify and handle that underlying, ever-present
"fear" that something is wrong (here or with me).
Fears - Specific Ones Or Types
Fear Of Being Engulfed Or Controlled - Handling It - Two key fears that affect what we do in relationships.
READ THE FEARLESSNESS PIECES
FEARLESSNESS - Click to the left to go to this new section.
Fearlessness - My Basic Statement - A short six sentence summary of a realization by a
Fearlessness course attendee (see www.option.org).
Fearlessness - Proclamation Of Emancipation From Fear - Writings, largely unedited, from a busy mind at 4 a.m. Wednesday of a full week Fearlessness course (option.org), in which the author realizes that there is no usefulness to fear and that there is actually nothing to lose and nothing that isn't workable for creating happiness from. See Option.org for the workshop or CD on this.
MANAGING, MONITORING
(F) Daily Pre-Flight and Pre-Hangar Checklist - A small checklist, like a pilot's, on what you need to commit to every day and the level of rest and relaxation needed to have less anxiety and/or stress.
(F) Daily Monitoring For The Month - Anxiety/Stress Level - A sheet to track the anxiety rating for the day and the practices and habits for the day. Valuable "feedback" technique.
PROBLEM SOLVING - Review and understand how to do Problem Solving and to make Effective Decisions. Click on that link to go to the full section on this. An example:
(F) Problem/GoalSetting/Breakthrough Form - Most people do not understand that a problem is not really a problem at all. Seeing it more neutrally and then reconnoitering to see what is actually wanted can created some real breakthroughs.
STRESS
See the Stress Management section main page.
(F) Daily Pre-Flight and Pre-Hangar Checklist - A small checklist, like a pilot's, on what you need to commit to every day and the level of rest and relaxation needed to have less anxiety and/or stress.
WORRY: Go to the main page on Worry, which has much more on it, that you can use to be happier.
RELATED TOPICS TO READ UP ON
Subtypes Of Fear:
ANXIETY - Specifically narrow to this mode of fear, covering from social anxiety
to panic control.
WORRY - Reduce this substantially, getting rid of the useless and doing
something more useful with the time and energy.
Related Topics:
PROBLEM SOLVING - Helps prevent undesired or feared outcomes, plus it
helps on making better decisions, for a much better run life!
CREATING A BASE OF SAFETY - Do this and you'll offset alot of the
unreasonable and useless "danger" signals - and it'll help rewire the brain to do
alot of this automatically!
MOOD MANAGEMENT - Manage "moods", of which you might say even that
"worry" is a mood, that lower your vitality and make you needlessly more
susceptible to worry and stress
Monitoring, Some forms for
(F) Daily Pre-Flight and Pre-Hangar Checklist - A small checklist, like a pilot's, on what you need to commit to every day and the level of rest and relaxation needed to have less anxiety and/or stress.
(F) Daily Monitoring For The Month - Anxiety/Stress Level - A sheet to track the anxiety rating for the day and the practices and habits for the day. Valuable "feedback" technique.
There is no Santa Claus
Sorry, but...
You will have to go through all the steps, so you'll be sure to win. Losing is created by always "stopping short" or taking shortcuts - or the "not having enough time" myth, as you can't afford not to spend the time!!!!!!
There are no "instant affirmation cures."
The fear solutions
The Fear Solutions - Strategies And Doable Steps - Lists and links to a comprehensive set ot doable exercises to do in "first draft" chunks to set up a new basis for life!
Reference or research
Fear Section Contents & Links - Overall, see for perspective and to choose pieces to read.
FOR PERSPECTIVE
These, following, "Grounding Summary Modules" are in a strange format, designed for quick scanning and learning of the key essentials and overviews of life. They are unusual "key point" summaries, as if in PowerPoint:
Underlying Basics Of Life - Part I - Psychological "learning", barrier elimination
Underlying Basics Of Life - Part II - Creating a much more powerful way of thinking and living
